How to Manage Catching Feelings?

[D_Smooth1900]

Hey everyone,

Heres my situation, I have been seeing this one girl including two others. I'm not currently in a relationship with any of these woman, if anything I'm sure they're all aware that I'm seeing other woman. Its come to the point where I'm starting to "feel," something for one of them. I read that it's better for a girl to chase a relationship instead of me asking her to be my girl. I'm at the point where I'm ready to replace her because feelings are starting to surface and I honestly don't knows how to deal with it. I rather replace her so I don't have to deal with all The feelings. I'd like to know your guys thoughts on what I should do, thanks

-Smooth

 

[Howell]

You can of course drop her, but you don't have to be hasty about it. You could also use this as an opportunity to learn some things about what you value.

In particular, you could try and find out precisely what these feelings imply.

Sure, you care about her -- but in what capacity?

Is it a desire to protect her? Provide a lifestyle for her through your own acquired resources? To unify your ego with hers -- a you vs. the world mentality developing? Are these feelings problematic because you feel her withdrawing from you and you want to protect your ego by being the one to cut her off first? Emotions can be scary, but I think riding through them is the path to emotional maturation (which is quite the valuable thing for a seducer to develop). Don't bail too soon, but don't let your relationship turn into a form of clinging attachment either.

Remember, that you can love (oh god I used the 'L' word! ) without attachment.

I get the idea that this is one of those questions people ask sometimes where the most important information is left out. Why are these feelings a problem in the first place? Are they clouding your judgement and getting in the way of some of your other goals?

Howell

 

[mb1]

Your subconscious mind wants to include this girl as part of yourself for the mate-and-raise process, i.e. love and protect this vessel (her body) so it can birth and properly raise your own DNA. She is rare out of the population scanned and deemed attainable to actually have and raise (i.e. if she's cool your mind deems her fit to nurture) kids with, regardless of what your conscious mind wants.

Don't be the guy who makes girls cry forever because he's out of touch with feelings and just drops them.

Just realize that you can have unattached one night stands with certain girls because you don't care if those imaginary kids are eaten or abandoned in the wild due to having other opportunities for gene survival. Girls you really like will cause attachment because the quality of your genes with hers is a pair far beyond other options and you want to ensure they're cared and protected for.

The issue is if you can't actually walk away at the drop of a hat due to having an abundance of others' genes available at your disposal, she will NOT want YOUR genes.

Once achieving abundance of genes more at her level, harnessing feelings will make things much more intense for these highly emotional creatures.

Read the articles on being a genuine man, and especially on being an asshole. Going against what you may really want for the sake of her feelings shows the lack of genetic vessel options that you have at her level, and kills her attraction since she only wants genes higher quality than hers.

Read the book the Passion Trap (or Passion Paradox) and articles on not falling in love too soon.

Read about the law of least effort and always be investing just a little less than her, even mentally. She's not thinking about you as much as you are about her.

Keep approaching girls you're really attracted to.

 

[D_Smooth1900]

Sure, you care about her -- but in what capacity?

Is it a desire to protect her? Provide a lifestyle for her through your own acquired resources? To unify your ego with hers -- a you vs. the world mentality developing? Are these feelings problematic because you feel her withdrawing from you and you want to protect your ego by being the one to cut her off first? Emotions can be scary, but I think riding through them is the path to emotional maturation (which is quite the valuable thing for a seducer to develop). Don't bail too soon, but don't let your relationship turn into a form of clinging attachment either.

It's nothing complex, I just care for the girl and I want the best for her. I wouldn't mind making her my girlfriend for a bit. I just don't want the one to lose the power. I want to be the leader and lead the relationship to whatever means.

I get the idea that this is one of those questions people ask sometimes where the most important information is left out. Why are these feelings a problem in the first place? Are they clouding your judgement and getting in the way of some of
your other goals?

I feel like they're starting to make me needy. The hard part is not knowing wether or not she feels the same about me.

The issue is if you can't actually walk away at the drop of a hat due to having an abundance of others' genes available at your disposal, she will NOT want YOUR genes.

What I got from this was if I continue to have other partners, her feelings towards me will always be a bit stronger than my feelings toward hers?

 

[mb1]

I don't know, and probably wouldn't say always. If you find other partners at HER level, she'll by default stop being special and feelings will subside. Instead of dropping her, double up! Is she displaying feelings too? Take control of her emotions and coax her to show what she may be afraid to show to a player type to protect her ego. If you're into dominant talk like making her tell you she's been thinking about taking you from behind all day etc, you can get to points with girls like telling her to to tell you that she loves you as she's about to climax, then reward with another command to come for you. It's powerful and maybe better within monogamy haha but basically I don't really know anything for sure and suggest reading everything written by Riccardus on the love subject.

 

[mb1]

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