I have been having this problem for a long time: When I see a girl I wanna cold approach, I hesitate either because I can't see her face, she is not as good looking as I thought, or she is not attractive enough. How do I get over this?
How To Stop Thinking That Girls Are Not Attractive Enough To Approach?
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Ken,
It happens. When you are high level, this gets obvious and women auto rejects you because you already too high value and assumed to kick her to the kerb after sex. So far, being warm and more empathetic do the trick.
Then kick her to the kerb.
p.s: i'm kidding but that's what people do. Operate Darwin but speak Napoloen!
Zac
It happens. When you are high level, this gets obvious and women auto rejects you because you already too high value and assumed to kick her to the kerb after sex. So far, being warm and more empathetic do the trick.
Then kick her to the kerb.
p.s: i'm kidding but that's what people do. Operate Darwin but speak Napoloen! Zac
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Know that every girl you talk to teaches you how to talk to girls, you become a better with every opening, you refine your game with every approach.
And lower your standards Get horny and you will want to bang every 6, imagine if she was naked in front of you, on her knees, begging you too fuck her doggy style like the nasty bitch she is.
And lower your standards
Get horny and you will want to bang every 6, imagine if she was naked in front of you, on her knees, begging you too fuck her doggy style like the nasty bitch she is.
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Honestly,
This sounds more like fear of approaching than anything else. If you're actually afraid to approach then you might rationalize the girl just wasn't attractive enough.
That aside, even if these girls aren't super attractive, unless you're able to reliably get laid then you shouldn't be passing up the opportunity to get field experience. Nobody is saying you have to date or fuck these chicks but approaching them should be doable and it gets you time in the ring.
-Richard
This sounds more like fear of approaching than anything else. If you're actually afraid to approach then you might rationalize the girl just wasn't attractive enough.
That aside, even if these girls aren't super attractive, unless you're able to reliably get laid then you shouldn't be passing up the opportunity to get field experience. Nobody is saying you have to date or fuck these chicks but approaching them should be doable and it gets you time in the ring.
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You don't HAVE to approach with intention. Its not effective if you want to sleep with her, but you can just walk up with no pressure and have a human to human conversation. I feel like this takes the pressure off of you, and can help give you that reassurance that yes, people are nice to you.
Jake.
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Just like Jake and Cacc said - you have to go up and talk to people.
The only forward is through action, my friend.
Again, you don't have to pull numbers and you don't have to seduce them; just talk to them and see where it goes. You might find that those cute girls (the ones you might be downplaying) are very receptive to you and you hit it off. Every girl is a mystery until you go up and talk to her.
-Richard
The only forward is through action, my friend.
Again, you don't have to pull numbers and you don't have to seduce them; just talk to them and see where it goes. You might find that those cute girls (the ones you might be downplaying) are very receptive to you and you hit it off. Every girl is a mystery until you go up and talk to her.
-Richard
My experience with this is that I very rarely meet a girl that catches my eye right away. And because there were not any and I was a big noob, I used to approach any girl I saw that seemed.. approachable and the elders here are right, I did not feel any pressure at all. But what it also did was amplify it when I finally met a girl who I really liked. You might say the issue is that I do not meet many girls that are certain level in looks, which is true. Also, yes, it gets you used to talking to strangers and you can try many things because you are not afraid to lose her but I always feel slight ingenuity on my part whenever it went too far with a girl like that because I did not like her that much. And then she hinted me how her roommate is out of town and that she will watch X movie after our date ends. And I was conflicted because I was not attracted to her, maybe not at all, and she gave me a big signal to isolate her.
So I would say - approach anyways, form up a goal before you walk up to her like get her number and be aware that you might feel more pressure when you finally approach a girl you find very attractive (because at one point, your brain will go on alert and be like "special case, *bim bim* special case - treat with causion") but hopefully at that point you will have enough field experience that your trained composure on the less attractive girls kicks in and you will seduce her anyways.
Think about this like lifting - if your skills are not there yet (maybe they are, I dont know, only you know) approaching less attractive girls where you do not feel much pressure is like lifting a weight that you can lift for 12-15 reps. And approaching some very beautiful and sexy girl might feel like trying to move a weight that you can lift only once. You lift that, get her number, but then your strength is exhausted so you need to wait for 6 minutes before you attempt that again. But she gives 2 minutes (or just 15 seconds) and you just cannot lift that at that time.
You might think it's bullshit to do something you dont feel like doing for hopes that one day you meet your unicorn girl and get her but it is like being 5 years in a law school, 3 years in a law firm until you finally get to do what you want to do and be in a court and try to put some criminal away. That's just life. That being said, it does not mean you cannot seduce your unicorn girl today or tomorrow. You can. But you will have higher chance if you train a bit.
So I would say - approach anyways, form up a goal before you walk up to her like get her number and be aware that you might feel more pressure when you finally approach a girl you find very attractive (because at one point, your brain will go on alert and be like "special case, *bim bim* special case - treat with causion") but hopefully at that point you will have enough field experience that your trained composure on the less attractive girls kicks in and you will seduce her anyways.
Think about this like lifting - if your skills are not there yet (maybe they are, I dont know, only you know) approaching less attractive girls where you do not feel much pressure is like lifting a weight that you can lift for 12-15 reps. And approaching some very beautiful and sexy girl might feel like trying to move a weight that you can lift only once. You lift that, get her number, but then your strength is exhausted so you need to wait for 6 minutes before you attempt that again. But she gives 2 minutes (or just 15 seconds) and you just cannot lift that at that time.
You might think it's bullshit to do something you dont feel like doing for hopes that one day you meet your unicorn girl and get her but it is like being 5 years in a law school, 3 years in a law firm until you finally get to do what you want to do and be in a court and try to put some criminal away. That's just life. That being said, it does not mean you cannot seduce your unicorn girl today or tomorrow. You can. But you will have higher chance if you train a bit.
