I admit that I am broken, in a rut and need help.

[Indian Race Troll (IRT)]

I have no idea what it is but I know something is wrong with me, I really do. So as I am typing this post, I sit at a big cafe and at a big table. While I was typing I had my headphones in and there were open seats everywhere, these two girls sit on the table with me. One of them looks at me and smiles, the old me would have approached them but the new me, it is like my game is fucked. I cannot even begin to describe what is wrong other than the fact that something is wrong.

But I know one thing, I have a vision of a life but no way to know if I can make it happen or if it is even realistic.

I sometimes daydream about a life when I have a couple of cool friends and a revolving door of hot girls but then I wonder if that life is even realistic. I wonder if the window of opportunity for that life closed in college and now whether my choice is to get married or live the lonely PUA lifestyle.

It is like I am living a life with just dreams but no direction yet I wonder if I am just dreaming and if a direction even exists.

I think about approaching but what's the point? I did it for a year and none, nadda, nothing came of it. No good friends, no sex, no hot girls or anything like that. I have no cool social circle to hang out with, party with and get hot girls from and I wonder if I am living in the crowd.

If I am living in the clouds and dreaming, well then what? I mean what life do I have to live for if adulthood is just marriage with kids or wandering around lonely?

 

[Mike&Ikes]

Hey, PeachFrustration, I’m sorry that you’re going through a rough spot. Do you know what happened in between the “old you” and the “new you”? If it was just that you are not making progress, then I’d say you’ve hit a sticking point. It’s where you’ve hit a spot where you can’t get better, no matter what you try. The best way to find the problem is by troubleshooting, and you can’t do that by day dreaming. Whether you’re in a rut or not, you must keep approaching girls to at least diagnose your issue.

Please read this article by Chase, I think it will help you a lot:

https://www.girlschase.com/content/what-do-get-past-sticking-point

Do you think you might be depressed? Then read this article:

https://www.girlschase.com/content/how-overcome-depression

One thing I can tell you is a fact- you can only get better by trying to get better. Doing nothing will get you nothing- and worse.

Keep fighting
-Mike

 

[Seppuku]

Hey,

I sometimes daydream about a life when I have a couple of cool friends and a revolving door of hot girls but then I wonder if that life is even realistic. I wonder if the window of opportunity for that life closed in college and now whether my choice is to get married or live the lonely PUA lifestyle.

If I am living in the clouds and dreaming, well then what? I mean what life do I have to live for if adulthood is just marriage with kids or wandering around lonely?

What a bleak picture. You dismiss adulthood as "just marriage with kids" but kids will bring a lot of happiness, as well as a meaning to your life. You dismiss seduction as a "lonely PUA lifestyle", but seduction is a useful skill in itself. Once you harness it, it's up to you to decide what to do with it. It doesn't have to be the "Fuck girl. Next" loophole. It's all really up to you.

No! There is much more to life than this.

But you must understand that no one has a magic wand to turn your dreams into reality. And even if they did, they would be using this magic wand for themselves. It's human nature!

So you don't have any other choice than to shake yourself out of your day dreams, to stand up and go and build the life you want. No one else can. The amount of things you could be doing is just amazing. But you need the will!

Life doesn't end after college, it just starts! All possible roads are still wide opened. Find out which road appeals to you most, then do *everything* you can to get there. And you don't have to be terrified by choices. It is still possible to change roads later if you find out that you prefer another direction.

Move your ass. You need to act!

Seppuku
PS. And I have another message for you. It is *never* too late.

 

[trashKENNUT]

why...

why, what is it that really bothers you? more like a value system.... You need to help me by telling why you feel this certain way. Are you associating depressing life with PICK UP Artistry... I seen there's many entanglement.

LEt's remove one by one, but also replace your beliefs. I recognize you can't remove that thoughts (beliefs) yet.

Zac

 

[Zoro]

Sounds like you're in a similar situation that I have been in, except that I am a little further down the path you walk.

It's okay to take a step back from game and address other areas of your life, and it sounds like that is what you should do.

if you're having emotional issues, and having trouble understanding what is going on, I'd highly recommend getting that sorted out.

For me personally, I was and still am stuck in a pattern of avoidance and distraction. I blamed porn use and my current financial situation, yet it was more how I FELT about it that was doing the most damage. I have 2 friends in a similar situation that I am in, and they are dealing with it in their own ways, but still doing very well with women.

Everyone can benefit from sorting their baggage out, and it can take some real honesty and digging to do so.

I'd recommend meditation (the worst moments are when I stop doing it, and the best are when I'm practicing it often, it's funny that I stop at all)

I'd also recommend some way to establish stability in your life, like creating a healthy goal orientated routine. I'm starting this myself. I wake up, meditate, take a walk, then study, then do errands. At night I wind down with some visualization, gratitude exercises, and read (and put away screens).

You might want to sort out your priorities too. I definitely want to improve my dating life, but my current priorities are my emotional and physical health, so that I can tackle my financial and dating life with more vigor and enthusiasm. I'm even developing "systems" to tackle each of my goals with thought out plans and trackable progress. This is in contrast to getting blown around by my emotions and life.

Professional help might be called for too. I'm seeing a health coach, and he's the one that pointed out my emotional baggage as the root.

Since I've been doing these things, I feel better, and am more productive.

PS Seppuku is right. Life is how you make it and the fun doesn't "end" with old age. My dad's 50-something and has more fun than I do, owns his own business, and has multiple girlfriends. A few years ago he was in his own rut. SO MUCH can change, and will change. "This too shall pass" so make sure you're the one who directs that change by empowering yourself through good choices and healthy thinking.