Mods, sorry if this is the wrong forum. I think this overflows into seduction/building an attractive lifestyle so place accordingly.
Short: Is there a way to NOT come across as full of life and wanting to achieve your dreams/passions? Or are there specific things to do, to 'soften' what you're doing in life?
I don't know if this is a problem per se, but I'll be talking to a woman or guy and they'll ask a question about what I'm doing right now or want to do in a couple months/years. When they ask, I automatically go into pitching my dreams/life goals/passions, and the consensus is "wow, you're really focused!" or some banter. No big deal. There's a lot to do in the world. While this is great to talk to people about what I love, I see it sometimes bite me in the ass and destroy my connection with some women. For instance, initially meeting them we'll hit it off, have tons of fun, escalate, blah blah blah.
Later down the timeline though, they'll drift off or something will pop up, and I'll hear the same line: "Plus, you're really focused right now." OR "So why x?" [x = place or activity]
After typing this out I suspect the connection was supposed to naturally turn into relationship status. Is that fair to suspect or could it be something else? Maybe I'm not screening correctly? On the contrary, a chick that's gone cold for an incredibly long amount of time will sometimes reach back out to me. Think 6months - 1.5 yrs. What gives? Is she trying to rekindle something?
Apart from that, over time I've attempted to use discretion and be more relaxed when first talking about what I want to do, but I still fuck it up, and I was curious if anybody had any suggestions or things they do to not come off so freakishly passionate about life?
Feedback appreciated.
Short: Is there a way to NOT come across as full of life and wanting to achieve your dreams/passions? Or are there specific things to do, to 'soften' what you're doing in life?
I don't know if this is a problem per se, but I'll be talking to a woman or guy and they'll ask a question about what I'm doing right now or want to do in a couple months/years. When they ask, I automatically go into pitching my dreams/life goals/passions, and the consensus is "wow, you're really focused!" or some banter. No big deal. There's a lot to do in the world. While this is great to talk to people about what I love, I see it sometimes bite me in the ass and destroy my connection with some women. For instance, initially meeting them we'll hit it off, have tons of fun, escalate, blah blah blah.
Later down the timeline though, they'll drift off or something will pop up, and I'll hear the same line: "Plus, you're really focused right now." OR "So why x?" [x = place or activity]
After typing this out I suspect the connection was supposed to naturally turn into relationship status. Is that fair to suspect or could it be something else? Maybe I'm not screening correctly? On the contrary, a chick that's gone cold for an incredibly long amount of time will sometimes reach back out to me. Think 6months - 1.5 yrs. What gives? Is she trying to rekindle something?
Apart from that, over time I've attempted to use discretion and be more relaxed when first talking about what I want to do, but I still fuck it up, and I was curious if anybody had any suggestions or things they do to not come off so freakishly passionate about life?
Feedback appreciated.
