How to suggest that i want to take girl home?

[Nico]

Hello guys, im Nico from Russia

Long story short: the girl that ive been obsessed with proposed that we meet.

She is super shy, and i need somehow suggest that we can go home and have sex, so she will be ready(will be shaved and so on), not directly of course

How i can make her think about that outcome via messenger?

What do you think about suggesting that ill teach her how to cook?

Help me set up our dialogue from scratch with examples like this

Me: *delicious meal pick*

Can you cook it?

Girl: No, im the worst cook ever, can you teach me?

Me: Yeah, i can if you promise me to act good at my place

(I know that it wont go like that so i need more indirect approach)



Thanks

Wish you all the best

-Nico

 

[Fuck This]

Hello guys, im Nico from Russia

Long story short: the girl that ive been obsessed with proposed that we meet.

She is super shy, and i need somehow suggest that we can go home and have sex, so she will be ready(will be shaved and so on), not directly of course

How i can make her think about that outcome via messenger?

What do you think about suggesting that ill teach her how to cook?

Help me set up our dialogue from scratch with examples like this

Me: *delicious meal pick*

Can you cook it?

Girl: No, im the worst cook ever, can you teach me?

Me: Yeah, i can if you promise me to act good at my place

(I know that it wont go like that so i need more indirect approach)



Thanks

Wish you all the best

-Nico

The bolded part shows your frame is all wrong. You will not get women staying with you until you start expressing it as "this woman is really into me". You can't trick a woman into spending the night with you. You have to excite her to the point that she is hoping you will ask her to stay. When you are willing to walk away if she doesn't want to stay , only then will she want to. If you want it the slightest bit more than her, then she can sense it and will pull back.

And you will know when she wants to because then it will only seem natural to propose it. You will be leading and she will be gladly following. Touch and Physical affection will feel right.

Forget any idea of a script...

You can propose dinner at your place but you will need to build comfort before hand so she feels at ease there. A first meeting at a guy's home is a big step. I'd recommend a face to face cheap short date beforehand to get her more comfortable with the idea of being alone with you. Read Seppuku's LR's on how her does a two date model.

Now if she is from more than an hour travel away, and your frame is rock solid, and you lay a good comfort foundation through phone, text and video, it is possible to invite her to spend a weekend at your home or on holiday. 95% of women you meet probably won't do that without at least a month or two of constant conversations daily. Basically it makes them curious about you, (then comfortable) so much that it overrides their apprehension of meeting a stranger.

 

[Nico]

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[Nico]

The bolded part shows your frame is all wrong. You will not get women staying with you until you start expressing it as "this woman is really into me". You can't trick a woman into spending the night with you. You have to excite her to the point that she is hoping you will ask her to stay. When you are willing to walk away if she doesn't want to stay , only then will she want to. If you want it the slightest bit more than her, then she can sense it and will pull back.

And you will know when she wants to because then it will only seem natural to propose it. You will be leading and she will be gladly following. Touch and Physical affection will feel right.

Forget any idea of a script...

You can propose dinner at your place but you will need to build comfort before hand so she feels at ease there. A first meeting at a guy's home is a big step. I'd recommend a face to face cheap short date beforehand to get her more comfortable with the idea of being alone with you. Read Seppuku's LR's on how her does a two date model.

Now if she is from more than an hour travel away, and your frame is rock solid, and you lay a good comfort foundation through phone, text and video, it is possible to invite her to spend a weekend at your home or on holiday. 95% of women you meet probably won't do that without at least a month or two of constant conversations daily. Basically it makes them curious about you, (then comfortable) so much that it overrides their apprehension of meeting a stranger.

Thanks for rich answer, i think my mistake is that i didn't provide enough information

This girl was my one ITIS for about 2 years and I've been chasing hard for her, then i gave up and moved to another city

She texted me a week ago, out of the blue, I've been in another city, and she said that she wants to move to that city too, asked can she sleep in my place, said that now we are “more mature” then before, she is always first to start communication. Oh and she recently broke up with her ex boyfriend

Right now i can clearly see that she wants something but in our phone conversation when i offered to meet she asked “what we gonna do” i said that i want a walk with her, so i think that she may be not ready for intimacy and when i will invite her to my place she may be unconfident( not shaven for example) and this can be a reason for her to put off my invitation for another time

This would be a problem since i dont have my own private place and ill be renting an apartment, and the fact that im broke student doesn't help it

Thanks for answer
-Nico

 

[Big Daddy]

It doesn't really matter. The meal thing is good enough. Tell her you're gonna cook.

Unless she's been living under a rock for the past 6 months she's shaven. It's like basic hygiene for most girls these days. No girl in the world would suggest or think about sleeping in another single man's place and not consider the possibility of sex even if it's 1%.

Suggest any bullshit (walk, dinner), invite her over and make a move. If she had not been thinking about it, she certainly is now. Plus you can always comfort her that it's not an issue for you if she was unprepared and that she can be shaven next time.

 

[Fuck This]

Thanks for rich answer, i think my mistake is that i didn't provide enough information

This girl was my one ITIS for about 2 years and I've been chasing hard for her, then i gave up and moved to another city

She texted me a week ago, out of the blue, I've been in another city, and she said that she wants to move to that city too, asked can she sleep in my place, said that now we are “more mature” then before, she is always first to start communication. Oh and she recently broke up with her ex boyfriend

Right now i can clearly see that she wants something but in our phone conversation when i offered to meet she asked “what we gonna do” i said that i want a walk with her, so i think that she may be not ready for intimacy and when i will invite her to my place she may be unconfident( not shaven for example) and this can be a reason for her to put off my invitation for another time

This would be a problem since i dont have my own private place and ill be renting an apartment, and the fact that im broke student doesn't help it

Thanks for answer
-Nico

Are you in a bedroom by yourself? That's all you need. Tell your roommates you have a girl over and they need to be respectful and not interfere. Got someone in the sleeping area? Arrange for them to find a reason to be out of the apartment or dorm room for a night. This also give you a time constraint for a pull. "Hey Jack is gone untii

Given the new info, invite her to spend the night with an activity for her to do in the morning..."I'll fix dinner Friday night and you can look at apartments/ I will show you around the next morning...."

If she objects about your roommates respond with "they have been around women before. They will behave themselves and be respectful and give you the privacy you need."