How to open directly, when you pass her?

[Lithuanian]

Hey guys, I think many of you have come upon situation: you're walking down the street, not thinking about picking up girls, just walking to a meeting or somewhere else, when you see a girl and start to look at her. She looks at you too, and you do like Chase said - don't break eye contact first. But her eyes are just glued to you and eye contact breaks only after you walk past her. When you realise, that there's a huge potential to pick up that girl, you're besides her, and it's too late to preopen her. I know that in such situation, it should be direct opening, but how? What to say (some phrases would be good for a begginer, because they work)? From time to time I preopen girls in the street, but I select my targets earlier. I open them directly, but also, when I select the early (like in the coffee shop). But how to open them in such situation?

 

[Skid]

But her eyes are just glued to you and eye contact breaks only after you walk past her.

While her eyes are glued onto you and you're just about to walk past each other open. Even if its just a "hey" with a smile and you stop walking she will stop too and go from there. That's in an ideal world though I know when you are just starting it can be hard to open girls on the fly like that without any sort of warm up. Worst case scenario is after you walk past her you turn around and get beside her again then open - yeah its less smooth but the main this is you open. If she thought you were attractive it shouldn't hurt you too much.

When you get more experienced and it becomes more a habit when you see a girl that's your type you'll start opening girls before you even realize it in some cases because you're in auto pilot.

Skid

 

[Lithuanian]

Thanks for the answer. But what to say further. I always thought to say "hello" in such situation, but doubted about what to say next. If I say "I thought you're cute", it could sound not sincere, because everything happened so quickly. Maybe just ask her whaere's she going or just say "I want to talk to you"?

 

[Skid]

If I say "I thought you're cute", it could sound not sincere, because everything happened so quickly.

I'd disagree with you there Lithuanian , if anything that's the MOST sincere and most natural an approach can be :

You are just casually walking down the street minding your own business and then you look forward for a second and you see a really beautiful girl and she is looking right at you , now you are making eye contact and just as you're passing each other you open before you've even realized it "hey"and you smile then she immediately stops. "You're cute what's your name?" , she lights up and immediately asks for your name. Then you can transition into asking where she is going.

Something I want to stress is there is no "right" thing to say and you only realize this after you've done pickup for a while. There is a huge array of things you can say to open a girl the only thing that matters is you are moving forward with the girl. It's more about how your open represents you (voice tone, speaking calmly and powerfully) and your fundamentals (this is what determines whether "it works"). The reason its suggested that you open with a compliment is because it makes you intentions clear because most girls simply won't believe that a guy is hitting on them in the middle of the street in day time its really rare for that too happen let alone for a guy they find attractive to hit on them like that. The reason you ask where she is going is so you can gauge how much time you have whether you need a quick number or you can invite her for an instant date then take her home. You don't need any reason to talk to a girl other than : she is attractive.

The only time an approach can be considered insincere is when you talk to a girl who is only just attractive enough or you don't really find attractive at all - which you kinda need to do for the sake of practice. But once girls start regularly complying to your requests like moving them that's when you can be more picky about who you approach. If you really what to see the effect of sincerity when you approach a girl approach the girl that you see and go : "Woah , she is wayyy to hot" and sometimes you will be surprised at how well it goes because she can see the genuineness in your eyes when you say hi. That's why she goes to the gym x times a week , that's why she puts on makeup and does her hair so she can be desired sexually by men like that. When you do this too a girl that thinks you are attractive she melts and she'll never forget your name even if it doesn't go according to plan you still made her day and that's a beautiful thing.

Skid

 

[TouchGrass]

Hey, great answers here! I'd like to add a twist to the original question:

What do you do when the girl DOESN'T look at you as your paths converge? Do you still stop her the same way even when she hasn't made eye contact with you, or appeared to notice you?

 

[Skid]

What do you do when the girl DOESN'T look at you as your paths converge? Do you still stop her the same way even when she hasn't made eye contact with you, or appeared to notice you?

Walk in front of her. Pretty hard for her not to notice you now : then once you're in her path looking at each other open.

Skid

 

[Lithuanian]

Thanks Skid for your advice, it's very comprehensive and I will try to use it as soon as possible, because spring is just beggining.

 

[Zoro]

There is some great advice about approaching for beginners. Open and calibrate IN THAT ORDER. Don't worry about how it will go over. You can analyze everything afterward, because doing so before is nothing more than baseless guess work at the whim of your ego and wild imagination.

Try things out. I give you permission to NOT be smooth. You should do your best to be normal/chill/cool, but forget about making it anything more than a guy saying hello to a girl he found attractive.

I don't care whether you stop her before she walks past you or whether you open her 5 minutes later because you were fighting your ego in your head. Do it and learn. I've done both and got solid numbers that led to dates.