How to proceed about second date?

[razir110]

So I had a great first date, 5 mins into the date it was clear she was totally into me and she spent the whole date telling me how my eyes are beautiful and how I am her type of guy etc. Honestly, it went a bit too well! I never had a girl with SO MUCH investment in me.

After the date I didn't have the logistics to invite her over so I self-invited to her place, but she didn't go for it. I guess, well it's fine it's not easy to self-invite yourself to hers.. We kissed for a while in the car while talking and it was all pretty smooth. I broke it up after some 45 min to 1h (a bit long, but fuck it, I was enjoying myself ) and told her I have to go to sleep, which I did. Next morning she texted me with one world "handsome" I texted back one word too ("beautiful" or something) So the date was 2 days ago, her text 24h ago.

How to proceed? Text ASAP? Wait? What about the second date? I still don't have logistics.. Should I ask her to cook for me at hers or something? Cause I don't want to be in position that I will meet her somewhere and then will have to self-invite to hers again.. It's needy af.

Suggestions?

Cheers!

 

[foggy]

text ASAP to set up the second date! don't let those emotions die down. she's waiting to hear from you.

next time youre on a date with a girl who is super into you, set up a date for the next day and keep things rolling.

 

[razir110]

fog,

fair, but what about this article advising to wait for 2-3 days? https://www.girlschase.com/content/3-se ... -and-swoon

Do I have more to lose by waiting here?

What about the venue for the 2nd date?

 

[foggy]

in that article, chase says to text her the next day if the date went amazing (which it did).

as for the venue...id be honest and up front about it man. tell her you want to spend time with her alone, but your place is not an option at the moment.

you and her are in this together, so it should be a cooperative thing.

 

[razir110]

Done. text sent lol.

Perhaps I am overthinking this anyway.. She seemed really into me so it's not a non-perfect message that will spoil that.

But maybe too much waiting would Thanks for the advice, will keep you guys posted.

 

[razir110]

Re: How to proceed about second date? (follow-up)

Follow-up: @fog, all.

So I texted her to meet she said she was free thursday and friday (tomorrow)I replied, self-inviting myself to hers to have dinner (She said she cooks well etc) She said she can't bring people home due to house rules. (I say its BS )
I said playfully that I was an exception, bla bla, she still said she can't do it. I insisted back. (If it's of any relevance our messages are hours apart it took us 3 days to text this stuff, we exchange a handful of texts I work a lot and don't have much time to reply anyway)

So this was the last text I SENT HER (the insisting back one), it was 24h+ ago, she still didn't reply.

Basically the thing here is, I don't want to meet her for more drinks bla bla.. I can't take her to mine tomorrow, no logistics, so I will be in position to be begging her to let me into hers and I don't want to be in that position. Our second date must end with sex.

How to proceed? Right now our plan for tomorrow is hanging. She said she is free but I dn't want to meet her on her terms sort of.. and I don't want to text her without her replying to me first. It would be needy. I was thinking that in case she doesn't reply by tomorrow afternoon I should text her to invite her to mine on sunday (I am alone so logistics are fine ) but probably she is working... However it's the only way I see I can meet her on my territory on my terms.

What do you think about texting her without she replying first to reschedule for sunday and ditch friday (when she said she is free..)

I really don't like to text twice in a raw without getting a reply first. We even talked about it during the date! How most men are insecure, chase, etc. I would be that guy if I texted her again before getting a reply.

Suggestions?

Cheers!