How to respond to one word replies to Tinder Opener?

[Zoro]

I've been experimenting with the opener: "What's one thing you can't live without?" since I've actually been getting matches on Tinder lately.
Sometimes I'll get one word answers which aren't very helpful and start things off with her having low levels of investment.

Like most recent reply that I'm thinking about how to respond was "Cats".
I could ask "How many cats do you have?" Lame.
Maybe better is "How far along to being the Crazy-Cat-Lady are you?"

Or my favorite but maybe too much "Yeah, I love pussy too".

How would you guys handle one word replies like this an opener?
Or would you just choose a better canned opener?

 

[Vision]

I'm not a Tinder expert by any stretch of the imagination... I have done some Tinder and IG game successfully though.

And from my experience, unless you're really hot in your pics, putting all of the emphasis on making them carry the initial conversation is just a bad strategy, in general.

I don't necessarily think it's a bad question but if you were to ask a question, you'd probably want a low investment question like... "coffee or tea?" - then you could get into the would you rather game from that...

But you're probably better off starting with a relevant statement to something going on in their profile than a generic question that could be copy/pasted to lots of women (and trust me, they know you're doing that)... which means the ones responding with one word answers are giving you the same amount of investment as you're giving them, which is practically nothing and not very interesting at all, btw.

I've talked with a lot of people with their Tinder strategies... most guys I know who are successful fall into one of two categories... category one guys cut the bullshit and get straight to the point very quickly by saying something to gauge their interest and then immediately trying to get them out.

Category two guys are good at texting and getting a girl engaged, feeling comfortable, and then get her out.

My guess is that you're not a category two guy, no offense, lol. I'm not either. I'm much better in person than I am over text.

I'm not sure where you came up with the question that you're using but if I were you, I'd model someone who is successful with Tinder game and go from there.

To answer your question though, at least in person, if a girl gives you an answer like that, and it's beginning of the seduction process, the best thing that I've found to do is just improvise off of it before asking another question... otherwise, you're relying on her to do the bulk of carrying the conversation, which she has no particular reason to do.

You're just another boring guy who doesn't know how to talk to her, as far as she's concerned.

But you could do a couple things with that...

One is a cold read... "Hmm... cats, very interesting... if you're into cats that probably means that you're the type of person who may know a lot of people but you only let a select few get close to you. But when you do open up to them, you really open up."

Or play off of her looks... "Now that you mention it, you do kind of have cat eyes in your photo... big but a little suspicious... like you're up to no good."

You could show a preference... "I'm a dog guy... wait, does like attract like or do opposites attract? I think this means we're either going to be best friends... or mortal enemies!"

You could also tell a personal story, or do a host of other things there. And then go into asking her a question from there.

Doesn't that seem like it would be a lot more interesting to her than just asking her questions and hoping she'll carry the whole conversation?

Like I said, I'm not a Tinder expert but if this was in person, that's what I would do.

I hope that helps.

 

[DoWhatWorks]

I've been experimenting with the opener: "What's one thing you can't live without?" since I've actually been getting matches on Tinder lately.
Sometimes I'll get one word answers which aren't very helpful and start things off with her having low levels of investment.

Like most recent reply that I'm thinking about how to respond was "Cats".
I could ask "How many cats do you have?" Lame.
Maybe better is "How far along to being the Crazy-Cat-Lady are you?"

Or my favorite but maybe too much "Yeah, I love pussy too".

How would you guys handle one word replies like this an opener?
Or would you just choose a better canned opener?

Better canned opener bro. When I did online open questions were king. You want something that can't easily be answered.

E.g. Hi [x] how you staying busy & having fun?

I like your crazy cat lady response but I'd personally add to it > "Hope you aren't crazy lol, why cats?"

If she's blunt again I would move on. My rule is 2 blunt strikes and you're out.

 

[Vision]

Better canned opener bro. When I did online open questions were king. You want something that can't easily be answered.

E.g. Hi [x] how you staying busy & having fun?

I like your crazy cat lady response but I'd personally add to it > "Hope you aren't crazy lol, why cats?"

If she's blunt again I would move on. My rule is 2 blunt strikes and you're out.

Sounds like the exact opposite of what I was suggesting. Curious, when did you do online and was it dating apps or sites?

 

[Regal Tiger]

Yeah that's an interesting question but it's something that's better served in person.

When it comes to online dating you want something extremely easy to respond to. And you don't want to get all that deep (unless she takes it there first).

Vision has some good points, but to make an opener like yours work you need to have some good wit to make it work because you'll have to play off of just about anything. Could be good practice though, no doubt about that.

But if at all possible you'll want to play off of something in her profile. Makes it come off as less copy/paste like. Or you'll want to develop a fun opener you can say to just about anyone. Here's an example I used: I would pick one or two things from a girls profile and say something like this:

"A girl who likes blank and blank!? Be still my beating heart "

Most of the time you'll get a response about one of the blanks or even something useless like a "haha that's me" or something like that. But for my message structure it doesn't matter because then you move straight into conversation. You can tease her in message two or message three depending on the vibe you get from the girl. Then for the other message I ask what kind of plans she's cooking up this week.

Again, it doesn't matter what her answers are because I'm going to lead the conversation into one about smoothies no matter how she answers. Message 4 is always asking about if she likes Tropical Smoothie Cafe. Then I hype it up and ask her out by around message 5-6.

As long as you briefly touch upon whatever her responses are you can run something like this on autopilot. Which is exactly why I love my little message structure. It literally doesn't matter how she responds because unless she gives me something interesting I'm just going to plug it in and let it run like a program.

Sometimes you do get some interesting women who put in a little effort but I wouldn't count on it. Online dating isn't the place to have good conversation. It's a place to set up dates. And I ask women out no later than message number 7 no matter what else is going on, though I try to ask them out on message number 5 if it makes sense to the conversation, which if you're running a structure shouldn't be an issue almost every time.


But yeah, long story short, you should plan your messages to basically talk to a brick wall. If you can do that then you have a great message structure for online dating.

 

[DoWhatWorks]

Sounds like the exact opposite of what I was suggesting. Curious, when did you do online and was it dating apps or sites?

2 months' ago and apps was where I got success from. I wrote a full guide on how I got 4 lays that month here

May be an age or generation thing but I consistently got worse results if I wrote too much