Really been trying to push myself to pull more and have been asking way more girls on dates both in person and online.
Met a girl 3 years ago when I was in college who was quite attractive but I was in a relationship at the time and even though we planned to meet up I never really tried to make anything happen and flaked on her because of said relationship.
Fast forward to the current time and I am single again and I see a Facebook photo of her and she's only looking better with age and I'd like a shot at smashing again so I message her asking her out. She says that she's down to meet up and thinks it would be fun. Nice. I keep it short and simple and we pick a smoothie joint and a day to meet up.
I am seeing other girls and if she falls through it is no big deal, but I definitely would not mind smashing because she is HOT. Fast forward to date day and I get a message saying she was looking forward to us meeting but she suffers from anxiety and got it really bad and can't meet up. No biggie I tell her, and she is adamant about rescheduling. I say ok and we reschedules for 2 days later for smoothies again on a wednesday. On tuesday she texts me and says are you available tonight? Just realized I have a dinner on wednesday and can't make it. I tell her I'm not available tonight unfortunately and she fires back a sad emoji and says well what about friday? She's available all day Friday up until 10pm. I think about the implications of her only be available until 10pm and I think it's going to be hard for me to do a same night lay with such a time constraint so I say I'm not available then either and I'll hit her up when some other time.
I hit her up a week later when everything died down and set up to meet for ice cream and something afterwards. My plan was to meet up for ice cream, build some SAC, then leave with her and sneak into a movie theater or pull back to my car because my logistics were terrible that night. I show up to the ice cream place and notice her friend is with her. I'm thinking oh fuck not a good sign...but the friend was borrowing her car and leaving. Ok I thought maybe I can work with this. I hug her and flirt with her a bit as we walk in to the store. Since I was bit late showing up and felt bad I went against my judgement and decided to pay for her which I have never done before. We sit down at a small table and I start eliciting her values and what not. 5 minutes in to the conversation she informs me that at 8:30pm she was going to a play. As it was 6:30pm when I met up with her I instantly think to myself fuck it I'm not getting laid tonight, why did she pick tonight to go when she told me she was free? I stayed until about 7pm and she said we can hang out tomorrow or the next day and get breakfast or something. As I was working on building similarity, arousal, and compliance I really couldn't get any sign she was in to me but she kept talking and wanted to make plans to see me again. I'm thinking the date is shot with the time constraint and have no clue how to push forward. She asked me if I wanted to grab a burger with her next door and I said I really should be going as I got a phone call from work saying I took the only keys to lock up. She goes oh ok and walks me to my car for whatever reason and gives me a hug and says don't forget me.
What would you guys have done in a situation like this? I don't know how I could have pushed this interaction further with her friend picking her up and her leaving at 8:30pm. I knew this was a low percentage lay but I've never experienced a girl doing that before. Any insight is helpful! Thanks
Met a girl 3 years ago when I was in college who was quite attractive but I was in a relationship at the time and even though we planned to meet up I never really tried to make anything happen and flaked on her because of said relationship.
Fast forward to the current time and I am single again and I see a Facebook photo of her and she's only looking better with age and I'd like a shot at smashing again so I message her asking her out. She says that she's down to meet up and thinks it would be fun. Nice. I keep it short and simple and we pick a smoothie joint and a day to meet up.
I am seeing other girls and if she falls through it is no big deal, but I definitely would not mind smashing because she is HOT. Fast forward to date day and I get a message saying she was looking forward to us meeting but she suffers from anxiety and got it really bad and can't meet up. No biggie I tell her, and she is adamant about rescheduling. I say ok and we reschedules for 2 days later for smoothies again on a wednesday. On tuesday she texts me and says are you available tonight? Just realized I have a dinner on wednesday and can't make it. I tell her I'm not available tonight unfortunately and she fires back a sad emoji and says well what about friday? She's available all day Friday up until 10pm. I think about the implications of her only be available until 10pm and I think it's going to be hard for me to do a same night lay with such a time constraint so I say I'm not available then either and I'll hit her up when some other time.
I hit her up a week later when everything died down and set up to meet for ice cream and something afterwards. My plan was to meet up for ice cream, build some SAC, then leave with her and sneak into a movie theater or pull back to my car because my logistics were terrible that night. I show up to the ice cream place and notice her friend is with her. I'm thinking oh fuck not a good sign...but the friend was borrowing her car and leaving. Ok I thought maybe I can work with this. I hug her and flirt with her a bit as we walk in to the store. Since I was bit late showing up and felt bad I went against my judgement and decided to pay for her which I have never done before. We sit down at a small table and I start eliciting her values and what not. 5 minutes in to the conversation she informs me that at 8:30pm she was going to a play. As it was 6:30pm when I met up with her I instantly think to myself fuck it I'm not getting laid tonight, why did she pick tonight to go when she told me she was free? I stayed until about 7pm and she said we can hang out tomorrow or the next day and get breakfast or something. As I was working on building similarity, arousal, and compliance I really couldn't get any sign she was in to me but she kept talking and wanted to make plans to see me again. I'm thinking the date is shot with the time constraint and have no clue how to push forward. She asked me if I wanted to grab a burger with her next door and I said I really should be going as I got a phone call from work saying I took the only keys to lock up. She goes oh ok and walks me to my car for whatever reason and gives me a hug and says don't forget me.
What would you guys have done in a situation like this? I don't know how I could have pushed this interaction further with her friend picking her up and her leaving at 8:30pm. I knew this was a low percentage lay but I've never experienced a girl doing that before. Any insight is helpful! Thanks
