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Hey everyone,
I'm a second semester freshman in college and I'm feeling like I have these mental blocks that preventing me from approaching girls. I did pick up in my senior year in high school and had a few successes, and I noticed that my successes were never mild they were always really great sets. Usually I noticed that when I had successes I was operating from a different state than my default which is more aloof. However, when I came into college I did a little bit of pick up; there is one girl (whom went to my high school for a couple of years) that I'm still in contact with that comes over pretty often and I have another girl (actually my ex) who is regaining feelings for me. Last night I was in her room and we were cuddling and watching youtube videos. This instance had me thinking that I lack abundance when it comes to women. I have my fundamentals down but when it comes to actually approaching women (with sexual intentions) I feel resistance even if I know shes's interested in me. For instance in public speaking class there is a girl that I'm very attracted to. As I was giving my speech pretty much me and her maintained eye contact for most of it. I could tell she had an interest in me by the way she looked at me and overreacted to my joke and by how attentive she was. When we left class she followed behind me for a majority of my walk but I couldn't bring myself to say anything to her. I didn't feel any of the physical signals of fear it was all completely mental; I just couldn't formulate anything to say that would propel the conversation in the direction I want it to go. There is also another girl that I see literately everywhere, I'm sure she notice me as well, I want to introduce myself to her, but once again there is this mental barrier.
Coming into college my primary focus has been self development. I've been reading a lot of books, watching videos, reading blogs, working out, eating healthy etc. trying to become the man that I want to be and to understand myself better as well. At this point I feel the next step is perfecting my relationship with the opposite sex. When I get to a point of comfortably and I am naturally good with women, but its getting to that part where I can begin to feel comfortable which is the problem. Like when I'm with my ex and the girl I met at the beginning of the semester our interactions are golden. I just want it to be like that all the time. Any idea's?
I'm a second semester freshman in college and I'm feeling like I have these mental blocks that preventing me from approaching girls. I did pick up in my senior year in high school and had a few successes, and I noticed that my successes were never mild they were always really great sets. Usually I noticed that when I had successes I was operating from a different state than my default which is more aloof. However, when I came into college I did a little bit of pick up; there is one girl (whom went to my high school for a couple of years) that I'm still in contact with that comes over pretty often and I have another girl (actually my ex) who is regaining feelings for me. Last night I was in her room and we were cuddling and watching youtube videos. This instance had me thinking that I lack abundance when it comes to women. I have my fundamentals down but when it comes to actually approaching women (with sexual intentions) I feel resistance even if I know shes's interested in me. For instance in public speaking class there is a girl that I'm very attracted to. As I was giving my speech pretty much me and her maintained eye contact for most of it. I could tell she had an interest in me by the way she looked at me and overreacted to my joke and by how attentive she was. When we left class she followed behind me for a majority of my walk but I couldn't bring myself to say anything to her. I didn't feel any of the physical signals of fear it was all completely mental; I just couldn't formulate anything to say that would propel the conversation in the direction I want it to go. There is also another girl that I see literately everywhere, I'm sure she notice me as well, I want to introduce myself to her, but once again there is this mental barrier.
Coming into college my primary focus has been self development. I've been reading a lot of books, watching videos, reading blogs, working out, eating healthy etc. trying to become the man that I want to be and to understand myself better as well. At this point I feel the next step is perfecting my relationship with the opposite sex. When I get to a point of comfortably and I am naturally good with women, but its getting to that part where I can begin to feel comfortable which is the problem. Like when I'm with my ex and the girl I met at the beginning of the semester our interactions are golden. I just want it to be like that all the time. Any idea's?
