How to tell when you've "lost" a girl?

[MisterTaco]

Hey guys, I've been a reader of the site for a while now and I'm familiar with the majority of the pick up terms/techniques that we use around here and it's safe to say it has helped greatly in quite a few situations. I've read Chase' article on moving fast and attraction having an expiration date so I do get that you should always "strike while the iron is hot" before girls go into auto-rejection and you lose them. I'm a college student at a smaller campus in my 3rd year and my classes has a few cute girls but there's one that I've been having rapport with since last march. We just had a 4 month summer vacation in which we didn't see each other. When school started this year once more she was clearly excited to see me again and during one class i even massaged her ass and felt it up in the middle of the lecture lol. I've been admittedly too slow when it came to escalating this girl and I feel its starting to have its toll now.

This dude who I used to THINK I was friends with ended up asking her out (knowing I was trying to get at her) and I found that out through her and the way she told me even was strange by saying things like:

"Your friend asked me out."

and

"Yeah..so Just thought you should know"

In the middle of the class she was showing me the texts she had with him in class where she was sort of being rude to him and laughing about it with me in class. She even texted me during the date itself asking some stupid shit about a class assignment. We actually flirted a bit in that exchange through text where I was being clever/smooth with my text game.

Finally not too long ago today she comes up to me and we talked but the conversation was stale and kind of awkward. And she finished the convo by telling me she's going out with my "friend" again later this week.

I really can't tell if she's just messing with me and trying to make me jealous or hinting that I should stop screwing around and make a damn move. At which point do you give up going after a girl because you've lost her? I really need to learn from this and make sure it doesn't happen again so I dont find myself in a rut. I just want to know what are the signs that you've officially lost her. She's in my class/program at a small campus so I dont want to persist after trying to get her because It might just make things look worse. I should mention that I've managed to build an insane amount of social proof by being very outgoing in College and literally have to stop to say hi to every other person on campus and she noticed this, so I know I showed her a lot of value so that wasn't an issue. Any feedback is appreciated. Respect.

-Taco

 

[Smith]

Why are u even looking for signs? Make a move boy! Then u'll know if u've lost her.
It sounds like she's trying to 'up' her value by showing u that she has options. U'll know uv'e officailly lost her when she rejects you. Looking for signs is just a silly mind game that prevents you from making a move. When in doubt, it's always better to escalate and possibly get rejected than to hesitate and get nothing at all.

 

[MisterTaco]

That's some real talk-I honestly feel as if getting that confirmation is perhaps the best way to stop over thinking things. My sticking point is that this girl is in half my classes (small classes too) and it'll be mad awkward if I make a move and it doesn't go well, but based on previous interactions she was CLEARLY into me.

How would you say she's trying to up her value though? She knows this guy is a "friend" of mine so it seems like she's trying to mess with my head when she gives me that provocative look and says " I'm seeing him sunday". Lol she wasn't even slick about it.

 

[ray_zorse]

Dude I made a move on a girl in my office (at the uni) and fucked it up completely (my fault -- I was new to the game) and now things are pretty awkward but what the fuck, I don't regret it and neither will you What I've done is basically avoid talking to her for a couple of months, the first week or so was the hardest as I felt real embarrassed and didn't want to leave my desk to go get a cup of tea etc in case I encountered her, but after a little time passed no problem... saw her at the tram stop the other day, just mumbled a greeting and kept walking, no problem. But actually I have been thinking I want to nail her down and take another shot soon I will just say "I like you, I realize I embarrassed you in front of your colleagues and I shouldn't have done that, I would like to be able to make it up to you" or similar... so cutting a long story short, just go for it.
cheers, Ray