How to keep this casual?

[PrettyDecent]

Hey y'all,

Recently I met a waitress at a restaurant who was just freaking adorable, and the interaction was very solid. Pulled a number, but, I'm having trouble figuring out how to keep this casual (no LTR right now, thank you). In our (brief) conversation, she asked how long I was in town for (a couple weeks), and she said she's also leaving soon. After asking her number, she took my phone and called herself. Nice .

Here's the texting convo:

Me 10:18 - Glad to have met you -Nick
Her 10:19 - Nice to have met you as well
Me 10:42 - I don't know too much about you, mysterious waitress. We should grab a pizza soon. You eat?
Her 10:45 - Haha yes I do but I'm forced to be gluten free
Me 10:52 - Right on. Then we'll try this rockin gluten free place I know. When's good for you sched-wise?
Her 10:55 - That ill have to get back to you on, I'm swamped this week and don't know my work schedule yet.
Me 10:58 - Sounds good . Shoot me a text when you do.
Her 10:59 - Will do! Perhaps we could grab coffee or something quick this week, ill keep you posted!

Wasn't sure how to proceed from here. Like, no, I don't want to meet quickly for coffee, that's not what I'm here for. But she gave me a value offering, and I felt bad not saying anything. So I said nothing as an implicit way of turning that idea down. At this point I'm not sure if she's in auto-rejection, but that's another story.

So how do I maneuver this to just meetup casually? Should I text her in a few days as a ping for her schedule? Or just wait till she gets back to me, and hope that she offers more time for the interaction?

Any advice/critiques are appreciated!

Cheers,
Jake

 

[NarrowJ]

PD,

I just had something pretty similar happen. See this thread: viewtopic.php?f=3&t=2676

Zphix seems pretty knowledgeable, and thought me actually turning it down and telling her I'd like to do something when she had more time was a good idea. She ended up saying "Well ok, maybe drinks tomorrow?" and I said "yeah sounds good!" but then she flaked on that too, so who knows. I've marked her # as done-Name in my phone. So unless she texts me, we're just not hanging out.

NJ

 

[PrettyDecent]

Hey NJ,

It's funny you mention that because I was reading your post earlier today, and I was interested on her message after. On top of this, I've had a different girl try to schedule me in as a 2.5 hour meetup yesterday. Essentially, I had done the same thing you talked about, while she proposed a different day. Anyways, sounded like you handled your situation well , we'll see what happens.

Jake

 

[Nova]

thats some pretty solid texting there. just a shame she didn't know her schedule and you couldn't actually arrange anything.

for me, i would text her in a few days asking when she's free to do something providing she doesn't text you before to let you know. nothing wrong with the way you 'turned down' her offer as it wasn't a question she asked as much as a statement which can be 'ignored' without being too cutting. the fact she implied it be a 'quick' coffee - well you know she probably wouldn't have time for anything else, so no point.

just wait it out see if she gets back to you, if not take the bull by the horns so to speak, get her out on a date, set the right vibes, bring her back to yours, voilà.