Socializing How To Have The College Experience If You Missed Out On It

[The Emerald Archer]

As for young people's expectations of the college experience, I see it as another form of impact bias, which I still find myself falling victim of despite knowing about it. Personally, I've never understood the nostalgia people look back at college with. For me I was excited about the freedom away from my parents to do whatever I wanted without their questioning/oversight whether that was drinking and partying or going to iHOP at 3:00 AM.

Hey Protean, sorry for the delay. Impact bias is a really fascinating one. It's mentioned a lot when it comes to happiness studies and research. For example, if someone is in a bad car accident and gets paralyzed they're happiness levels return to baseline within a relatively short period of time, or sometimes even spike for a year or so because the survivors see the situation as could have been much worse (like death).

As for freedom and being away from home, it's my theory that that's what 80-90% of the "college experience" is about: being on your own away from home for the first time. That's why kids party, experiment with substances and (try) to hook up. Because people behave much more conservatively around people that know them (like friends and family). So, when they're away from close friends/family, they're more free to indulge in these activities However, that can easily be replicated post-grad by moving to a cool city.

 

[rationalwayward]

I am still in university, but because my degree electrical engineering with minor in computer science (to learn programming )is is really difficult for me and I was very underprepared for this degree. Therefore study and gym are taking literally all of my waking time. So far I completely missed out on the college experience. It gets to the point that I don't girls giving me obvious iois and chasing me , because I have deadlines to meet. There is a part of me that feels a real fear of missing out on a great experience. It's great to read that college experience is something I am able to fully replicate later.

 

[Mr.Rob]

When I attended one of the biggest Universities in US for college I spent most of my time doing cold approach pickup and having experiences with cool friends who didnt even go to college.

It was just never something I cared much for. The college bars were my least favorite hangouts (who wants to hangout with a bunch of immature kids new to drinking and over protective frat guys that threaten to get all their bros to beat you up for hitting on the girl their too afraid to make a move on)?

My fav places were always lounges with a dress code that had the hottest girls in the city dressed to the nines. And the guys are all successful or cool ppl you want to be friends with.

Rather than looking to have the college experience Ive always just looked for the places that attract my type of people.

Once I get those people we can do any sort of epic adventure we desire.

College is not necessary for crazy epic experiences and a wild sex life.

You can manufacture it much cheaper on your own without the student debt.

 

[Indian Race Troll (IRT)]

It was about a little over a year ago when I was enjoying summer in NYC on a rooftop pool, great bar. Somehow one thing led to the next and I end up going home with this one taller skinny tanned brunette. We had a lot of fun in the shack but I found out that she was actually doing an internship in NYC for the summer. When I ask a bit more, I find that she was an Alpha Phi at Alabama, arguably one of the hottest and most infamous sororities in the entire country. People might know them as the one that went viral for a video that feminists whined about.

Comes to show you, for the right guys, it seems like the party never ends (at least not in our twenties). If you guys do not know, at least in America, summer in major cities is intern season. Oh man I wish I was not so stressed out and bogged down this summer to enjoy it.

While there are aspects of college I still miss having not had such as a huge crew to party with, life after has its avenues. I still do think of all the things college can offer, the number one which is hard to find in life afterwards is that young, lively, fun community. After college, people around your age just settle down and have kids, you can be the odd one out easily if you are single.

Deep down inside, I think everyone wants to belong and be a part of something. We all want that crew or that group, even the self-proclaimed alphas who diss social life want it. College offered that, you had a chance to be a part of something and get a life you can be proud of. After college, it is a lot tougher and for most, impossible.