Special Girl How to reply to her disqualifying attempts ?

[RedNeck]

Hey folks,

I have this girl who she sees me out of my her league .

In order to protect her ego, she kept repeating she viewed me as friend nothing more , and she saw no potential for anything to happen between us . Of course , her actions are the complete opposite. Away from her interest or disinterest, how to reply to these kind of comments.

I disqualified her by saying yeah we should be friends because you weren’t my type anyway .She got so butthurt.

What are your suggestions, guys , to handle these kind of comments? Taking into account, I didn’t show much interest at all .

 

[Teevster]

This is a frame issue. What was the initial frame between you two?

It is hard to reframe her objection if we do not know the initial frame.

Best,
Teevster

 

[RedNeck]

Thanks Tee,

First let me say I am in Middle East now where I have to play the long game . Also, where I am now social status and money are huge factor and I have both .

I guess the initial frame was chase frame where I framed her actions as trying to impress or getting too

She explicitly said I was out of her league due to the social status and money . And we should only meet as friends . I tried to lower my attainability by mentioning my humble roots . She was fine .

What annoyed me , she kept repeating that friends thing . Please note, I didn’t chase in any shape or form , quite the opposite. I

Hope this is helpful