"I already have a boyfriend"

[zqw 10k]

Hi guys,

So today I would like to ask the pros here what kind of reaction I can make to this, and if I should still continue (getting her number, kiss, etc)
I get this excuse very often, about 3 times out of 4. I think it's just some nice resistance that the girl has put up to test me, but I want to be sure of it.

I get these excuses too:
"I can't give you my number, I've got a really jealous boyfriend"
"I have a boyfriend, but don't worry you're cute and good looking so you'll find somebody!"

My reaction is often "oh too bad, have a nice day" and continue my search

Soo.. What's a better reaction to combat this excuse? And what "view" should I get on these regular relationships? I feel like all the guys here are jealous and ragey types that try to cut their girl of the world so she won't look elsewhere and by making her live in an perfect world illusion/fake dream to protect their own pride

 

[DavidEdge]

I get that too. I think you want to give them a reason why you want their number,something like " Let's trade cells. I want to keep in touch with you." something like that or you could smile and wink at her and ask her about her relationship with her Bf(deep dive). Remember, just because she is in a relationship does not means she is a virgin nun. Hope this helps.

 

[NarrowJ]

zq,

If a girl tells you she has a boyfriend, just say something like "well... thats cool, I'm not really looking for a girlfriend or anything like that right now anyway" and then up your sexual vibe a notch. This implicitly communicates to her that the boyfriend isn't an obstacle to you and that you guys can still get together and have some "fun" regardless. She'll get the hint.

Be careful though, I've known a few guys that have gotten into some messy situations going and hooking up with girls that are in relationships. Also, I'd feel it out a little because if she's happy you don't really want to mess with that. Know what I mean?

Hope that helps,
NJ

 

[Richard]

Davids avatar threw me for a second... was my old pic so I thought I replied... weird...

Anyway, something I picked up somewhere else was this:

Her: "I already have a boyfriend."
Me: "Yeah?" (pregnant pause)
Her: "Y..yy..yeahh.. Yes I'm happy with him."
Me: "Yeah, it seems like it." (With a sexy, knowing smile) and proceed normally...

I've used both this one and NJs advice, and both work well for different reasons, but they both work

 

[Eternity]

Are you deep diving correctly? Sometimes the b.f response is due to incorrect fundamentals( nervousness, bad body language, looking down ect...) and coming off too strong in the beginning, thus the response. Comfort building should be made first, before you make your interest apparent.
If i ever get the question i just say either "cool" or "lucky guy"and continue forward with deep diving and escalation. The advice above is very good too. I rarely hear this coming from a girl until someone else tells me she's dating someone and it leaves me surprised because they never mention it to my face directly. But i have also had practice with this type of girl before. Remember it's only a problem if you make it a problem. Use the advice above too it's very good.

What does your typical interaction look like?

 

[zqw 10k]

Thanks a lot for the responses guys!

I really like the ideas of NarrowJ and Zphix and I'll try them out next time I get the boyfriend excuse, if a girl is really happy with her boyfriend she would probably still not want to give her number which is good because I would never want to hurt a girl so I'll accept it if she persists in not giving her number

Eternity-
It could be because I deep dived some of them a bit quickly, I seem to get these excuses often when one of us is in a rush so I think it might be tied with not enough deep diving

Anyways thanks guys!

 

[Marty]

Mind-blowingly good advice here from NarrowJ and Zphix, and Eternity makes a good point too (Ricardus actually says this in one of his articles), so I'm posting to bump it as well as bookmark it for myself!