How to spark interest and compliance?

[Railer]

I almost never feel any sort of "chemistry" and that surely is true for the girl too and it somehow feels as if I suck at getting compliance.

I often notice that I have a big bonus due to my looks ... but once interacting, I sometimes have the impression that I may "just not be that interesting".

Many girls appear to loose interest quickly ... and I have no idea why.

Any hints as to what I may investigate/adopt to tackle that issue?

(Check "FR: Sometimes you loose": viewtopic.php?f=5&t=14181 for quick examples.)

 

[lao che]

i just read that link. shit dude did that all happen in one night?

my overriding impression is that you are way too forward, almost creepy, and appear insincere and quite clearly only trying to get laid quick.

 

[HellAtlantic]

Are you trying to win a "who can get the most numbers" challenge? You got like 5 numbers in that FR it seems - why? What's stopping you after you get one number from trying to push the interaction as far as it can go? Only you know what your endgame is. If your endgame is to quickly get a number and exit well you're accomplishing that goal. If your endgame is to bang then you're exiting too quickly. Why do you need their numbers anyway? When you get like 5+ numbers in a nite then you're not putting in enough work. You're just being a social butterfly. Girls give their number to basically any normal guy who asks them after like a 5 min convo, the number in and of itself isn't the goal.

 

[Smith]

Agree with lao che man...you need to calibrate. If you're making girls suddenly walk away, then you're doing something majorly wrong. Backing off is very important. I think that might be why they lose interest. Neediness for sex is not attractive.

 

[Railer]

It seems, in my FR, the time-lapse through my experiences was too fast.

Leaving out the details I had you believe that I was generally too fast.

I just added some info to the thread.

i just read that link. shit dude did that all happen in one night?
my overriding impression is that you are way too forward, almost creepy, and appear insincere and quite clearly only trying to get laid quick.

... minus some minor interactions, yes.

Interestingly: The one I was slowest with and took time to get to know better, was the one who made the rudest exit - the one who said she won't give me the number if I forgot her name.

In GC terms that smells like auto-rejection, but I am not firm enough yet to say for sure. Besides having her wait two minutes when my friend showed up, I always paid the amount of attention that was due. (That was one of my best friends and we see each other once a year. Sure, she didn't know that.)

Sure, once at the lake was when the alcohol really started to kick in, so it was from that moment that I became too forward.

"Insincere" in which sense?

You got like 5 numbers in that FR it seems - why? What's stopping you after you get one number from trying to push the interaction as far as it can go?

Getting the number is a new habit of mine - If possible, I get it while it naturally fits into the interaction, thus avoiding having to TRY when she decides to leave.

More specifically:

Girl 1: I got it, because I was about to be picked up by a friend.
Girl 2: Got it naturally, which was good, because she later didn't want to join me directly (needed to rest before the competition the next day).
Girl 3: Wouldn't join right away, because she and her brother already had different plans.
Girl 4: Got the number, because she was hot, I was drunk, and my chances in the moment were practically zero anyway.
Girl 5: I know her for 2 years and had decided to get her number the next time I'd see her.
Girl 6: Mid-interaction, to have it just in case.

I once (in my life?) cancelled a friend in order to stay at a girl's home. Suppose he understood, but it's neither nice nor does it make a good impression towards the girl.

Especially with girl 1 I wonder what I could have done better, but I'm stuck. Currently, it seems the number was fake. It seems I was being dismissed solely due to my age, which is frustrating, because, for me, the way she looked at me had "attraction" written all over.

you need to calibrate.

What exactly?

 

[HellAtlantic]

From my likely incorrect perspective you seem to try to quickly get the number and exit before the girl has a chance to get bored. Almost as if girls don't get bored from talking to you because you don't give them enough time to get bored - I do that myself a lot. I rather exit prematurely leaving her wanting more than risk having the convo die a slow death and the last impression she has is "oh god when is this convo gonna end?? Someone save me!" Lol. I'm probably the opposite of you - I don't ask for the number at all. A small part of it is my text game isn't on point so I prefer not to sully my image with weak texting. Another part is when I get drunk I have a habit of sending dick pics to girls so the less #'s I have the less damage I can do lol.

 

[Railer]

Another part is when I get drunk I have a habit of sending dick pics to girls so the less #'s I have the less damage I can do lol.

Hehe you just made me smile.

Almost as if girls don't get bored from talking to you because you don't give them enough time to get bored - I do that myself a lot.

Hmmm ... maybe. Maybe my feeling is just wrong when I think "ok she apparently doesn't want to continue".

It's very typical to have good responses within the first moments, but then things die. At times I even thought I may stink or just have an ugly voice ... but maybe this is really just them wanting me to show how much I really would appreciate being with them and "chase" a little.

I just posted a FR where a guy told me how handsome I was ... Also yesterday, I tried to do stop girl on the street, she commented on my good looks and kept walking.

So, oftentimes I honestly think that different pickup rules apply in my case. It seems many do consider me a "10" and EVEN THOUGH I am amping up my attainability by being kind, friendly and even chasing a little, things go fail.

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As for your texting, I adopted Chase's idea of using it to remind her of you at the beginning and otherwise EXCLUSIVELY using it to arrange a meet:

1. One text a few hours after meeting her saying that you enjoyed it and adding your name.
2. Another text the next day, suggesting to meet and asking when she's free.

I avoid WhatsApp and anything that is unlimited and free of charge. Between (1) & (2) I like to do a phone call to confirm my interest and verify the number.

I'm unsure if it was actually you, but I think so stated in some post that you were quite young. Be sure to fill your spare time with stuff meaningful stuff so that you ACTUALLY LACK TIME to be on social media.

 

[HellAtlantic]

If 38 is considered young then yes it was me who said that. Lol

 

[Railer]

If 38 is considered young then yes it was me who said that. Lol

Oh, I confused things