How would you guys handle this situation?

[Beam]

Hey fellas, a bit of background first. Last week, I was hanging out with a few mates and we were discussing NYE plans. I had none yet so one of my mates girlfriends, G (who I've met plenty of times and am cool with), told me she was hosting a NYE part at her house and told me I should come. I agreed.

A week later I match with a cutie (C) on Bumble. A few hours before it expired I scrolled through her profile again and lo and behold, in her second pic saw G and her sitting together at a picnic. Naturally I sent a screenshot laughing about it to G, and playfully prodded her to get C to message me since it was going to expire (since it's Bumble and they have to message first).

G agreed, said that C was pretty lousy at messaging and then dropped the bombshell that not only did they both live together, but C and her are pretty much best friends. G said she'd give her a prod and an hour later I get a message from C, playfully inviting me to the NYE party (which surprise surprise, she is co-hosting). We've been messaging back and forth over the last few days.

But now, I'm sort of at a loss as to what to do. Originally I thought, get her out beforehand for a date, but:

1. I am currently out sick with a bad cold, and don't know if I'll recover in the next couple of days
2. It might make things awkward if things don't work out on the date.

Since NYE is only 5 days away (and I expect I'll have recovered by then), currently I'm just thinking of going to the NYE party and meeting her for the first time there. I'm also leaning towards doing this because there a few other even more attractive girls going to this party and I don't really want to lock myself to one in particular beforehand.

Waiting to meet 5 days instead of moving faster is the more risk-averse and less dominant option for sure (and it's not ideal that I'll be meeting her for the first time in a group environment), but I feel like in this case the social repercussions are too great if the date goes awry.

Keep in mind this is being written through the lens of someone who's not quite there yet and who still fucks up dates semi-frequently. If I was, the path forward would be obvious - get her out before NYE sometime this week, bang her really good on the first date, go to the NYE party, use the fact that girls talk to get preselection to then have my pick of all the girls there. But alas, not there yet.

 

[topcat]

Since NYE is only 5 days away (and I expect I'll have recovered by then), currently I'm just thinking of going to the NYE party and meeting her for the first time there. I'm also leaning towards doing this because there a few other even more attractive girls going to this party and I don't really want to lock myself to one in particular beforehand.

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I'd say keep things cool with her, but taper off the texting, so she isn't over familiar with you. Once you reach the party, she's a potential but not guaranteed. Be warm with her but definitely flit about and meet the other girls. At worst she's perfect preselection. At best you're preselected by other females at the party and she claims you as a result.

Not much of a party/social circle guy myself but that makes the most sense to me.

You could push for the date too though.. May blow up in your face, may not. But you'll learn a thing or two

 

[D_Smooth1900]

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I'd say keep things cool with her, but taper off the texting, so she isn't over familiar with you. Once you reach the party, she's a potential but not guaranteed. Be warm with her but definitely flit about and meet the other girls. At worst she's perfect preselection. At best you're preselected by other females at the party and she claims you as a result.

Not much of a party/social circle guy myself but that makes the most sense to me.

You could push for the date too though.. May blow up in your face, may not. But you'll learn a thing or two

I would also go with this move OP just make sure she is not the center of attention and you are still gaming other girls at the party if she sees this more cuddos to you and she will see you as some one with abundance or even better yet might find yourself a better hottie in either case be discreet when it comes to the pull so you can always come back to either good luck have fun stay safe

 

[PalmaSailor]

Pull back from the texting almost completely.

when you get to the party greet her and then hit on other women. In fact, if the party is full of women you could easily just end up with a different one.

Get more women in play. Get actual abundance. Then the way you act will change

 

[PalmaSailor]

I would also go with this move OP just make sure she is not the center of attention and you are still gaming other girls at the party if she sees this more cuddos to you and she will see you as some one with abundance or even better yet might find yourself a better hottie in either case be discreet when it comes to the pull so you can always come back to either good luck have fun stay safe

Hey - just a note here - there’s nothing wrong with an overt pull in front of other women. It’s pre selection. It’ll be a lot easier to get with one that’s already seen you pull another one.
Counterintuitive I know, but true..

 

[Beam]

Thanks for the feedback, I've reduced the frequency of my replies, it feels a little unnatural actually in this case but it's for the best.

 

[PalmaSailor]

Thanks for the feedback, I've reduced the frequency of my replies, it feels a little unnatural actually in this case but it's for the best.

You could just go cold if you want to now.

it does feel unnatural and that is entirely down to societal programming which is “be nice and give them what they say they want and you’ll get what you want” right now she wants attention. But you’re giving that free so it’s an indication of your lower value (DLV)

if you had a Victoria secret model sucking your dick right now you wouldn’t be replying to some random from Bumble.

Act like you’ve got abundance which is a DHV (display higher value)

women want men of higher value than themselves, not lower value.

she’ll hit you at the party:

“hey you stopped replying”

you “I was busy - nice lashes are they real?”
You get the plot here?

 

[Fuck This]

You got a good thing with meeting her at the party. no commitment, plenty of other options, and low/no cost

Matching with her is a good thing. You know there is at least some initial attraction.

Tell her "I look forward to meeting you at the party. See you then"

Use the party for some basic getting to know you interaction. If you like her, make the appointment for a future date right then and there. Like dinner at your place a couple nights later.. Then have fun at the party, where ever that leads.

 

[Beam]

Cutting off contact felt incongruent. Texted back but much slower. It's pretty much at that point where we've both said we're looking forward to meeting each other tonight. Plan is to treat it like any other party, mingle with every single person there and be slightly warmer towards her. And yeah, if things go well plan something then and there.