How would you guys have handled this: hotel girl

[DarkKnight]

Yo yo, so I am abroad.. and was at this hotel.. i woke up to get breakfast and at the entry of the restaurant was this chick with eyes like you wouldnt believe. Instantly I liked her.. she was a 9. Probably my mimicry gave me away (come on guys.. imagine being surprised early in the morning with a stunning beauty at an empty stomache). She at the other end didnt seem quite so charmed. I asked her how the disinfectant stand works (it didnt work).. she gave me a rude answer. I didnt mind , i knew i will not reward her bad behavior. So the following couple of days i went extremely aloof towards her but not upset or anything.. maybe feeling a bit "above" her. To the other personel I have been a true gentlemen since I can be a very rriendly guy. Slowly but certainly she started to warm up to me. I gathered that she is a highly educated single mom who is basically bitter because she has been alpha widowed and stuck at a dead end job. I didnt see her for a couple of days.. i figured maybe she is a seasonal worker. Today I entered the restaurant and talked with this young kid who is basically slaving (gave him a good tip which he can spend on his girlfriend). When I walked to the buffet I noticed her hiding behind the wall.. her body was a bit stiff. She was eavesdropping... and basically very intrigued after me consistently rewarding and punishing good/bad behavior.

After this novel this is the deal: she very subtly started to show interest and make basic pleasantries while doing her job.. in the past she was super brusque. No thank you, no please, or anything like that.

At the end I was quite popular with the staff they all said goodbye.. she stayed distant but ai knew she was listening to everything.. she really was concerned with not losing too much value.. a bit too status concerned.

Well, I did not want to game her because this was the last day, she is a single mom (she wont just hook up due to reputational risk).. but I was just thinking.

Suppose I wanted it to work. What steps could I have taken to game her.

Note:
1. Colleagues are around and likely very judgemental of her due to the culture
2. She has shown incremental higher interest so I cannot go overboard without losing value or coming across as uncalibrated.

Again I do not want to game her.. but I would like to know how you guys would have made it work in a socially savvy way.

 

[DarkKnight]

Guys this is a done deal since it is in the past.. but for my future arsenal I would love to know!

 

[BigPapa]

I went through something similar in my last Holliday with a girl that was working in the hotel , but in my case she did not had an attitude so things went smooth

but I can tell you of something that worked in another occasion . Basically there was a girl at work that had a bad attitude when i said hello. Basically she just made a disgusted face when I said hello , and on the moment without really thinking I just replied to her “ gosh, now I have to report you to hr for wanting to stick your finger in my ass “ while laughing.

She started laughing , and started saying that she is so sorry , but she has a really bad day , bla bla .

I did not do anything with her because she is too much to handle from an emotional point of view. She is like a fucking emotional vampire and feel drained after each encounter , but for sure in your case the answer will be “ say something stupid and make her laugh , and thus you penetrate her bad attitude “

 

[DarkKnight]

Its not the point papa, she was already warm and her initial reaction didnt matter. I just wonder what the most optimal way of escalating would have been, especially with the social control. Also becaise I have been playing it very cool, I cannot suddenly jerk myself nto action and shift gears heavily.. it would seem super incongruent.

I was in a seated position.. her colleGues were around and due to covid there were barily any other visitors.. they broight the food instead us getting it. Honestly we have been pampered hahahah.

I was discussing this with @Train at the chat and the probable best way seems to be make some very small talk to qualify her.. so your attention at the very least feels deserved instead of just her beauty. Next stap hand her a note with your number.. i always cary my personal cards but Flux made a valid point once that it can seem try hard. I just have to carry an empty notebook... for the next occasion.

 

[BigPapa]

I think her initial is quite important in order to push things forward , especially if she was during her working hours and you had limited time to game her ( you were staying in a hotel )

in this case , since you did not got her full attention ( because she was working ) and she knew that you are a tourist ,I still think the most optimal way was to catch Her unguarded by either your actions , either your words and try to game her by pushing her through an emotional rollercoaster .

the way you handled things was good , but the problem is that it takes more time to game her like this , which you did not have

 

[DarkKnight]

To be honest I think she was quite warm at the end.. her actions were subdued but for me very clear. Her being a single mom was the reason for me not escalating.. otherwise I cerainly would have taken any action. Again, not really the point.

For future hypothetical reasons and increased calibration I like to know sophisticated tactics.. i want to maneuvre in socially intelligent ways in "impossible" situations. I am certain the elders are already good in this.