How does one show genuine and authentic sexual interest in a female where you do not sound like you are looking for sex but rather the kind where you come off as someone who is appreciating the fact that this particular girl has an amazing body, looks etc. I do not know if there is a fool proof way of how to go about telling a girl that "she looks so sexy she makes my heart race" otherwise you sound like a pig. This has to be a statement that doesn't make you seem needy or kiss ass but authentic. Most females in my age range are still college girls 19-24 (I am 22) and they are used to typical needy vibes this includes pick up lines, cat calling, or blunt statements (usually when the opposite sex is drunk) and these girls now assume they know how to read a man because they think he just wants sex--this is not my case. I want to be the opposite of all the majority of college dudes.
Socializing how to show a woman that you desire her?
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Cassanova,
I can't give you clear advice, (yet) because I'm experiencing the same problem...
But what I can say is: avoid telling girls, "I just want to show you that I'm different. I'm not like all the other guys out there."
It tends to blow up in your face, most of the time.
Obviously, it possible to pull it off.. If you are really genuine about it. But I'm at beginner level at this point, so saying such things makes me sound boyfriend-ish.
- Sam
I can't give you clear advice, (yet) because I'm experiencing the same problem...
But what I can say is: avoid telling girls, "I just want to show you that I'm different. I'm not like all the other guys out there."
It tends to blow up in your face, most of the time.
Obviously, it possible to pull it off.. If you are really genuine about it. But I'm at beginner level at this point, so saying such things makes me sound boyfriend-ish.
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cassanova said:
Well,
I will tell you that you do not show a girl you're different by saying "Hey, I'm different!" and you don't show a girl you're genuinely interested in her by saying "Hey, I'm different than these college guys who only want sex! That's just wrong."
You show a girl you're different by actually showing her you're different. What do these guys do (what actions do they take to show her who they are)? What should you do to portray yourself as someone different?
It's all about showing a girl who you are and you do that, not with words, but with actions. When you're out with her, focus on her and be in the moment with her - she'll know if you are or aren't.
Furthermore, you can say anything to a girl. You can absolutely tell her "Hey, I saw you walking and couldn't help but notice how sexy you are. My heart started to race so I knew I had to come introduce myself." etc. It's all about being clear with your intentions and staying relaxed while moving forward.
NOW! With all of that being said - I assume you're pretty inexperienced which is why you're worried about this. You have to have an abundance mentality mindset to be openly sexual with women because it's higher risk than "average joe" kinda game but it's also higher reward. Some girls will respond well to this, and some won't - same with any other kind of game or socializing you do and those are the facts.
There is absolutely no fool-proof way to be sexual with women and have every single girl react well and no matter what you do 33% will respond well, 33% won't, and 33% will be indifferent (on average, these averages will vary slightly and change with more experience and the ability to target). So, you might as well run the kinda game that let's you be sexual with the 33% who do respond well.
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This an interesting question, and the answer to showing that you are sexually interested in her without coming off needy or ``creepy``, is to have 1)Clarity of intent, and 2)Freedom from outcome. Clarity of intent means that you are expressing that you want her, and you are not ashamed of it. This is done by your sub-communication. YOu can tell her she is cute, hot, but even the words can be decieving, and she will mainly pick-up on the way you say it. Freedom from outcome means that you are indifferent to how she will react, what she will think about you, and what the possible ``consequences`` are. When you add these two things together, what do they equate to? They equate to you saying that you find her beautiful with an entitled tone of voice, mannerisms, and vibe. The same principle applies to opening direct for example, as you can say you find her beautiful in an unentitled way and scare her off, or you can say she is beutiful in an entitled way and get her blushing and that much more engaged into you. Hope this help.