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I'm talking about #2 on chases article here:
https://www.girlschase.com/content/how-g ... riend-back
I have pasted the relevant section below. Essentially I just wanted to air my thoughts almost 2 years on of not having had much contact with the ex in question.
1 - I think I've handled this well - this is not the issue.
2 - This is tough - I can get many girls individually out on dates (and have closed plenty) but hanging out with a group of hot girls and then making sure pictures are taken and then uploaded by them is quite difficult. Added to that she blocked me during the breakup (even though we hooked up a few times after that) so its all indirect through her friends anyway.
3 - I have changed enough to be "new" but bringing this across without artificially constructing a meeting (for instance going to the university union etc) is not easy and doing that with other people is even more difficult...
So Just to give you an insight into what its like actually implementing this - not only difficult but there are some obstacles which seem impossible to overcome....... any input would be appreciated - on we go....
Get your fundamentals handled. Same thing you'll see everywhere else on this site: movement speed, posture, body language, walk, eye contact, facial expressions, facial hair, fashion, effort expenditure. General sexiness, a sexy vibe, and your "x-factor." Be smooth, be edgy, acquire some Byronic vulnerabilities and flaws, and create sexual tension. Become the man she dreamed about meeting when she left you. Will this take time? Yes. Is it necessary for getting her back in anything other than full-on stage 3 reflection (which she may never reach if another man scoops her up first)? Yes. The sooner you start turning yourself into the man she wants, the sooner you can be the man she wants - and get her back.
Get preselection. She left because she doesn't think you're all that desirable or stimulating. But women are social creatures, and they care very much about the opinions of others... and as soon as she sees you with attractive new women, she'll start wondering if perhaps she was wrong. This one's incredibly important - you don't want to rub it in her face, but rather find ways for her to notice it completely on her own - you've just moved on, and beautiful women want you and are with you... and she's obviously passed up on something every other girl wants. Whoops. If you're on social media (e.g., Facebook), this is one of the times that medium comes in handy... suddenly pictures of you with beautiful women are going up, and she just can't help cyber stalking you, wondering who those girls are, and what their relation to you is.
Let her see you as a new man. Whenever you find yourself in front of her or around her (assuming you have some social circle ties to her), you must let her see you as completely different from how she knew you before - the opposite, in many ways. Take anything she may have seen as "weak" about you and reverse it. If she was bored with you, constantly be doing exciting new things and pushing your boundaries (e.g., taking surfing / snowboarding / martial arts / skydiving / etc. lessons). If she thought you were too clingy, be completely nonchalant around her and don't care what she's doing or thinking or saying - not in a dismissive way, just in a polite, "Oh, that's nice," kind of way. You want her to see that you've reinvented yourself - and that she misjudged you the first time around.
Be aloof and seem not to need her or care. Building on that last, you cannot chase! Your instinct may be to crawl on your knees, plead, and beg, but you will not get her back that way. Chances are, you were too clingy the first time around... it's a part of why she left in the first place. You don't get her back by giving her more of the same - you must communicate that things have changed with you.
https://www.girlschase.com/content/how-g ... riend-back
I have pasted the relevant section below. Essentially I just wanted to air my thoughts almost 2 years on of not having had much contact with the ex in question.
1 - I think I've handled this well - this is not the issue.
2 - This is tough - I can get many girls individually out on dates (and have closed plenty) but hanging out with a group of hot girls and then making sure pictures are taken and then uploaded by them is quite difficult. Added to that she blocked me during the breakup (even though we hooked up a few times after that) so its all indirect through her friends anyway.
3 - I have changed enough to be "new" but bringing this across without artificially constructing a meeting (for instance going to the university union etc) is not easy and doing that with other people is even more difficult...
So Just to give you an insight into what its like actually implementing this - not only difficult but there are some obstacles which seem impossible to overcome....... any input would be appreciated - on we go....
Get your fundamentals handled. Same thing you'll see everywhere else on this site: movement speed, posture, body language, walk, eye contact, facial expressions, facial hair, fashion, effort expenditure. General sexiness, a sexy vibe, and your "x-factor." Be smooth, be edgy, acquire some Byronic vulnerabilities and flaws, and create sexual tension. Become the man she dreamed about meeting when she left you. Will this take time? Yes. Is it necessary for getting her back in anything other than full-on stage 3 reflection (which she may never reach if another man scoops her up first)? Yes. The sooner you start turning yourself into the man she wants, the sooner you can be the man she wants - and get her back.
Get preselection. She left because she doesn't think you're all that desirable or stimulating. But women are social creatures, and they care very much about the opinions of others... and as soon as she sees you with attractive new women, she'll start wondering if perhaps she was wrong. This one's incredibly important - you don't want to rub it in her face, but rather find ways for her to notice it completely on her own - you've just moved on, and beautiful women want you and are with you... and she's obviously passed up on something every other girl wants. Whoops. If you're on social media (e.g., Facebook), this is one of the times that medium comes in handy... suddenly pictures of you with beautiful women are going up, and she just can't help cyber stalking you, wondering who those girls are, and what their relation to you is.
Let her see you as a new man. Whenever you find yourself in front of her or around her (assuming you have some social circle ties to her), you must let her see you as completely different from how she knew you before - the opposite, in many ways. Take anything she may have seen as "weak" about you and reverse it. If she was bored with you, constantly be doing exciting new things and pushing your boundaries (e.g., taking surfing / snowboarding / martial arts / skydiving / etc. lessons). If she thought you were too clingy, be completely nonchalant around her and don't care what she's doing or thinking or saying - not in a dismissive way, just in a polite, "Oh, that's nice," kind of way. You want her to see that you've reinvented yourself - and that she misjudged you the first time around.
Be aloof and seem not to need her or care. Building on that last, you cannot chase! Your instinct may be to crawl on your knees, plead, and beg, but you will not get her back that way. Chances are, you were too clingy the first time around... it's a part of why she left in the first place. You don't get her back by giving her more of the same - you must communicate that things have changed with you.
