what follows is somewhat rambling. i've left out a lot, needless details i suppose, but ultimately the question is how can i, as an older gent, get back in the game with the ladies, and, should i even bother?
long story short - i got old really fast, and now i don't even know whether i should be approaching girls, let alone how.
about six months ago i had a couple of relationships end really badly and i went from relative abundance to nothing.
winter was terrible i had a nervous breakdown (i guess) followed swiftly by a midlife crisis. i've cried like a little bitch dozens of times over the last six months. nowhere to turn and no-one to talk to, and well, nobody wants a pity party.
i've been through the fire and made it to the other side, but a part of me has died, had to die, in order for me to grow. i was grieving for a time but i've come to terms with a few things and realized a few other things. i'm making progress in some areas, and generally feeling positive but, no man is an island and i would like to not be incel for the remainder of my life.
besides a few opportunities that i wasted, and a handjob in the shower, i haven't got laid since last october. although that doesn't really bother me, i'm 42 now and 6 months passes like a couple of weeks.
now though, i can't help seeing myself as an old man, and the thought of approaching teenage girls seems ridiculous. over the space of a few months my outlook changed considerably.
now when i'm making my way through the city streets, all i see is things (pussy) i can't have. i feel regret and sadness, and grief, because i got nothing to offer a hot young girl. it's too late. i had my time in the sun.
one obvious conclusion is i have to level up my game. but i'm wondering whether it's even worth it. i can't exactly pull off older-guy-provider-game, coz i gots nuthin'.
and i'm maybe not quite yet too far over the hill to pull off sport-fuck game, but it's close. and it's not like a girl can't get that somewhere else, younger, taller, better looking or whatever. i've done alright, but i guess not too many girls are having wet dreams about the guy who's older than their father.
but shit, no man is an island, and well, i'm fucking lonely a lot. i don't really have any solid friends, and i'm also yearning for a child. i wanna have a baby, i've been feeling it for a long time and my clock is ticking too.
i should have put a baby in my girl last year.
so i guess the first step is to test some of my assumptions, and get approaching. i shall probably have to lower my standards considerably. i can't even get a fucking tinder match these days. let alone a date.
next step is keep planning for the future, stay out of trouble and get my money working for me.
i feel like i'm at a crucial stage in my life, and i have some decisions to make, some paths to choose. i've had some lateral movement recently, but need to keep pushing forward, don't get complacent and don't get comfortable. this is another reason why i've let my love-life slide, because it kinda feels like "been there done that" ... still though, i could use some feminine energy in my home.
thanks
lao che
long story short - i got old really fast, and now i don't even know whether i should be approaching girls, let alone how.
about six months ago i had a couple of relationships end really badly and i went from relative abundance to nothing.
winter was terrible i had a nervous breakdown (i guess) followed swiftly by a midlife crisis. i've cried like a little bitch dozens of times over the last six months. nowhere to turn and no-one to talk to, and well, nobody wants a pity party.
i've been through the fire and made it to the other side, but a part of me has died, had to die, in order for me to grow. i was grieving for a time but i've come to terms with a few things and realized a few other things. i'm making progress in some areas, and generally feeling positive but, no man is an island and i would like to not be incel for the remainder of my life.
besides a few opportunities that i wasted, and a handjob in the shower, i haven't got laid since last october. although that doesn't really bother me, i'm 42 now and 6 months passes like a couple of weeks.
now though, i can't help seeing myself as an old man, and the thought of approaching teenage girls seems ridiculous. over the space of a few months my outlook changed considerably.
now when i'm making my way through the city streets, all i see is things (pussy) i can't have. i feel regret and sadness, and grief, because i got nothing to offer a hot young girl. it's too late. i had my time in the sun.
one obvious conclusion is i have to level up my game. but i'm wondering whether it's even worth it. i can't exactly pull off older-guy-provider-game, coz i gots nuthin'.
and i'm maybe not quite yet too far over the hill to pull off sport-fuck game, but it's close. and it's not like a girl can't get that somewhere else, younger, taller, better looking or whatever. i've done alright, but i guess not too many girls are having wet dreams about the guy who's older than their father.
but shit, no man is an island, and well, i'm fucking lonely a lot. i don't really have any solid friends, and i'm also yearning for a child. i wanna have a baby, i've been feeling it for a long time and my clock is ticking too.
i should have put a baby in my girl last year.
so i guess the first step is to test some of my assumptions, and get approaching. i shall probably have to lower my standards considerably. i can't even get a fucking tinder match these days. let alone a date.
next step is keep planning for the future, stay out of trouble and get my money working for me.
i feel like i'm at a crucial stage in my life, and i have some decisions to make, some paths to choose. i've had some lateral movement recently, but need to keep pushing forward, don't get complacent and don't get comfortable. this is another reason why i've let my love-life slide, because it kinda feels like "been there done that" ... still though, i could use some feminine energy in my home.
thanks
lao che
