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So, my whole life I've kept contact with only a few people. Now, I'm thinking having contact with a lot of people may not be a bad idea.
I reflected yesterday, and I think my concerns are the following:
1. Wastage of time on socializing
2. Risk of my network influencing my beliefs and life
3. Risk of my network having control over my life, time and activities
4. Risk of getting close to someone and then they leaving me
I have thought of the following strategy:
1. Wastage of time on socializing
: Talk to 2 or 3 people per day over phone, and call each of them only once every 3 months. That way, I can cover about 200 - 300 people per 3 months. The goal is keep the relationships alive. The main goal is to meet up with these people whenever time and opportunity permits, instead of contacting them over phone.
2. Risk of my network influencing my beliefs and life
: Since I won't be spending too much time with a particular person, I think this risk is not too big. Besides, if I'm totally certain of my beliefs, values and my direction in life, others won't be able to impact me.
3. Risk of my network having control over my life, time and activities
: Now this one I really don't know. I think if I fail to attend invitations from a particular person a few times the relationship will suffer big time. Any way to handle this?
4. Risk of getting close to someone and then they leaving me
: This I can do by not trusting people too soon, and always sharing information that are not too personal.
Do you think this will work? Any other suggestions?
I reflected yesterday, and I think my concerns are the following:
1. Wastage of time on socializing
2. Risk of my network influencing my beliefs and life
3. Risk of my network having control over my life, time and activities
4. Risk of getting close to someone and then they leaving me
I have thought of the following strategy:
1. Wastage of time on socializing
: Talk to 2 or 3 people per day over phone, and call each of them only once every 3 months. That way, I can cover about 200 - 300 people per 3 months. The goal is keep the relationships alive. The main goal is to meet up with these people whenever time and opportunity permits, instead of contacting them over phone.
2. Risk of my network influencing my beliefs and life
: Since I won't be spending too much time with a particular person, I think this risk is not too big. Besides, if I'm totally certain of my beliefs, values and my direction in life, others won't be able to impact me.
3. Risk of my network having control over my life, time and activities
: Now this one I really don't know. I think if I fail to attend invitations from a particular person a few times the relationship will suffer big time. Any way to handle this?
4. Risk of getting close to someone and then they leaving me
: This I can do by not trusting people too soon, and always sharing information that are not too personal.
Do you think this will work? Any other suggestions?
