How would you respond to this text?

[Cam87]

From a girl I've seen a few times and had dinner planned for tomorrow

"Hey, I've been thinking about dinner tomorrow and I don't think it's such a good idea. I have been so busy with work and moving lately I just feel like I'm putting you on the back burner and you don't really deserve that. I don't really see this going anywhere, sorry."

 

[Gamecrasher]

Cam, ask her for her schedule, and find a time that works.

 

[Cam87]

I'm thinking it's best to let this one go or am I missing something here? She sounds too busy and not really worth the time, when I could be working on other ladies.

 

[Knight]

I'm sure someone will have a better idea but I would give her some radio silence for a while and then proceed as normal like nothing ever happened. She might be overwhelmed for a while before she sorts everything out.

Best of luck,
- Knight.

 

[Franco]

Hey Cam,

It sounds like she's letting you go and doing you the favor of not keeping your hopes up. It's a mature thing of her to do. I wouldn't reply to that text. If she happens to contact you again at some point, then you can try to set up a meet. But other than that, I think you need to put her on the back burner and move forward with meeting new women.

- Franco

 

[Cam87]

Franco,

That's what I'm gonna do.

It really isn't my day, cause I just got another text from a girl I had a date planned tonight saying pretty much the same thing!

So it goes, on to the next one.

 

[JMP_123]

Cam,

Yea from the sounds of it she's diffusing the situation before REALLY having to make a ham-bone excuse. It was an excuse enough for her to say she was busy and all that. But that excuse was only used to segway to her true part of the text, the part where she doesn't think it would go anywhere. Don't feel slighted or anything it just is what it is. She did you a favor and if you are really set still keeping contact with her see if you can bump into her on some social outing or text her in a few weeks to see how her "super busy move," went.

 

[The Tool]

I agree with Franco.

I have had this exact thing happen and two weeks of radio silence she texted me out of the blue. What essentially happened is she had met another guy who intriged her more but then he left her and she texted me for a quick hook up. Turned out great on my end.

 

[RodeoRyan]

Cam,

I know I'm almost a week late here, but I'm just curious if you have had the time to read up on Chase's post regarding What to Do When Girls Flake...

Perhaps you have already lost this girl as I suspect you chalked her up in the 'L' column. But maybe you could learn something from that article and be better prepared for the future, when something like this happens again.

Also, just curious what actually became of this girl??

~Cheers

 

[Cam87]

RodeoRyan,

Thanks for the link I'll give that a read.

I ended up texting her back saying something along the lines of "its cool." I decided to text her back because she was a sweet girl when I hung out with her and she was being honest, which I respect a lot.

Funny thing is I got another girl cancel on me in similar fashion, but didn't text her back. I have too many good prospects to waste time on girls that are too busy.

 

[Cam87]

Well shit, got another shitty text from a different girl this time. I asked her what her schedule is like next week.

"Not sure yet. I have to be honest though- I'm kind of getting just a friend vibe. Sorry! I hope there's no hard feelings."

Thing is I could tell she wasn't all that in to me. I took her out a few Saturdays ago, we had dinner, drinks at a few places, I drove her home, and we kissed a bit.

Last Saturday we went to this charity thing. Had an open bar, got all dressed up, there was a DJ and a photo booth, it was pretty cool. I ended up staying the night but got only some kissing. Thing is she didn't want to make out and she was holding back. I didn't want to acknowledge it, but it's true, so I wasn't totally blindsided her.

I think it comes down to me still working on my non-verbals, being sexier overall, using sexual humor and chase frames. Especially since she got a friend vibe.

So even though I know where I fucked up in general, this shit still stings quite a bit. She is the hottest girl i've kissed since being single. You win some, you lose some right?!

 

[Chase]

Thing is I could tell she wasn't all that in to me. I took her out a few Saturdays ago, we had dinner, drinks at a few places, I drove her home, and we kissed a bit.

Cam-

Just be aware of kissing girls before you're alone with them / take them to bed. Kissing without sex immediately after often leads to kissing without sex EVER after.

Hold your horses and let the tension build until you've got her alone with you... otherwise, you risk defusing all the tension, killing the fun, and removing all the allure from it for her, making her not really be all that into you anymore and not be terribly excited about going to bed with you thereafter.

Chase

 

[Jeet02]

Hey Cam,

Have you stopped to analyze your interactions with this girls? Three diffirent girls telling you the same thing makes me think it might be something you are doing. I hate to break it to you. Now, it might be as simple as what Chase told you or it might be something else.

Stop and analyze your interactions with them. Are you being to nice? Not teasing them enough? Are you just asking questions instead of throwing statements every once in a while? Are you keeping the conversation just PG or have you taken it to an R rated level? Are you being fun?!

This are all questions you gotta ask yourself. If they are getting the friend vibe is simply cause you gotta up your game a little.

On the plus side, they have been nice enough to come clear...that almost never happens. At least not to me...

Cheers!
Jeet