How to set/ raise standards for PU/lays

[empath]

I read to this article and probably misinterpreted it and ended up with no standard.

Lower Your Standards (and Date Hotter Girls)

In "How Much Do Looks Matter for Romantic Success?," Balla asks whether to lower your standards in pursuit of getting the best results with women achievable: “Hey Chase, I can agree with everything you wrote to a T. What I want to ask about is this. You say naturals are better to learn from...

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Anyways it helped me to practice game and finally I was able to first get girls and then good girls.

But if I am running on a dry spell and there is easy lay I take it sometime and end up feeling bad about it.

Similar to how you will feel bad about jerking off.

Nd the point is I still dont have any standards.

So basically I want to unlearn from this article and actually set and enforce some standards for myself.

Curious what standards you guys have for hookups, fbs, mltr and ltrs.

Did you ever lowered them and now still do you end up boning time time those low hanging fruits and how do you go about enforcing your standards.

Also, having no standards affects my screening and qualifying game as well.

Yeah tldr

Help me raise and set some standards

 

[FluidCharm]

There are 2 articles from Alek that i think will help you a ton regarding this question!
titled :-
1) What Should Your Standards Be When Picking Up Women?
2)How to Figure Out Your Standards for Hookups and Flings

i tried adding links to the same but the post was'nt going through

 

[topcat]

My standards evolved out of experience:

Fuck a batch of girls reflect on what i didn’t like, what i want more of.

Look for more of the latter, screen out the former.

Rinse and repeat.

 

[TomInHo]

Hookups:.is she hot enough to get my dick hard?

FB: is she hot enough to get my dick hard after multiple sexual encounters?

MLTR: does she get my dick hard after multiple sexual encounters and do I like spending non sexual time with her?

LTR: is she all the above and are her values and lifestyle compatible with mine long term and am I ready to commit and develop a mutually beneficial relationship with her

I'm not some over 40 year old woman with a ridiculous 50 point checklist for what I need in sexual partners and personally think a lot of guys overthink it or don't consider the responsibilities required in a serious LTR enough

But if I am running on a dry spell and there is easy lay I take it sometime and end up feeling bad about it.

Similar to how you will feel bad about jerking off.

Also I do not feel bad about jerking off or fucking a girl once. If you have shame around your sexuality there may be something deeper going on you may need to address

TLDR: If you’re consistently ending up with girls you aren’t really attracted to, then your first standard should be only going for women who genuinely turn you on physically. Once that’s handled, you can refine your criteria for emotional and lifestyle compatibility for who you actually want to keep around.

 

[StrayDog]

Hookups:.is she hot enough to get my dick hard?

FB: is she hot enough to get my dick hard after multiple sexual encounters?

MLTR: does she get my dick hard after multiple sexual encounters and do I like spending non sexual time with her?

LTR: is she all the above and are her values and lifestyle compatible with mine long term and am I ready to commit and develop a mutually beneficial relationship with her

I'm not some over 40 year old woman with a ridiculous 50 point checklist for what I need in sexual partners and personally think a lot of guys overthink it or don't consider the responsibilities required in a serious LTR enough



Also I do not feel bad about jerking off or fucking a girl once. If you have shame around your sexuality there may be something deeper going on you may need to address

TLDR: If you’re consistently ending up with girls you aren’t really attracted to, then your first standard should be only going for women who genuinely turn you on physically. Once that’s handled, you can refine your criteria for emotional and lifestyle compatibility for who you actually want to keep around.

all this, and then overtime. Once you have some dating reference points and a better sense what you're looking for, compress all these.

So hookup standards start to be closer to MLTR standards.

The reason being that if you are not getting for some longevity, wherever you lowered your standards will be an issue later in the relationship.

If you consistently lower your standards you will be stuck in ONS territory, or have relationships that stall out.

Lower your standards enough times and it will start to effect your self image.

So, get some experience. Then have some discipline once you know better what works for you and what doesn't.