How to Stop Acting Insecure When a Girl Acts Different

[Troy]

Sup everyone,

I've realized I get jealous easily when another guy is flirting with my girl. How do I kill this needy vibe and what should I do when a girl saw me getting jealous? I've lost points and now she is neutral towards me. Her name is Ashley. She texted me yesterday but I still feel insecure about the whole thing. Everytime I face an obstacle I back down. Maybe my expectations are too high.

If I know a girl is extremely happy to see me all the time then one day I make a slight mistake and she acts bored or neutral I freak out. I think I'm pushing girl's away by doing this. I expected her to be smiling and all because she wasn't made me feel I lost her and now I should hide away.

What do I do when a girl doesn't act the way I expected? How do I kill my insecurity fast? Even before developing a abundance mindset because sometimes I really like a girl and don't want to walk away because of a minor hurdle. Thanks.

Troy

Edit: She just messaged me asking that I remind her the name of that guy. I told her his name and she said thanks. Then nothing. What should I do?

Edit 2: I'm going through two cases with different girl's. A earlier post this happened to me with Malika and a former friend. viewtopic.php?f=3&t=9791.

In the one with Malika and Brandon it seems like they are talking now and I know he is gaming her real hard. I dont have time to wait. I've got to sleep with her before this girl thief takes her away. He already stole a girl from me and I went through pain seeing that. I don't want to lose another girl like that. I see Malika at school tomorrow. Should I ask her out? How do I do it? And how should I get her home? This is social circle so anything that happens will affect me greatly.

This is a emergency. I'd appreciate any help guy's. I'm on the borderline of losing my girl to a crook. A backstabber that waits till I have a girl to pounce. HELP PLEASE AND THANKS

 

[Smith]

In the one with Malika and Brandon it seems like they are talking now and I know he is gaming her real hard. I dont have time to wait. I've got to sleep with her before this girl thief takes her away. He already stole a girl from me and I went through pain seeing that. I don't want to lose another girl like that. I see Malika at school tomorrow. Should I ask her out? How do I do it? And how should I get her home? This is social circle so anything that happens will affect me greatly.

There's your problem mate. The girl was never "yours" or "anyone's", whether or not you've slept with her. She's never yours to "lose", even in a relationship. Accept this and all your action will seem more natural and laid back, instead of needy and insecure.

From what I quickly read on your other report, it seemed like Brandon was trying to teach you 'game'. Learn from him. Don't hate him. You can't hate the player when you don't know how to play the game.
Here's the thing, just because she likes and wants to fuck Brandon, it doesn't mean she doesn't want to fuck you. She might also want you too. Accept sexual freedom my friend!
Giving power to your insecurity will fuck you up on so many levels.

 

[Troy]

Smith,

I didn't have any idea that was the problem. I've always set my eyes on having the girl to myself until we broke up. What I'll do is visualize sharing girl's with other guys. Even the best of friends I wouldn't want to have sleep or flirt with them. I see your point. The more a person tries to control something uncontrollable is the more needy they will feel.

Other than visualizing I can't think of any other techniques to kill my neediness.

You said Brandon was trying to teach me how to game. I re-read what I said but haven't seen any clues to that. What are the things he did that gave you the impression he was trying to teach me game? Learning this I know I'd never mistake when a guy is teaching me game.

Finally, I asked Malika to meet me at school gate tomorrow and we go chill in town. My plan is to walk with her into town then tell her we are making a stop at somewhere else. Of course I won't tell her where we are going. I know she will protest, or at least ask where I'm taking her. I'll be taking her straight home.

I have no idea what to do once I have her home. For a high school girl I don't know how she will react when I get to my house and tell her to come in.
If that plan falls flat I'll have to find a bathroom to pull her. Even then I'm anxious since I've never done this with a social circle gyal before. I'm going to research how to escalate now. Hopefully I figure out how to get her home and bed her. It would be a great report.

Thanks for the advice Smith.

Troy

 

[Troy]

Hey Smith,

I just lost my virginity fare and square. I thank you for all your help. I'm a bit weak now but I put up a introduction here viewtopic.php?f=5&t=9837#p47736

I will put up a full report later. Thanks for your advice all the way bro! By the way the girl I fucked was Malika. I'm proud.

Troy

 

[Smith]

I just lost my virginity fare and square. I thank you for all your help. I'm a bit weak now but I put up a introduction here viewtopic.php?f=5&t=9837#p47736

I will put up a full report later. Thanks for your advice all the way bro! By the way the girl I fucked was Malika. I'm proud.

Congrats bro That's awesome!