How to Screen for Girls Down for Quick Sex

[Kent]

Hey guys, I’ve had a bit of recurrent trend that is messing with my head, if anyone has any tips I’d appreciate it

This has happened 3 times in the past few months and several times before that. I’ll have a great, sexual vibe with a cool girl that I’m interested in casually dating. They’ll talk openly to me about sex fantasies and previous partners, and seem like they’re having a great time.

Then they’ll invite me over to their place late, but refuse to let me escalate past kissing. One girl told me she had slept with a lot of guys fast before but really liked me so she wanted to take it slow (I’ve had this happen multiple times - seems like a bizarre way to reward someone you actually like). Another said she wanted it to be more romantic, even though she had framed the situation in an explicitly sexual way (told me she wanted to fuck in our first conversation).

I can’t help but lose interest and quit pursuing them after these frustrating situations, although I care about these women and want the best for them. I frame myself from the beginning as someone who travels a lot and is not interested in a committed relationship so as to never give a false impression.

If anyone has any tips on screening for girls who won’t do this type of thing I’d really appreciate it. I’d honestly love to just have a steady FWB/girlfriend with a high sex drive who doesn’t use sex as a tool to screw with my head, but instead just loves to fuck as much as I do. I feel that girls who want to have sex are much more “on my team” and want me to win at my higher purpose than the girls who do this kind of thing, and I’d rather have them in my corner.

Thanks guys and hope you’re doing well

 

[Fuck This]

Don't be SO available....Let her know she might lose you if you don't consummate the deal tonight. Not explicitly saying that but feeding the mindset of "Now or Never".

Minimize the time between becoming acquainted and meeting.

Putting passion in the relationship as a big priority, and being non judgy about casual sex.
Statements like:
" I need a relationship to be hot and steamy and passionate to really feel engaged in it."
"Without sex and passion, Relationships feel empty"
"I know how I feel about the physical need for intimacy in a relationship , and I won't judge a woman for feeling the same way."
"There is nothing better than a sex partner you have created an understanding with and are on the same level. You can anticipate each other and it is so rewarding at a deeper level when you do spent time together intimately."

Also abstaining from PDA (but not KINO) when you first meet shows her you will be considerate of her reputation and she can pursue her own pleasure without worrying about you giving her a bad reputation. Build up the sexual tension in public and steal a kiss in private....

 

[Derek da man]

Then they’ll invite me over to their place late, but refuse to let me escalate past kissing. One girl told me she had slept with a lot of guys fast before but really liked me so she wanted to take it slow (I’ve had this happen multiple times - seems like a bizarre way to reward someone you actually like). Another said she wanted it to be more romantic, even though she had framed the situation in an explicitly sexual way (told me she wanted to fuck in our first conversation).

Sounds like LMR (Last Minute Resistance) which can have a number of causes but usually she just doesn't want to feel like a slut. Underpinning most girls self worth is that they are not a slut therefore anything that undermines this position is resisted. She needs to be able to reason sex just happened and it wasn't her fault - this is girl logic not man logic.

Assuming you've set your fame/perspective as @Fuck This said above you may need more persistence (not force), when she says slow down you stop, with draw a little and go back to chatting or whatever, then after 5-10 minutes kiss her again and escalate again, slowly and make sure you turn her on more. If after 3 times she's not giving in then it's time to leave, or at least make her think your going to leave.

Ironically once you get into the sex the same girl will love being called a slut and more - girl logic for you

 

[TomInHo]

Hey guys, I’ve had a bit of recurrent trend that is messing with my head, if anyone has any tips I’d appreciate it

This has happened 3 times in the past few months and several times before that. I’ll have a great, sexual vibe with a cool girl that I’m interested in casually dating. They’ll talk openly to me about sex fantasies and previous partners, and seem like they’re having a great time.

That's a good sign. Means they see you as a potential lover at this point

Then they’ll invite me over to their place late, but refuse to let me escalate past kissing. One girl told me she had slept with a lot of guys fast before but really liked me so she wanted to take it slow (I’ve had this happen multiple times - seems like a bizarre way to reward someone you actually like). Another said she wanted it to be more romantic, even though she had framed the situation in an explicitly sexual way (told me she wanted to fuck in our first conversation).

This means that when they came to your place, you probably set off some frames that make them see you as a potential boyfriend.

I can’t help but lose interest and quit pursuing them after these frustrating situations, although I care about these women and want the best for them. I frame myself from the beginning as someone who travels a lot and is not interested in a committed relationship so as to never give a false impression.

This could be the issue. They probably sense that you care too much about them, hence sending out boyfriend vibes that make them want to put you on the slow track.

Also, I'm not sure how you communicate that you're not interested in a committed relationship, but you don't need to be overt about it.

Without you realizing it you're coming across as too relationship focused and thinking about the future.... again more boyfriend vibes

If anyone has any tips on screening for girls who won’t do this type of thing I’d really appreciate it. I’d honestly love to just have a steady FWB/girlfriend with a high sex drive who doesn’t use sex as a tool to screw with my head, but instead just loves to fuck as much as I do. I feel that girls who want to have sex are much more “on my team” and want me to win at my higher purpose than the girls who do this kind of thing, and I’d rather have them in my corner.

@Kent If a girl came to your house late at night..... She is DTF

There is no more screening needed. The mistake you're making is in the frames you're setting when they get to your place.

What you should focus on is having a casual, sexual vibe when they come over. Instead you may be coming off as too serious when trying to set expectations

So try this

PRE - LAY (GET HER HORNY)
- Keep conversation fun and mostly focused on her. Minimize how much you reveal about yourself
- Use Micro-Escalation to get her horny.... eye contact, get closer, deeper voice, touching
- Share a sex story to set the mood... I love using stories about first date sex to set the tone and frame that I'm open to casual sex
- Deep Dive her sexual values.... get her to open up about sexual fantasies or what she likes
- Escalate hard and fast when she gets horny.....

Remember that she came to your place for a reason. She didn't cum for a pleasant chat, she came to get fucked. Therefore it's smart to make the move when her arousal is high to avoid missing an escalation window and losing attraction.

Also be aware that escalation windows can present themselves very fast, sometimes within 5-10 mins of her getting to your place

Pretty much you set implicit frames about the kind of guy you are... A good fuck

SEX
- Fuck her good

POST - LAY (SET EXPECTATIONS)
- Now is the time you can open up a little more about yourself and set expectations
- If you want to keep her around consider going on a reverse date.... where you go somewhere outside the house to bond more and set better expectation, like a late night diner or even a fast food joint. This will make her feel like you have some respect for her and reduce buyers remorse
- Come back home and have more sex. This is to make sure that the frames you set on the reverse date actually stick and also increase the chances of her coming back

After the first lay is the best time to get a more explicit with your frames about the kind of guy you actually are... A good fuck, that could be open to something more