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- Dec 7, 2020
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I tend to find myself in social circle situations a lot where I am a somewhat of an "outsider." As in I'm in a small gathering which I know one person who invited me and most everyone already knows each other. These are group/hangs where I've been invited (not like joining a group in nightgame), but am an outsider and usually know just the one person who invited me. I'm good with bonding quickly with people one on one, but in these group settings the conversations tend to drift towards people they know (that I don't), things relevant to their life etc. And I can only ask so many questions to get me up to speed without seeming needy, and the close friends always seem to drift towards talking to each other after some initial "getting to know you small talk questions" or even some friendly banter. It gets to the point often where I either kind of lurk in their conversation (what it feels like) or stare off into space. Maybe this is a social faux pas on their part in some way (I'm young so groups of young people tend to be more cliquish I suppose), but regardless I've been unable to figure out how to move here. Maybe it would be best to just avoid these type of groups, or dip out early once I get bored, but I'd like to figure it out since these social hang's often have some rather high-quality girls that I've found rare to find when just cold approaching. Any thoughts would be appreciated.
