This has got nothing to do with being able to take rejection internally (which is probably what it would usually refer to), so please don't post any links to such articles.
Basically, I don't mind being rejected at all, and I don't think what I'm writing about here is really to do with confidence when approaching. It's just (having approached a girl) I don't like going through that immediate transition - of being the charismatic guy who surely has some fascinating trick up his sleeve, to the idle guy who doesn't have a purpose. It's a certain amount for the other party to take in too.
And yes, you might say what difference does it make if you're rejected anyway - but the thing is, the girl you're approaching might intend to reject you either way, so I'd just rather be rejected as the "confident fun guy" rather than Mr introverted loner. It's not that I take it personally, I mean I wouldn't even have no problem with a girl pointing and laughing at me, if you get my drift. It's just the awkwardness can be a bit much.
Basically, you're going up to a girl(s) not really knowing what to expect. From her point of view; if she sees that you're confident enough to approach, she's probably expecting something impressive from you? So either way, you'll come across as entertaining for the first 5 seconds or so. But it's after that that I'm talking about here... when it's inevitable that the answer is no. I'd rather be perceived as a guy living on delusions of grandeur than the alternative. So even though I know it's not going to happen, I might still try and maintain a few lines of banter for a few seconds... just for the sake of keeping me in the zone.
I think it's the only thing that hinders me approaching... the parting which mightn't even happen. I mean I can take it, but it's just a little bit of a blow to the ego, and that doesn't seem like something that's ever going to change after my many years of pick-up. I don't think what I'm getting at here is a matter of how much courage one has, because I no well that I do have the courage to experience those awkward situations. I think this issue is important seeing as one is likely to get rejected by a very high percentage of girls they approach??!!
I mightn't sound like much for me to complain about, but I feel like I've put my finger on something in writing that, and I hope I'm right. Please don't post any advice about how "not to give up", or "how to not to take no for an answer".
Thank you
Basically, I don't mind being rejected at all, and I don't think what I'm writing about here is really to do with confidence when approaching. It's just (having approached a girl) I don't like going through that immediate transition - of being the charismatic guy who surely has some fascinating trick up his sleeve, to the idle guy who doesn't have a purpose. It's a certain amount for the other party to take in too.
And yes, you might say what difference does it make if you're rejected anyway - but the thing is, the girl you're approaching might intend to reject you either way, so I'd just rather be rejected as the "confident fun guy" rather than Mr introverted loner. It's not that I take it personally, I mean I wouldn't even have no problem with a girl pointing and laughing at me, if you get my drift. It's just the awkwardness can be a bit much.
Basically, you're going up to a girl(s) not really knowing what to expect. From her point of view; if she sees that you're confident enough to approach, she's probably expecting something impressive from you? So either way, you'll come across as entertaining for the first 5 seconds or so. But it's after that that I'm talking about here... when it's inevitable that the answer is no. I'd rather be perceived as a guy living on delusions of grandeur than the alternative. So even though I know it's not going to happen, I might still try and maintain a few lines of banter for a few seconds... just for the sake of keeping me in the zone.
I think it's the only thing that hinders me approaching... the parting which mightn't even happen. I mean I can take it, but it's just a little bit of a blow to the ego, and that doesn't seem like something that's ever going to change after my many years of pick-up. I don't think what I'm getting at here is a matter of how much courage one has, because I no well that I do have the courage to experience those awkward situations. I think this issue is important seeing as one is likely to get rejected by a very high percentage of girls they approach??!!
I mightn't sound like much for me to complain about, but I feel like I've put my finger on something in writing that, and I hope I'm right. Please don't post any advice about how "not to give up", or "how to not to take no for an answer".
Thank you
