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Yesterday I met a shy-introverted girl who I took on an instant date. She was probably 19 out 20 much younger than me. Her body language was closed off and wouldn't make eye contact with me also. When I approached her, right in the beginning she mentioned that she's very boring but told me that I seem to be very confident. I tried to brush it off but in those 2 hours, she was very conscious of being boring and mentioned it over and over again saying "I told you, I'm boring". I tried to be as warm as possible and tried to make her feel good by highlighting her positive qualities but it was super-hard. I even told her that at some point I was introverted too and I've just tried to develop myself over time and also told I have low moments when I just want to be with myself etc. She wouldn't open up at all, although would answer my questions. I tried to make the questions as open-ended as possible but still she would narrow it down to one or two sentences. There were several awkward silences but she wouldn't leave as well. She wasn't very comfortable being touched. I tried comparing hand-sizes, but she didn't rest her palm on my palm as well. In order to avoid the conversation from coming across as boring, I would tell about my hobbies and experiences & she would find all of that fascinating and kept saying, you seem to have a lot of amazing experiences in life. I knew I was moving towards low attainability problem but I couldn't salvage the situation since I had to fill in the awkward silences, she wouldn't open up and was coming across as interview. I made a lot of statements instead of just questioning her but it was coming across like an interview. Anyway, I failed due to low-attainability I think and she sent me this text:
