How to tell if a girl is legitimately busy or if she is not that interested?

[perpetualsun]

I have been out for two dates so far with a girl, and in arranging the second date after the first, she told me she was busy all week for dinner because she was trying hard to find an internship/job and had to go to all these networking events. She then said she wasn’t free until next week.

After the second date, I waited a day and then called her for a third date. She then said that she had all these networking events again and wouldn’t be free until next Wednesday (a week from today). I agreed to that time, but was wondering if I should be taking this as an indicator of lukewarm interest at best or if she is legitimately busy. If a girl keeps arranging dates a week from the date you ask, is there a way to tell if she’s really busy? Thanks!

 

[Smurf]

This was one o dealt with quite a bit. Its hard to tell if a girl is actually busy but there's a few things you can do to help you see if she's being legit or not.

First, always be working on your fundamentals. The more attractive you are, the more likely she is to make time in her schedule for you. Is she offering suggestions for a different date or is it all you? For example: are you proposing a date, and then she just says no, or is she saying something along the lines of, "I can't make it that day, I have X, but I can do this day instead!" Usually if she offers a different date, it's a better sign than if she just says she can't that day. There's still a chance she's playing games, but at least she's playing with you. Some people are also legitimately busy. You're gonna have to use your critical thinking skills here, think about your approach and her investment/interest levels and how that ties into how she would text you. Also thinking about if she's the type to play those kinds of games or not. All girls play games, it's just finding out which ones she plays.

Hope this helps,

Jake.

 

[Ree]

Once read somewhere that there is no such thing as busy...it's just priorities.
.....this is true....I have seen both extremes of the spectrum.....i have had girls who have skipped school to see me....and I have had girls who have cancelled dates because they were at home "busy " watching cartoons.
......no one is really that busy.....it hurts to hear it.....but if someone is canceling dates it's usually an attraction problem....
Just ask three times ,then throw her a ball is in your court text.