How to react in these situations?

[Native]

1) A girl asks you for a favor (and is using you only for the favor), and you decline to help her because you don't want to be an orbiter... if you decline her asking for help, how will she feel? (also, I wanna sleep with this girl and have previously been helping her with stuff for that reason...) so also, if I was an orbiter for this girl before... how do I escape being one now?

2) If I'm talking to a girl and use a sexual frame, and she denies it or declines it... how do you rebound from that rejection? and do sexual frames only work when the girl already likes you?

3) What goes through a girls head when you approach her?

Thanks for the help guys,

-Native

 

[Nuncle]

1) She will think you are very strong and confident and her attraction for you will go up. Even if she is genuinely pissed off she will still get turned on a little bit and intrigued. You have to learn how to do it casually, though, which takes practice.

2) Above my pay grade but from the articles you act as if nothing has happened, change the subject then try another sexual frame a bit later. Keep doing this until she warms up. I think one of the guys advises trying 3 times and then nexting her.

3) Much the same as would go through your head if a girl approached you (Low value girl: slightly embarassed, slightly insulted, rather proud; High value girl: Delighted, excited and flustered; Intermediate Value Girl: OK she looks interesting let's she if she actually is).

If she is a girl who gets approached a lot she will just want to get rid of the approach quickly unless it stands out. Kind of like a company that gets a lot of sales calls she will have developed a procedure, almost a flow chart, for fielding them.