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How to get the balance of elusiveness without looking disinterested?

NeverStop

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Will having more time between dates to be more elusive have a negative affect and make a woman forget about you more?

If you don’t have another date arranged (after having a few great dates) and don’t talk for a few days will this make you more elusive or will she forget about you more and be more unresponsive when you eventually message her (if she doesn’t message you first?)

What are the best practical strategies to keep this balance when first dating ?
 

ramshead

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In my opinion shedule your first dates 10 days apart. Only text to schedule the date. And have a casual text after the date. And go silent. Until you want to schedule again and repeat the process. If she likes you she would text first and start investing in you. From experience girls will do this after 3rd or 4th date. Then you schedule a date when she text. Each girl is different but eventually they will see themselves as chasing and will think they like you more than you do. Eventually some will start to ask you if there needy since they have never been in that position since from there experience it’s the guys with no game who constantly text. Just keep a balance of her texting first and you. If you both like each other you could then shedule every 7 to 5 days. And add another day where you text her but don’t ask her out on that text conversation. In my opinion this process makes the girls think the relationship is growing. Be cool confident and sexual with them and you’ll look elusive but not disinterested
 
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NeverStop

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10 days apart is crazy, she's getting hit on by hundreds of guys and unless your first date was unbelievable and your a rockstar why would she (anyone?) bother waiting that long especially if you go completely silent for that long? Sure it makes you more elusive but thats too elusive, she's going to forget about you and get distracted by another guys if is she even mediocrely hot. How many women are you keeping on rotation to keep up every ten days?
 

ramshead

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I really don’t care if you take my advice or not. Based on your response I’m assuming this is the only girl you’re talking too. Aka oneitis. If you want to come of as needy and clingy by all means go ahead. Maybe you’ll get lucky. Regardless that’s why you have to sleep with a girl on the first date. She will still get hit on by men no matter what.

Do you want to be the needy guy or the mysterious guy. You will create the same reaction in her head he must be seeing other girls and it will create competition anxiety in her head. Which by your response I think you are in.

Go out with more girls I’m currently seeing 4 girls and not to mention the old ones who want booty calls. This means I’m going out with a different girl every other night. So 10 days is fine. Girls need time to figure out there emotions. You don’t your a high value male.

You are a seducer. She will tune in to this and her attraction for you will rise. While other guys text her she will be thinking what you are doing.
 

Rico

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Never stop.

You’re thinking to much about this girl. Do you want her as a lover or girlfriend? Either way you shouldn’t be to available to her that’s a big turn off. Try to go silent on her for a week I’m pretty sure she will text you to see if you’re ok. From your post I’m not sure if you have sleeped with her. If you have her emotions for you will be stronger than If you haven’t. Been silent will help you confirm if she’s into you or not. Don’t waste your time on some one who doesn’t care for you and find new girls who do.

Rams head has a good point. Make her think more about you than the other way around. She’ll be wondering why your not texting her and that’s a good thing
 
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