First time poster, beginner at best. I've been weak all my life and have made drastic improvements thanks to this site. Primarily im just starting with building attraction at the moment however I met this girl at work and it seems there may be more than just an attraction building possibility here. So long story hopefully short...
I'm 39 and this girl is 25. Incredibly hot normally I'd consider her so far out of my league it's not even funny. But with the results I'm getting lately I just figure why not. She's one of those girls most guys just drool over, and about a month ago she was looking particularly good one day and I gave her a surprise and little effort compliment that seemed to catch her off guard and seemed to surprise and delight her (again so hot I don't think she gets compliments from many guys cause they're scared). Not a big deal really. However since, she has caught my eye now and again giving me little waves and hellos. Now i had been in a pretty depressed mood during that time with another girl I pretty much lost due to my nice guy crap. So I just waved back and went on with my day.
Anyways one day about two weeks ago I figured what the heck and decided to go for it. I introduced myself and gave the little hand squeeze thing and started some basic deep diving. She asked if I had family or a girlfriend and I asked if she was single to which her reply was "Ohhhh no" stating her boyfriend was in the military and a long ways away on assignment. I hadn't yet learned to not worry about boyfriends and so after a bit more conversation, ended the interaction on a positive and attractive note. The next day I saw her again, continued deep diving mixed with appropriate touch on high notes. During that conversation a few things came up that propelled me to move forward. One that her boyfriend is married. Two that she likes to visit strip clubs (a judgment test question I think) and that she usually is alone on the weekends with her son (a possible invitation), and that her son was a bit chubby because he's big like his dad (I'm a big/tall guy so this seemed her way of stating I'm attractive to her). I wanted to ask her out then however we were being stared at by jealous guys and girls and I didn't ask for the sake of discretion.
However things seem positive here and I wanted to still ask her out discretely. First time I saw her a couple days later but she had to go in and I lost my nerve a bit and didn't ask (think I should have). Next time I saw her I did ask. But she was standoffish stating she doesn't cheat (at least she knows what I want for a change!) and will only let me get to know her at work. She also denied she told me her boyfriend was married and while I don't have the best memory I know what she said. Sinc then I've seen her once in passing and once we talked for a few minutes but it was very surface level (why bother getting to know her deeper still if she wants to play this game? Was my thought).
I'm trying to figure out how to proceed. I'm thinking just being slightly aggressive with her and saying something along the lines of I know what I heard I'm not backing down and gently demanding she gives me her phone so I can put in my number than leave the ball in her court (and then just moving on with other women not giving it any more thought). Any thoughts and suggestions?
I'm 39 and this girl is 25. Incredibly hot normally I'd consider her so far out of my league it's not even funny. But with the results I'm getting lately I just figure why not. She's one of those girls most guys just drool over, and about a month ago she was looking particularly good one day and I gave her a surprise and little effort compliment that seemed to catch her off guard and seemed to surprise and delight her (again so hot I don't think she gets compliments from many guys cause they're scared). Not a big deal really. However since, she has caught my eye now and again giving me little waves and hellos. Now i had been in a pretty depressed mood during that time with another girl I pretty much lost due to my nice guy crap. So I just waved back and went on with my day.
Anyways one day about two weeks ago I figured what the heck and decided to go for it. I introduced myself and gave the little hand squeeze thing and started some basic deep diving. She asked if I had family or a girlfriend and I asked if she was single to which her reply was "Ohhhh no" stating her boyfriend was in the military and a long ways away on assignment. I hadn't yet learned to not worry about boyfriends and so after a bit more conversation, ended the interaction on a positive and attractive note. The next day I saw her again, continued deep diving mixed with appropriate touch on high notes. During that conversation a few things came up that propelled me to move forward. One that her boyfriend is married. Two that she likes to visit strip clubs (a judgment test question I think) and that she usually is alone on the weekends with her son (a possible invitation), and that her son was a bit chubby because he's big like his dad (I'm a big/tall guy so this seemed her way of stating I'm attractive to her). I wanted to ask her out then however we were being stared at by jealous guys and girls and I didn't ask for the sake of discretion.
However things seem positive here and I wanted to still ask her out discretely. First time I saw her a couple days later but she had to go in and I lost my nerve a bit and didn't ask (think I should have). Next time I saw her I did ask. But she was standoffish stating she doesn't cheat (at least she knows what I want for a change!) and will only let me get to know her at work. She also denied she told me her boyfriend was married and while I don't have the best memory I know what she said. Sinc then I've seen her once in passing and once we talked for a few minutes but it was very surface level (why bother getting to know her deeper still if she wants to play this game? Was my thought).
I'm trying to figure out how to proceed. I'm thinking just being slightly aggressive with her and saying something along the lines of I know what I heard I'm not backing down and gently demanding she gives me her phone so I can put in my number than leave the ball in her court (and then just moving on with other women not giving it any more thought). Any thoughts and suggestions?
