how to handle: you seem like a guy that gets with a lot of girls.

[WorkingOnIt]

I've been getting into game, going out on my own, yada yada yada. would say still beginner but looking at intdermetiate tactics now.


QUESTION:

Girls are now more and more saying around the 5-10 minute mark:

You seem like a guy that's good with girls OR you seem like a guy that gets with a lot of girls.

It's throwing me off, cause i haven't been that guy in the past and still dont feel like that guy right now. It's a feel good compliment knowing im progressing BUT:


- What are they asking?
- what meaning are they trying to convey?
- What test if any is this?
- what are they starting to think about in their head around this point in time?
- are they saying i want to be one of your girls on your notch count?
- Anyone have any good tactics to handle this question and move forward with isolating them and esclating?

I haven't laid a girl that asks this question yet, so there's something fundamental im not getting.

Thanks,

 

[Fuck This]

"Are you calling me/trying to say I'm attractive and charming? I'm flattered . Thank you"

Then you will find out what made her say that.

If she says you are smooth then you reply "Well you are just do easy to talk to, I really feel at ease."

If she says you are acting like a player then say "Why because I'm not nervous and stuttery around you? I HAVE talked to a girl before you know...."

Or say "Why do you prefer awkward guys who have trouble with basic conversation?"

 

[WorkingOnIt]

I see so just acknowledge and deflect in another direction as if it was any other question.


what are some things women are thinking about at this point when questions like this start coming up?

 

[naturalmikey]

i hate to tell you like this, as this will be my last post for sometime, but it’s a way of saying you have bad game or you try too hard. i’ve had so many girls tell me about guys they rejected for x, y, and z reasons. and they’ll say i’m sure it works on most girls. or he probably gets a lot of girls like that but it doesn’t work on me. it’s like girls have no clue what they or other girls respond to, they just no it didn’t work on them. it also indicates that to them you seem easy. so you probably sleep with a lot of girls because you probably do this a lot. try to seem more natural and create an it just happened mentality in her mind.

 

[WorkingOnIt]

Damn, well I’d rather hear the straight dope. Taking in the advice

 

[ulrich]

It’s a test.

There are tons of good answers for that one depending what you want to convey but what you don’t want to do is:
1) Bragging “Yes, I’m quite a ladies man”
2) Denying “No, not at all”

Both shoot your attainability to the extremes of the spectrum.

Whatever answer you can give that let her wondering is the answer.
- “Nah, I’m actually quite bad” (said with a ton of confidence)
- “Actually this is the first time I get past the hi. What should I do next?”
- “Oh girl, you have no idea” (sexy and misterious)
Etc...

 

[ulrich]

what are some things women are thinking about at this point when questions like this start coming up?

What she is thinking is pointless. There’s too many possibilities and it’s too early in the interaction to know for certain.

What she is doing, on the other hand, is very important. She is testing your frame, your value and your attainaibility in one single question.

She wants to see where you stand.