How to get massive sex adrenaline rush again

[killerman]

Ok, so I've had this problem for years now of struggling to be able to cum during sex. The last year things have got better since I managed to cum while fucking 2 girls in the last year, 1 with condom on and the other totally bare. Both times I had quit porn and jerking off for at least 2 weeks, so I know I'm on the right track. However I remember what it was like when I used to fuck girls before I started jerking off and watching porn years ago, and at the time I'd get MASSIVE adrenaline rush in the build up to sex whilst taking off clothes and foreplay. You know, when your hands are shaking, your heart is beating like crazy and you feel REALLY horny. Like you're just desperate to put it in there and start fucking her crazy. Thing i'm worried about is that since I watched porn for so long and jerked off so hard and so often, I'm worried I wont experience the same sensations again, like I've worn myself out.

However I do have a high sex drive, my approaches are crazy and I havent watched porn or jerked off in a week and determined not to start again. Last year, I went 90 days not watching porn or wanking, but unfortunately it was during one of my sex dry spells when i didnt get laid in 4 months so I didnt get to experience sex in the 90 day period of no wanking, no porn. However that was before the period I started cold approaching so I'd most likely have gotten laid if I'd taken more action. So the question is, do you guys think the sensations of crazy adrenaline rush will return eventually or not? And if the answer is yes how long do you think it might take? 3 months? 6 months? Provided I dont go back to porn and masturbation obviously. I have no problems getting erections, it's just failure to get orgasms and cum during sex unless I've gone 2 weeks without wanking and porn. Also when I managed to cum inside those 2 girls last year although I did manage to cum, the adrenaline rush and pleasure of sex wasnt what it used to be years ago.

Also what else do you recommend I do to increase my sex drive and adrenaline rush during sex? In addition to not jerking off or watching porn anymore I also work out 6 days a week, eat healthy and sleep well.

 

[mb1]

Given that you're working out 6 days a week I am assuming it's the type of program with each body part on its day with a high rep range such as 8-12? Give heavy sets of 5 a try on a program focused on sauats and deadlifting. It makes a serious difference in testosterone.

 

[killerman]

Yes, i'm doing each day 2 different muscle groups. Sets of 5? Would I still be able to build muscle mass that way? As I've heard if you want to build muscle it has to be in the 8-12 rep range, or you have to do a minimum of 6 reps. Would reps of 5 still build ripped muscle? as I'm going for muscle more than strength.

 

[ray_zorse]

IMO it comes down to 3 main factors, (1) how hot is the girl and is she your physical type and did you build a good connection, (2) the novelty factor, is it your first time(s) out with her when you are still discovering each other's bodies, trying new things, (3) your level of horniness, how long since you got off, your testosterone level, your mood, state of wakefulness etc. I believe that if all these boxes can be checked and you are ALSO having the problems you describe then the issue is basically mental e.g. you are self sabotaging by rehearsing failure or you have confidence issues or performance anxiety or you are a prisoner of your thought stream i.e. unable to let go of your thoughts and relax and be present in the moment. At least these are the main issues I have experienced. The best solution is simply lots of practice and an abundance mindset, which makes you less anxious during sex because you know if things don't go well you can easily try again with a different partner in a short space of time. Having said that, it is still possible to develop bad mental habits which solve a problem but impede your progress later. For instance I also find it hard to cum, but this is partly because I rely a lot on fantasy as a tactic of mental control (gives me something to concentrate on to prevent me getting anxious or rehearsing failure) but as a result I am still somewhat of a prisoner of my thought stream, I have to let my fantasy develop and explore different scenarios in my mind until I find one that gets me off. This isn't such an issue when my points 1,2,3 above apply as it often "just works" I suppose.
Ray

 

[killerman]

Yeah that makes sense. Funny thing is though, when I was able to cum easily, 7, 8 years ago, I was definitely much worse in bed and my skills are much better now (eg being able to make girls squirt) so it's likely not to be a confidence issue (at least conciously, it may be a subconcious lack of confidence). But yeah, watching porn and masturbating often hasnt helped. If I have still have the same problems in a few months I'm going to see a therapist. Who do you recommend? Are sex therapists good? Or would it be better to see a psychologist or psychotherapist?

 

[lao che]

how old are you? it could be a factor


i'm just gonna throw a couple of things real quick.

*i'm not gonna tell you to not watch porn, but you know the effect it has. understand that the balance to your brain chemicals might get out whack, but with time it will reset.

* 6 days a week is a lot to work-out. really a lot. way too much imo. (overtraining could be a factor in your problems with your little fireman.)

* rep ranges. mb1 is correct. 8-12 reps is gonna increase your sarcoplasmic muscle. it's like the same tissue as when you're pumped. you look and feel kind of swollen and balloony.
lower reps at higher weights will increase the other kind of muscle (can't remember the name) but it's the good kind. the kind that is strong and hard to the touch.
this takes longer to grow but stays with you longer, too. sarcoplasmic muscle will fade more quickly when you're not working out.
reps of 3 - 5 at almost max weight are overall better for you - increased tendon strength, joint strength and muscle strength. greater hormone stimulation and better looking physique. you can superset with plyometrics e.g clap pushups. medicine ball slams, squat jumps etc.

stay away from cardio


that is all

 

[killerman]

Cool, cheers guys. As for the cardio, I make sure I do 10 mins of cardio when warming up and that's it. It's just to warm up. Should I drop it completely? I'm an ectomorph, with a naturally skinny build so that's why I do as little cardio as possible. What do you think?

 

[killerman]

I'm 29. But i've had this problem since 23. The thing I dont understand though is how does 5 sets of 5 reps build muscle? Because I've heard that in order to build muscle you have to do sets of 8-12 it kind of confuses me a little. Or are you saying that 5 sets of 5 reps does build muscle but only the muscles you were talking about? The strong ones that last longer?

 

[lao che]

i like dynamic stretches for warming up rather than cardio. just remember a basic rule - don't tire out your muscles before attempting to heavy lifts

the other stuff, i researched it a couple years ago but can't remember all the details. personally i focus on/suggest heavy lifts with large compound movements, movements which would be applicable in the real world (so no bicep curls or whatnot. i seriously never had to bicep-curl a heavy weight in real life, and tricep kickbacks ..... come on)

Give heavy sets of 5 a try on a program focused on sauats and deadlifting. It makes a serious difference in testosterone.

Would reps of 5 still build ripped muscle? as I'm going for muscle more than strength.

yes, if you just focused on squats and deadlifts you would get ripped for sure. even including your upper body.

Myofibrillar hypertrophy refers to the addition of muscle tissue, while sarcoplasmic hypertrophy relates to enhancing the size of your muscle cells by increasing the volume of sarcoplasmic fluid they can accommodate.

Myofibrillar hypertrophy (adding muscle mass) is what I believe to be the more important of the two types of muscle hypertrophy because it doesn’t just make your muscles look bigger and stronger, but actually does make them bigger and stronger.

source: http://www.rippedout.com/muscle-hypertrophy/



and here's a home workout i have used for a long time

https://boards.girlschase.com/viewtopic.php?f=46&t=8124

 

[lao che]

double post.

another double post. pls delete

 

[mb1]

Thanks LC - haven't been on here for a little.

Yeah heavy low sets still definitely puts on muscle. If it's too much of a change and you miss getting that temporary pumped up look/feel, you can try Jim Wendler's 5/3/1 program which focuses on strength with really heavy sets of 5, 3, and 1 as the main workout, then uses 5 sets of 10 as assistance lifts, still with compound barbell movements. Best of both worlds, but more of an advanced program for after building a strength base with a program like Starting Strength by Mark Rippetoe. It's good to be able to squat 1.5 times your body weight and dead lift 2x.

Try a google image search for 'lean powerlifter'. The lean part often comes from a phase of restricting calories and putting strength gains on hold, but they definitely train very heavy, often for single reps since that's how they compete.

Lifting like this increases the body's human growth hormone.