How to Reconcile Gaming in a Relationship?

[lingua]

Right now I'm seeing a girl that I took to bed less than 24 hours meeting her, I explain it in detail in my journal, but there were two girls who had recently moved to my city and my wingman and I swept them off their feet and took them to our bed. It was pretty exhilarating for us as well. Now I'd like to keep this girl and have a more involved relationship with her than a pure FWB.

But there are a couple of things that are bugging me.

• I'm 20, and getting into a strict monogamous relationship would put a stop to my journey in the social arts just as I'm breaking my beginner's walls(just flirting with girls wouldn't be enough to maintain the edge and improve), until the relationship ends
• I have evidence to believe that this city seems to be a high competition market, I've been going out mostly nightgaming with more than 20 different guys, ranging from newbies to locals who've been doing game for 5+ years, and I get the same thoughts and opinions from them, and mostly high walls and feelings of abundance from the majority of the girls, seeing random guys do street game (hell, I did research about the demographics and found out there are around 30% more males than females in my age range, this skewness is due to the technical college)
• How would I be able to make sure this girl doesn't get jealous and sees that I would only play with/pick up other girls for fun and not bond with them emotionally to leave her, and at the same time, make sure she doesn't leave me or sleep with other men.

As can be seen I'm quite inexperienced in the relationship part of game, so I'm trying to get as much advice and knowledge from people who've gone through this.

 

[Franco]

lingua,

Generally with most girls that you'll meet, there's almost always an expiration date on the period of time that they're willing to sleep with you without it moving toward a monogamous relationship. Some girls will go for months, but then when they see they can't "have" you, they'll force themselves to break away so they can pursue other prospects that are interested in something long term. Sometimes they'll come back if (the sex was good and) they date a bunch of chumps for awhile and can't stand the fact that they can't find someone as good as you. But even if they do, it usually only lasts temporarily because they remember again why they stopped seeing you in the first place -- you don't want to commit.

So as long as you understand that you can only keep juggling girls for a certain period of time before they need to move on, then you'll also understand that having casual relationships and FWBs is a constant revolving door that never really ends. You may occasionally get a woman coming back to you after months away wanting to try again, but it can be somewhat dramatic for her too if she feels like she really wants something serious and you won't give it to her. The best you can do is be as relaxed and understanding as possible without getting upset/angry at the decisions she makes.

There's really no set strategy for keeping a "harem" of women around for as long as you want; if you happen to be famous or be rolling in millions/billions of dollars, that would probably make a difference, but if that were easy to do, then we'd advise guys to do that instead.

- Franco

 

[Whizzy]

Franco covered pretty much everything, only other thing I noticed was

•How would I be able to make sure this girl doesn't get jealous and sees that I would only play with/pick up other girls for fun and not bond with them emotionally to leave her, and at the same time, make sure she doesn't leave me or sleep with other men.

In this instance you would just say that you enjoy being social. Jealousy management is something that comes with experience as all relationships have some degree of jealousy. The key is to balance the feeling of jealousy with feeling "secure".