It's difficult, IMO if you are a normal guy the feelings will always be there. The feelings are not actually that bad, they give you good natural vibes while around the girl, and at the same time some purpose of living. Imagine this world without any females, how fucking depressing...
You want to regulate those feelings though, you can't get too soft, too feminine. You want to increase your masculine energy. You are a dick and you want to fuck, you want to penetrate, that is it. If you can't fuck one girl because she is too difficult, you move on onto another one. And another one. Be a dick head, forget the head on your neck that you are using. Stop thinking logic, stop creating logical strategies to get her. Start using your dick only as thinking source. She makes you horny? Well, go after her with everything you have. Charm her the best way you can. Use everything you can to get her. She doesn't like it, she rejects you? Well, NEXT! Bitch doesn't worth your effort...
You can't keep thinking about one girl over and over, you are digging a deep hole for yourself, especially if she does nothing to be with you. Walk away, become more independent. You want females but you don't need them....
Use mental filtering. Basically, you will selectively chose all negatives on that particular girl and you will ignore all the positive things. You use positive mental filtering about yourself - you are a great/sexy guy, you have great personality, you are high value man. Use negative mental filtering on her - she has low value, she is just a bitch, she's got lots of problems and a lot of baggage, and so on...
When a guy meets cute girl, he sees only the positives - she is soft, cute, sexy and sweet, she makes him feel great. She makes him feel like he's the king of this world. Those are amazing feelings, in my experience the best feelings a person can have in this world. Because of these feelings he can't even see her true personality. The personality appears only after all those feelings are gone...
There is a lot of fake in these feelings, especially if they become platonic. You (a guy) are blinded by this fake love. This platonic love is basically you imagination where you are with this girl together, you are saving her and protecting her, she loves you with all her heart, you are making up together, and she wants only you in the entire world... Great feelings, you are re-playing them over and over in your mind because they feel so good. You feel like you are the best guy in this world, perhaps some sort of a fucking hero, if not savior. You are idealizing that girl, you are making her perfect. The girl that is in your head now will eventually become totally different from the girl you are after... Once you realize that you will see that you fell in love with fake, not with the real girl... You will realize that love is just a fake...
You then wake up in the morning, and you are back to reality. In this reality you realize that she doesn't really give a shit about you, she could care less what you think about her and how you feel. She is just a person with many faults, like everybody else. You realize that this sweet thing doesn't really give a damn about not responding to your great messages, and she is avoiding all of your efforts to get closer to her. You realize that she might even be repulsed and annoyed by your constant focus on her...
Even if you wake up next to her the next morning and maybe you had a great fuck all night, you'll realize that she is just a pussy. Hole between two legs. A piece of meat that she is pissing on every day. She put up lots of fake, she built high barriers for you, she did lots of pretending, she made you crawl after her like she is the fucking price. She made you work so hard just for a simple fuck. Does it even worth it, does it worth to chase ANY pussy? Well, the best way is to find out yourself - chase her as much as you can and as far as you can, and you'll see. It is a very good practice to chase women. That is the best way and perhaps the only way to find out that it doesn't worth it at all... What a fucking disappointment, you've been fooled...
Do you think she would give lots of resistance to a guy who she really considers charming and attractive? She would fuck him within 20 minutes in the bathroom. There would be no barriers, there would be little obstacles in his way, it would be simple and easy for him...
So fuck it then. She is just a person. If she is around 30, she most likely has lots of baggage - broken heart, financial problems, angry boyfriends, persistent orbitals, maybe even a child... Don't be surprised if she is depressed, over the time she will - cleverly - make you the source of her depression. Chances are that she gets quite emotional, up and down, back and forth, cold and hot - can any sane man deal with those fucking emotions? No he can't, they'll drag him down, he will become pussy just by listening and complying to that constant nonsense. What for does any sane guy need female? Any guy who wants to settle down with female, marry her, take care of her, pay for her and so on must be simply insane...
You have to love money. Your own money that is, the money that you make. Love those money of yours. Be fucking selfish, forget all the beta crap about sharing what you have. Fuck sharing, you want to spent all this money on yourself only. If you spent more than $10 on that female, you don't love your money enough. No, you don't love yourself enough. Buy her a coffee at Starbucks, ok, but asks her for at least $0.50 because you don't have change - and make sure that next round is on her!
Why am I saying that horrible and selfish thing? Because if she wants you as a BF or husband, she is only after your valet. True, she still want to be around good/decent person, she still want you to have good personality and character - but which guy isn't? So lets cut that crap because MOST guys are already like that. All she cares about is your valet, your house, your retirement. Your work, how much you make, how much you can provide FOR HER. That is HER safety, HER comfort. She could care less about your fucking personality (unless she just wants to fuck). Don't believe me? Look around, look at all the divorced men. Many of them were/are great guys, many of them are hard working, many of them are improving themselves. Many of them break their backs just for her. Many of them were/are decent character, many of them were/are doing what exactly they thought they are doing right - yet they are being replaced on the spot, stripped off their money, demoralized and depressed - while they can't even figure out why they mean shit in her eyes...
And you know what? Second thought, maybe they fully deserve it. They deserve it not because they are not great men - they deserve it because of their pussy-ness...
Eh, don't get me going. Don't be a pussy - be a man!
