how to pass this shit test?

[killerman]

right,there's this girl i'm seeing on saturday. i posted a thread a few days ago about this girl who wanted to go to a movie for a second date. i agreed initially unfortunately (this was before someone advised me on this forum that i suggest we go to her place to watch a dvd) but when she was finding it difficult to decide on a time to watch the film i proposed we go to her place to watch a dvd instead but she didnt take to the idea, i then decided on the time of the film. now she messaged me today saying that her rota's changed and asked if we could use the same tickets for the later showing to which I said no and asked what time she finished work. then she said "that's ok, i won't have my nap" with an emoticon showing disappointment, then said "i will sleep at the cinema" then put emoticons of 2 hands clapping. i'm now in a dilemma as to what to do. i'm worried that if i say that it's ok i can cancel the film and get my money back and we can do something else that that will lower her attraction for me as women dont like guys bending backwards for them. but if i say that we continue as planned and watch the film at the agreed time and she sleeps at the cinema it's going to be a bullshit date with no talking, half of which she's sleeping, and i dont like the idea at all. so what do i do?

also is this likely to be a shit test? or do these situations happen sometimes?

 

[ray_zorse]

You're right, it's a shit test, if she agreed to meet you then leave it at that. I never change date arrangements if it can be avoided, simply because the more complicated the arrangements the more possibility of a mistake or misunderstanding or a flake -- it's just more mental effort for both parties. It's also bad to double-text to change an arrangement. She won't really sleep, obviously. If she genuinely is tired she can lean into you and you can cuddle her while she dozes through the movie. Win/win. What's the film, hopefully it's either sexy or scary, if so make sure you're touching her at the sexy or scary bits, just grab her hand and squeeze if you're not already touching.
Ray

 

[Dude909]

In the future, never agree on a movie date with a girl who isn't your girlfriend. Movie dates have very poor logistics for sex, they are the stuff that lead to friend zone or beta boyfriend. Massive don't.

 

[Orelfius]

What I would do in such situation: FLAKING

To me, it seem that you are about to be outgamed (may be unconsciously from her part).

Anyway, you need to avoid:
- Beeing Friendzoned
- Come across as week/hesitant
- Come across as easily pushed over

So I would call/text back something along the line of:
"Ah sorry, something happened and I won't be free that day"
Then add up some VAGUE promise of reconnecting with her later once you've checked out your schedule (adding some scarcity always help)

Then 2-3 days after the planned date, contact her again to settle a new date.

And this time don't forget to keep control of the date.

Good luck my friend.