How to properly cancel a date when you really can't make it!?

[Witcher]

Hello everyone,

Here in GC we can find an article about how to handle every situation we can encounter with girls, dating, flake prevention flake treatment, and different processes for different logistics. I can say that theses advices have been very useful to me to either get dates or not lost too much time on bad prospects etc..

Now, If I'am getting better at getting dates from girls (sometimes even surprised that she said yes and see her coming), I sometimes find myself unable to make it and has to cancel it. Thinking that flaking would not be the best way, I don't find anything about canceling the date properly so you can continue the seduction process later of course without loosing the girl and sending her into the dreaded auto-rejection mode.

So the question is in the title: How to properly cancel a date yourself when you really can't, and how to proceed afterward?

Thank YOU

 

[lostnumber]

Think about how you would want someone to cancel a date on you

Be gracious and considerate, apologize for having to cancel, give specifics if you think its appropriate (IE grandma died). If its for something you would rather not share (IE date with another girl) than simply say that something has come up that you can't possibly avoid. In the same message you should also ask to reschedule; that way you are making it clear that you aren't canceling because of the girl and are still interested in seeing her.

Examples:

Jill -- I'm so sorry but I can't make it on Wednesday anymore. There is a huge project at work and they need me to present. This sort of came out of nowhere and now they are counting on me. Any chance we can reschedule for later in the week?

Sarah, I hate to do this to you, but something has come up on Tuesday I'm free on Thursday/Friday still, if either of those days work to reschedule? First drinks are on me.

 

[lostnumber]

My other piece of advice is that I'm very wary these days about canceling a date to schedule another date (not sure if that is your reason for canceling or if its completely unrelated)

Lets say I have dates Monday / Tuesday / Thursday and then a new girl who can only meet on Tuesday when I already have a date. It might sound good to move Tuesday girl to Wednesday to make room. But maybe Tuesday girl has made plans and can't do Wednesday anymore, so that date ends up getting scrapped. Then the new girl I scheduled for Tuesday cancels, and now all of the sudden I'm out two dates and also lost standing with a girl I tried to reschedule on who might have happily met me and went to bed with me if I hadn't tried to reshuffle.

I've had different flavors of this happen to me numerous times, and at this point I will rarely re-schedule one date for another, unless there is a tremendous difference in my interest level between the two girls

 

[Franco]

lostnumber,

My other piece of advice is that I'm very wary these days about canceling a date to schedule another date (not sure if that is your reason for canceling or if its completely unrelated)

Lets say I have dates Monday / Tuesday / Thursday and then a new girl who can only meet on Tuesday when I already have a date. It might sound good to move Tuesday girl to Wednesday to make room. But maybe Tuesday girl has made plans and can't do Wednesday anymore, so that date ends up getting scrapped. Then the new girl I scheduled for Tuesday cancels, and now all of the sudden I'm out two dates and also lost standing with a girl I tried to reschedule on who might have happily met me and went to bed with me if I hadn't tried to reshuffle.

I've had different flavors of this happen to me numerous times, and at this point I will rarely re-schedule one date for another, unless there is a tremendous difference in my interest level between the two girls

One solution to this issue is just to double-book dates on the same day.

I also rarely cancel a date early just to attempt to schedule another one, but if you schedule both dates in the same evening, then you give yourself some wiggle room in case one of the girls decides to cancel on you.

If neither girl cancels, then you can just cancel on the one that you're least interested in meeting roughly 2 hours before the date. Obviously there is some risk that the other girl could cancel on you within that small 2-hour timeframe as well, but at least this minimizes the risk of you ending up without a date when you originally had two lined up!

- Franco

 

[Witcher]

lostnumber,

My other piece of advice is that I'm very wary these days about canceling a date to schedule another date (not sure if that is your reason for canceling or if its completely unrelated)

Lets say I have dates Monday / Tuesday / Thursday and then a new girl who can only meet on Tuesday when I already have a date. It might sound good to move Tuesday girl to Wednesday to make room. But maybe Tuesday girl has made plans and can't do Wednesday anymore, so that date ends up getting scrapped. Then the new girl I scheduled for Tuesday cancels, and now all of the sudden I'm out two dates and also lost standing with a girl I tried to reschedule on who might have happily met me and went to bed with me if I hadn't tried to reshuffle.

I've had different flavors of this happen to me numerous times, and at this point I will rarely re-schedule one date for another, unless there is a tremendous difference in my interest level between the two girls

One solution to this issue is just to double-book dates on the same day.

I also rarely cancel a date early just to attempt to schedule another one, but if you schedule both dates in the same evening, then you give yourself some wiggle room in case one of the girls decides to cancel on you.

If neither girl cancels, then you can just cancel on the one that you're least interested in meeting roughly 2 hours before the date. Obviously there is some risk that the other girl could cancel on you within that small 2-hour timeframe as well, but at least this minimizes the risk of you ending up without a date when you originally had two lined up!

- Franco

Hello,

Thank you all for your answers.
I'am not yet to the level of having so much choice of girls haha! My question was about when you can't make it because you have some issues, likes work, study etc that came in an unexpectedly. If I can manage girls flakes, I think I should also have anti flaking strategies against my self