Hypothetically, how will game change if the girls were not so busy?

[sneaky_charm]

THIS IS BIZARRE. I'm kind of playing with an idea! And it's confusing me. So please read carefully and let me know your thoughts on it. Let us be confused together!

Suppose, girls in the US and other parts weren't so busy. Will the rules of game change then?

Let me explain by giving an example. Suppose, there is a beautiful girl who typically receives 5 - 10 text messages from guys she already knows from social circle. This girl never goes to bars or clubs. The guys in the city never do cold approach, and so she has no way of meeting other men except those met via social circle.

In such a situation, if you talked to this girl, and she gave you her number, you will happen to be the first stranger she gave out her number to.

What would be her expectations from you then?

Would you call or text her everyday? Because frankly, she does not have 20 unknown men hitting on her from the bar last night. She does not even have 1 complete stranger hitting on her other than you.

In that circumstance, would you relax being mysterious a bit too, revealing a lot about yourself to make her comfortable, showing vulnerability to connect, saying that you like talking to her etc. etc.?

Basically, what I'm asking is how will the rules of the game change if the girls were not too busy, and did not get approached by any man and did not have too many attractive social circle options either?

What will be the mindset of a girl in that situation toward a sexy stranger who happened to take her number within just 5 minutes of talking to her, which no one else ever did?

Will she auto reject a guy too soon if he didn't call her for 2 or 3 days? Would she feel distanced if the guy didn't reveal his personal info much? Would she feel neglected, thinking that the guy is unattainable if he did not praise or compliment her on a regular basis, hinting that he likes her? Would she feel strange if the guy only texted or called her to meet up personally, and never to just banter and know how she is doing?

- Kevin

 

[Drck]

It is all relative, it all depends... There are different styles, what doesn't work on one may work on another... Try to develope your style and stick to it no matter what she says or does.

She knows local guys but meets stranger who seem to be exciting, bold, perhaps mysterious.... Keep it that way. She knows lots of local boys, so you want to be "different", you don't want her to get to know you too much. Get advantage of the attraction, which as you know has expiration date. Keep mysterious but don't go overboard as she most likely keeps her feet on the ground.

I wouldn't try to make her too comfortable. She is comfortable around her friends. That is why she calls them friends and not lovers. But again, you don't want to overshoot with being too fast and too sexy, she may go quickly to autorejection.

Her mindset can change rapidly, there are many factors to it. You simply don't know and can't know how she will react. Sometimes 2-3 days is too long, other times not enough... If she is younger and less conservative, and also has lots of guys around, more than 3 days could be too long. If she is more conservative but you made great impression, 7 days won't make much difference. She may even remember you after many months...

What I'm trying to say is to stop worrying how she will react, what she says or does. Do your best and leave the rest on her. Just invite her out and see if she goes. If she is attracted she will easily go for date with you even after many weeks. If not, oh well, you won't change it no matter what you do...

 

[trashKENNUT]

sneaky_charm,

In such a situation, if you talked to this girl, and she gave you her number, you will happen to be the first stranger she gave out her number to.

What would be her expectations from you then?

Would you call or text her everyday? Because frankly, she does not have 20 unknown men hitting on her from the bar last night. She does not even have 1 complete stranger hitting on her other than you.

In that circumstance, would you relax being mysterious a bit too, revealing a lot about yourself to make her comfortable, showing vulnerability to connect, saying that you like talking to her etc. etc.?

Her expectations will vary. this happens in Asia more.

You can probably text more in Asia compared to the West (i assume US is more different). You would have a relax tone in Asia, because it's more to social circles than strangers. I remember texting a girl who is a friend of friend. She didn't knew me shit, but she went out with me and i text very little but the tone is relax.

But depends, Some girls just find you creepy if you text more than three events in one day.

Will she auto reject a guy too soon if he didn't call her for 2 or 3 days? Would she feel distanced if the guy didn't reveal his personal info much? Would she feel neglected, thinking that the guy is unattainable if he did not praise or compliment her on a regular basis, hinting that he likes her? Would she feel strange if the guy only texted or called her to meet up personally, and never to just banter and know how she is doing?

This can happen for Asian girls. There's adjustments for demographics. You need to know your setting, and adjust accordingly, whether the tone is more aggressive or more relax.

According to some girl, i watch a video, She said men in the US are timid. So yea... setting is key too.

Zac