How to stop feeling like shit after rejection?

[Sub-Zero]

Sup guys, im having a very tough problem right now, when i ever i get rejected, my whole game, confidence, and self worth go down. When i do approaches and get rejected; i can't help but feel like shit, i feel like if that girl doesn't want me, why would this one? And i feel they would feel the same way too. I feel like getting rejected gives you bad pre selection. It throws off my whole night, after i get rejected I feel like a creep and my confidence goes down and i think no one wants me after i have been rejected, my social value goes down.

What can i do guys? Thanks.

 

[ray_zorse]

1. Do daygame, just walk in a different direction after each approach. New people around you
2. Drunken idiots doing poor game around you will ruin it for you, girls won't be able to tell you're not one.
3. They didn't reject the product, only the way it was presented to them. They didn't know any better.
4. Approach confidently. No excuse me's or explanations etc. Body language alone can eliminate blowouts.
5. Approach fatties, ugly chicks, older chicks, ...
6. Be self amused. Set yourself goals like, the next girl I speak to I'm gonna say something outrageously sexual just for fun. This helps to avoid neediness in your approach.
7. There is no number 7.
8. Rack up tons of rejections.
9. Read Tucker Max and say insulting shit to women who reject you.
10. Don't approach groups or in situations you might be overheard.
11. See if u can figure out what if anything u did wrong each time, body language, voice tone, facial expressions...?

Umm I dunno that was just some random thoughts, hope it helps.

cheers, Ray

 

[Smith]

Money,

You're seeking validation from girls, and that's why when you get a series of rejections, your confidence goes down because you no longer have girl's permission to be 'good at game'.

Play. Don't take it too seriously. Be self-amused. Make every rejection funny.

- Smith

 

[PrettyDecent]

Money,

When I was still cutting my teeth in approaching, and would get rejected for reasons I didn't know, I found it helpful to spend a second or two asking myself "was my approach off? Or was she unavailable?"

If they failed to open for me at all, I determined she was unavailable. If she opened for me and was giving me investment, but I felt something "off", and she later rejected me, then I knew it was my fault.

Nowadays, this type of thinking is subconscious, and if a girl doesn't open for me, I don't even spend a half a thought cycle thinking about it. Then I just look for another girl I think is pretty and open her instead (sometimes this process repeats a couple more times before I find a girl who's available).

I think your time and energy is better spent thinking about what you could have done better with the girls who did open for you (who would've been open to sleeping with you had you handled everything correctly), but you lost somewhere in the middle.

~Nick

 

[Mr.Rob]

I agree with Smith in that you're probably seeking validation.
I may be wrong but this is a common problem a lot of guys have and sometimes even intermediate to advanced guys have.

I usually don't, but occasionally do slip into validation seeking behaviors which will in and of itself get you rejected when girls sense you doing it.
When I'm seeking validation my opener say it's "Hey your extremely sexy I'm Robert who are you?" to the girl the emotional communication reads as so: "Hi i'm Robert do you like me? Will you hang around me so my emotional state will improve?"
When in reality the emotional communication should read like this... "Aye I'm Robert, I'm a cool mother fucker and if you think differently I'll wonder what drugs your on and proceed to laugh and meet the girl behind you... butttt lets see if we get along while I'm here"

Also, do you really want every girl to like you?
What if you went and talked to a girl and she was really nice and seemed interested. You have a 30 minute conversation with her, you think it's going great, and then you ask her to meet up later with you and she tells you she has a Husband and can't...
You just wasted 30 minutes time/energy. Wouldn't it have been nicer if she just bluntly rejected you within the first 30 seconds of conversation, even if it was "mean".
Idk bout you but I prefer the later over the former... just food for thought.

 

[Estate]

Honestly,
Say you're at a bar and you make conversation with a girl and get shot down.
You know what to do, turn around and talk tot he very next person...

Take your mind off the first, and when you're learning, you just do it until you're numb. Like... if you get shot down, it's just like "Haha, silly girl..."

Look, rejection sucks, it'll always hit you in he gut a little bit. But the difference is you just need to bounce back immediately.
I used to approach one girl, get shot down and ruminate on it for weeks if not months before trying again, before I learned all this stuff. Just don't let that happen to you.

 

[robertnyc]

Money,

I try to think of what the alternative would have been - which would be sitting around, noticing a cute girl but not going up to talk to her. I feel worse for doing that then I do from approaching and getting rejected. If I approach in a decent manner and go direct either on the opener or shortly thereafter I feel good about going after what I wanted even if I didn't get it that particular time.

Also, its wrong to think your value goes down after a rejection. An old PUA named Captain Jack used to say that just by approaching you are a player in the game and your value actually goes up when other women see you do this. Even if you get rejected your value is still higher for girls that are looking to meet a guy then it would be if you sat around and did nothing. Essentially if you just sat around you would not be a player in the game you would just be a spectator.