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I text a girl: "are you back in town after your trip?"
she replies: "yeah"
Do I withdraw attention here?
she replies: "yeah"
Do I withdraw attention here?
How to interpret / reply to one-word responses
- Thread starter Dragonetti
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Lol I see no problem with that
If she's back,you should be setting the meetup/ date already
Unless you wanna be drawn into long-winded text conversations that do not go anywhere and open room for mistakes(or more of them)
Some girls will text you one word answers ...others will give you one word responses to questions you ask them in person.
Most are usually not interested while some are usually interested.Sorting out the uninterested ones from the interested ones comes down to compliance testing.
If she isn't complying to even the smallest of requests she is not worth your time.Cut your losses and meet more girls.
But compliance isn't enough...you should also pick up on her interest signals.The bigger the signs,the more interested she is.
Anyway shouldn't go off-track here...
Bottom line:Most of the time when girls text you one word answers in a row they are not interested especially if you are sending open-ended texts to them.
However in your case ,she is letting you know that she's back .And that's something good to go off of when you want to move the interaction forward.
Let her know why you are texting her then ask her out.
"Sounds good...we should grab that bite/drink we agreed on .What's your schedule like this week?"
Or
"We should catch up soon over a bite or drink" then when she agrees you ask her when she is free then set up the date.
Chad Tyrone
If she's back,you should be setting the meetup/ date already
Unless you wanna be drawn into long-winded text conversations that do not go anywhere and open room for mistakes(or more of them)
Some girls will text you one word answers ...others will give you one word responses to questions you ask them in person.
Most are usually not interested while some are usually interested.Sorting out the uninterested ones from the interested ones comes down to compliance testing.
If she isn't complying to even the smallest of requests she is not worth your time.Cut your losses and meet more girls.
But compliance isn't enough...you should also pick up on her interest signals.The bigger the signs,the more interested she is.
Anyway shouldn't go off-track here...
Bottom line:Most of the time when girls text you one word answers in a row they are not interested especially if you are sending open-ended texts to them.
However in your case ,she is letting you know that she's back .And that's something good to go off of when you want to move the interaction forward.
Let her know why you are texting her then ask her out.
"Sounds good...we should grab that bite/drink we agreed on .What's your schedule like this week?"
Or
"We should catch up soon over a bite or drink" then when she agrees you ask her when she is free then set up the date.
Chad Tyrone
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how did you want her to respond......soft close with "we should celebrate" to gauge reaction
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you asked a closed ended question. they're great for gathering specific information efficiently.
closed ended questions typically result in brief answers. they're like a multiple-choice question with a limited set of possible responses. it's either option A, option B, or sometimes, none of the above. this is one reason of why she responded like that
the answer could also be exasperated by any personal feelings she has in that moment [tiredness from the trip], and not necessarily related to you..or maybe she was about to say something more then got distracted.
another is that her answer could be related to how she feels about you given previous interactions. it seems she is matching you, and not offering up more emotional information, which would occur naturally if she is in a higher level of compliance. if this matching happened in person, within the context of a RAPID response conversation, would you withdraw attention on her equalness? me personally, id be more likely to ask for more friendly compliance. sweet, howd the trip go, did it meet anticipatory expectations, or maybe you went in having none? what was your favorite part? im curious!
and yet another, the sometimes slow response time of text leads to a lot of personal deliberation and increasing of whatever her emotions are you are deliberately or in-deliberately building BETWEEN answers, leaving texters at a risk of amplifying negative or positive shit in her. again, think towards how youd behave in a rapid conversation in-person to say the right thing in the context of an existing slower thread with girls of equal or higher compliance, then work towards balancing it against thread cutting if you find shes lower compliance with you [or if shes equal/higher compliance and want to ramp up her emotions quick quick] and the time between responses is slow, thus decreasing the possibility of negative amplification. for example, moving POLITELY slowly through the initial texts with a lower compliance girl, will cause you to lose her - skip ahead to a thread cut
closed ended questions typically result in brief answers. they're like a multiple-choice question with a limited set of possible responses. it's either option A, option B, or sometimes, none of the above. this is one reason of why she responded like that
the answer could also be exasperated by any personal feelings she has in that moment [tiredness from the trip], and not necessarily related to you..or maybe she was about to say something more then got distracted.
another is that her answer could be related to how she feels about you given previous interactions. it seems she is matching you, and not offering up more emotional information, which would occur naturally if she is in a higher level of compliance. if this matching happened in person, within the context of a RAPID response conversation, would you withdraw attention on her equalness? me personally, id be more likely to ask for more friendly compliance. sweet, howd the trip go, did it meet anticipatory expectations, or maybe you went in having none? what was your favorite part? im curious!
and yet another, the sometimes slow response time of text leads to a lot of personal deliberation and increasing of whatever her emotions are you are deliberately or in-deliberately building BETWEEN answers, leaving texters at a risk of amplifying negative or positive shit in her. again, think towards how youd behave in a rapid conversation in-person to say the right thing in the context of an existing slower thread with girls of equal or higher compliance, then work towards balancing it against thread cutting if you find shes lower compliance with you [or if shes equal/higher compliance and want to ramp up her emotions quick quick] and the time between responses is slow, thus decreasing the possibility of negative amplification. for example, moving POLITELY slowly through the initial texts with a lower compliance girl, will cause you to lose her - skip ahead to a thread cut
