How to recover from showing neediness?

[TrailBlazer]

Let’s say you acting aloof and disinterested but also curious about the girl gets her interested in you. You want her but you don’t need her.

So she goes on a date with you. And there, because you feel the pressure of her interest, you begin to act differently.

You need her to do stuff with you. You’re way more outcome dependent and it shows. She senses that and closes off.

After so much effort with creating that aura of “we can’t be together”, everything is gone. She now knows you want/need her too much and her interest is gone.

How would you recover from such a date? If she’s in your social circle?

 

[Skills]

I think you don't understand the "neediness" concept and what it is... the best book on neediness is mark manson models... he goes in detail about neediness... Tyler also has a video that i posted (best video there is on neediness)

Best resources of dealing with neediness and onitis....

Ok, so @Karea Ricardus D. looking for this video, i finally found it.... But for everyone in general, Again the best book how down of dealing with neediness is Mark Manson Models...... Hands down! the best video is one of tyler best work in mho crawling out of neediness when first dating here...

www.skilledseducer.com

 

[TrailBlazer]

I think you don't understand the "neediness" concept and what it is... the best book on neediness is mark manson models... he goes in detail about neediness... Tyler also has a video that i posted (best video there is on neediness)

Best resources of dealing with neediness and onitis....

Ok, so @Karea Ricardus D. looking for this video, i finally found it.... But for everyone in general, Again the best book how down of dealing with neediness is Mark Manson Models...... Hands down! the best video is one of tyler best work in mho crawling out of neediness when first dating here...

www.skilledseducer.com

Thank you, I understand the concept better now. But my question wasn’t as much about how to not be needy - it was about how to recover after showing signs of needing the date to go well too much, and scaring the girl away.

How to show her that my neediness wasn’t real. It was real, but I don’t see any other way to recover from this than to reframe the whole situation.

I can’t play the aloof guy anymore if she saw that I really need her.

 

[Skills]

Thank you, I understand the concept better now. But my question wasn’t as much about how to not be needy - it was about how to recover after showing signs of needing the date to go well too much, and scaring the girl away.

How to show her that my neediness wasn’t real. It was real, but I don’t see any other way to recover from this than to reframe the whole situation.

I can’t play the aloof guy anymore if she saw that I really need her.

you don't give her attention, removing attention and giving her space, so she can feel the withdrawal, and try to get it back...

 

[TrailBlazer]

you don't give her attention, removing attention and giving her space, so she can feel the withdrawal, and try to get it back...

That’s a good idea. But is there something better, faster? Some other guy could snatch her in the waiting period..

The women that I talk to the most tend to have the avoidant attachment style. They chase when I pull away, but only after being aloof before that. When they are the first to pull away after me being needy, giving them space doesn’t work.

Maybe I need to be more extreme with these girls, like texting them “hey our date was a mistake, we shouldn’t be meeting at all”. And see what that does?