Hyposexual Girl -- What do I do?

[MisterX]

MisterX,

Good advice, man! Yeah, I should have mentioned that we hooked up. When we kissed, it was like she was exhilarated. What do you make of that? Normal in a young chick, right?
In fact, she was trying to stick her tongue in waayyy more than I was, and I purposefully held back on the tongue to tease her a bit.

As for the pedestal thing, you're right. What's weirder is that I was able to keep her off the pedestal thanks to this site and abundance theory. However, I'm learning so much about what I really value in life through conversations I've had with her and what she's been through. I actually think she's an awesome person. So now I've noticed I keep putting her back on a pedestal. I knock her off the pedestal every now and then by consciously thinking that there are WAY better women out there and remembering the truth about the abundance of women.

If you've been making out and she put her tongue down your throat(so to speak) she 100% wants you.


But take this from me: If you don't move fast towards sexual escalation and making her yours, YOU WILL LOSE HER!

I can guarantee you that.



I used to be like that, got my heart broken because I didn't move fast enough and now look at me - hooking up with girls and never having a meaningful relationship, never connecting with a girl, never feeling loved, only feeling alone. Just because I failed to move fast and it broke me, it made me the person who I am today and the saddest thing is that I'm the only one I've got, all alone with some sex with girls I don't see again. And I've always wanted to have a nice relationship and find a girl I can see myself marrying and having children in a big house. But you know the weird thing in life is that the more you want and value something the harder it's to get it - because you put more pressure on yourself not to screw up and you may start having less willingness to act.



So don't even think if she likes you.

Here's my easy "Does she like me?" guide:

- if she complies with you - she likes you
- if she's interested in you and is excited - she likes you
- If she goes on a date with you - she likes you
- if you kiss/make out - she likes you
- if she comes to your place - she likes you
- if you sleep together - she likes you



It's that simple.

IF a girl doesn't like you she won't go out with you on a date and she won't make out with you

 

[SteveUno]

Good points, bro. I read up more and more on this site all the time. I particularly like Ricardus' articles because he understands that some of us want to romance a woman and have a girlfriend. His ways of doing things are great. My game throughout my 20s was similar to the PUA game on here and to be honest, having a revolving door of women made me feel empty. I do want a meaningful relationship but I know that I have to keep my options open and never put any woman on a pedestal.

Thanks again for the help guys.

 

[Richard]

Steve, I typically hold a different model of picking up women, and tend to follow Ricardus's articles more heavily than Chase because as you said, Ricardus gears more towards romantics and the girlfriend nature than Chase does, but I respect the both of them. Anyhow, putting a girl on a pedestal isn't always a bad thing, it is before you develop a relationship with a girl, but not afterwards. When you know a girl is interested in you, and you have a romantic, relationship type interest in her, putting her on a pedestal will strengthen your ties with her, and allow you to bond more strongly than normal with her. However, I don't advise this with girls who are just lays, or girls who are just "whatevers," but I encourage this with women who are as interested in you as you are in them. In my own style of game, I only use abundance to weed out the "maybes" and "nos," and abundance allows you to look at a variety of women and find the one who matches you most.

 

[Achilles]

Anyhow, putting a girl on a pedestal isn't always a bad thing, it is before you develop a relationship with a girl, but not afterwards. When you know a girl is interested in you, and you have a romantic, relationship type interest in her, putting her on a pedestal will strengthen your ties with her, and allow you to bond more strongly than normal with her.

A women should never be put on a pedestal, even in a committed relationship. Otherwise, her attraction and respect towards you will dwindle.

Once in a committed relationship, she should help you grow as a person, which is why screening for the right qualities is so important. Using the concept of abundance will have you meeting plenty of women, and you can look for the qualities which make for a healthy relationship.
https://www.girlschase.com/content/choos ... ties-woman

The dynamics do change once you get serious with a woman. You can give more, and the relationship is less of a power struggle.
https://www.girlschase.com/content/how-m ... l-love-you
https://www.girlschase.com/content/how-b ... lationship
https://www.girlschase.com/content/how-s ... girlfriend

 

[Richard]

Achilles, thank you for pointing that out. I guess I tend to generalize things which are specific in my head while I'm writing, by relationship, I mean, as you stated, a serious relationship without the power struggle.