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How would you escalate during a "Study Session" with a girl?

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Tool-Bearing Hominid
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The other day, my friend and I went over to a girl's house to study,we introduced ourselves to some of her roommates (she lives with like 5 other girls). During the time I was there I wondered how I would be able escalate in this type of situation. Me and my friend were willing to share, but none of us really did anything because we didn't want to make it awkward. We weren't sure if she just wanted to study.
 
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ray_zorse

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To add to what radeng said, I think it would be best to do at least some of the work in building attraction before the study session... problem is, if you met her and didn't go direct, just made general smalltalk and said "let's study together some time, what's your no" she may genuinely see you as a study buddy, just a cool friendly guy and no more. If this is how you set it up and then you suddenly escalate, you are behaving incongruently and girls HATE incongruence. The thought process is "oh, he likes me now... why didn't he invite me on a date?... oh, he set up a study date on false pretences... seems he is too much of a pussy to express attraction and risk rejection! yuk, I like dominant badass guys who take what they want and don't care who knows it... NEXT" and she politely tells you "no, not interested" and doesn't call you again. Luckily there are many ways around it (1) go direct, tell her she is cute when you first meet her, or (2) use your sexual vibe, long sexual stares until she is quite uncomfortable, pauses that are loaded with meaning... coupled with innocent phraseology like "study date", or (3) touch her a lot, coupled with innocent phraseology, or (4) use sexual and chase frames, plus set up the "study date", or (5) just being honest like "I would like to spend time with you... let's study blahblah" or "I would like to get to know you better... so let's blahblah". If you use some combination of these SHE WILL KNOW WHAT'S UP and so you can ask for a study date with no surprises later, in fact it's a great technique b/c has built-in plausible deniability... but where new guys fuck up is just being platonic and expecting her to realize it's a date. For example I hit it off with a real estate agent early in my journey and asked her to meet me the following day, she accepted but b/c I did not do anything sexual until the date, she thought I was wanting to discuss a house purchase, she did take it quite well when I told her it was a date but it was still an FU on my part that I learned from.

Hope it helps.

Ray
 
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