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Dern

Tool-Bearing Hominid
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Met this girl on Tuesday, set up a date for upcoming Monday.

This is how our texts went.

"It was nice meeting you today - Darren :)"

Today (3 days later) she texts me:

"Hey so I talked to my bf and he said if we go for coffee he would want to come"


How do I respond to this?
 

Gentle_Phrases

Space Monkey
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Hey dude,

I'm a newbie on here and I just saw this while about to post my very own field report. HOWEVER, I have had a variant of this happen to me and I still got the girl out to a date, alone...where I proceeded to screw up because I didn't know about "token resistence." Go figure (fyi that girl just texted me to hang out). I think there are three scenarios. First is what I assume would be Chase's advice, second is Chateau Heartiste's brand of seduction, third is just to expand on the two. I think option number two will be your most POWERFUL bet.

1. Shit Test + Unhelpful attempt to get you to take her out.

Chase said in an article that if a girl sends him a message that's unhelpful he ignores it and resumes later - as if nothing happened. She may want to get you out without looking desperate, while also testing how big your balls are. Goodness. You could simply ignore this text and send her a message two days later, "Lets have drinks at my place tomorrow. How's 7pm" emphasis on no question mark. If she responds favorably she wants you. If not she's wasting your time. It could be she's hinting that anywhere you go will have to be extremely private and at an odd hour (hinty, hint, hint)

2. Unholy Shit Test

Check out some of Chateau Heartiste's advice on laconic text messages (google "Chateau Heartiste" and search "bring the movies" on his blog. Some of the things he's mentioned have worked for me getting girls to meet (so has Chase's advice - however Chateau deals with more underhanded tactics). Basic premise is she wants to test if you're alpha enough not to be fazed. Bamboozle her mind by responding with one word that will totally mistify her, thus entrenching you in her mind and engaging her "tingles". Should you reply, I would keep it to a one word text:

Her: "Hey so I talked to my bf and he said if we go for coffee he would want to come"

You: "right"

*emphasis on lowercase 'r'*

Notice how delightfully ambiguous this response is. Did you care about her blatant affront? Did she lose you? Who knows? WIth this one I almost guarantee a response. Doesn't mean she wants to marry you or anything but you will at least get a response, which you can then ignore >:) , leaving you forever on her radar

3. Parade

Check out this article by Chase if you haven't already: https://www.girlschase.com/content/how-s ... 0%99s-nose

Some girls like to parade you in front of thier boyfriend before sealin' the dealin' (according to Chase and others. I wouldn't know). So, do either option (1) or (2) and expect that she will bring the boyfriend to tag along. She wants nothing less than a stone cold stallion to ride, my friend.

In this scenario, since this text is so blatant and in some ways utterly ridiculous, I'd go with option number two. Text her "right" and then NO MORE. Simply WAIT. Then more experienced dudes can help you. Dude, I've used the laconic thing to get through something exactly like this and at least see the girl. It's the only reason I've responded to you.

Good luck playa,

G.
 

Verisimilitude

Cro-Magnon Man
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"Hey so I talked to my bf and he said if we go for coffee he would want to come"


How do I respond to this?

Simple. Respond with:

"Oh he likes watching?"
 

Dern

Tool-Bearing Hominid
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So it looks like I have two choices...

Simple. Respond with:

"Oh he likes watching?"

Or text her: "right"

If i texted her the latter, I would probably say: hey lets meet at the seats by the caf at 1230" on the day we scheduled the date, depending on how she responds.

Both seem like viable options, but which one?
 

Dern

Tool-Bearing Hominid
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I just texted her: oh he likes to watch?
She replied: i guess

Now what do i say?

1. right

2. Sounds like you don't want him to come along

What should i say?
 

Gentle_Phrases

Space Monkey
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No response.

I'm not a fan of the reply she gave you. Notice she didn't try to help you.

Wait it out. Hopefully you'll get more sage advice by tomorrow. At the very least she's the ine who last responded.
 

Chase

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I think my response to that initial message would be "lol wut?", promptly followed by radio silence.

The lesson here: make a stronger first impression, such that she doesn't WANT to tell her boyfriend about you. If she's sufficiently interested, he'll never know your existence, nor about your date with his girlfriend.

Chase
 
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Nuncle

Tool-Bearing Hominid
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Reminds me of the time I was lodging with a family and one day the daughter (an 8, Sorry Chase!) phoned the house out of the blue and asked if I would like to come out for a drink, which turned out to be just me and her. She was about 7 years younger than me.

Turned into a big, late night, visiting some dodgy late night clubs with her coming up real close to me, talking in my ear with her big boobs jogging up and down just beneath my chin. And during the night some other girl (actually a 9) asked her if we were an item and the 2 of them got into a furious row on some meaningless girl pretext, which she then told me about. Thing is, though, this girl (the one I was out with) had a very handsome, very large boyfriend who was always coming to the house and who she was always going on about. She phoned him a few times during the night and in one of these mentioned casually that she was out drinking with me. So I kind of thought "oh, well obviously this is just a "friendly" thing after all then!"

When we got back to the house she cooked me some food (about 4am) and then, on the basis of the above, I got up and said "Well, thanks for a good night!" and walked off. Then she went into some pretty serious auto rejection and was either cold or an outright bitch to me for the rest of my stay in the house.

Just saying. Don't really know what the moral is (I knew nothing about game back then) but I guess the stuff with the boyfriend was to test how alpha I was???
 
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