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I have been wanting to post this for a while now because a common piece of advice they give to guys is to:
We also have an after dinner drink spot they recommend
What I did.
I lucked out with a great lease in a building that is a luxury building that also throws events with free foods, drinks, and everything. Here is what I would do:
But here is what I actually found and how it stopped me from getting laid.
If you want a girlfriend or a monogamous relationship, having an active social life is great. However, if you are like me and looking to up your lay count, it actually works more against you than for you. Here are ways it does that.
Time.
The time you are spending going to brunches, lunches, and socializing with your crew is time being taken away from cold approaching, going on dates, and actually talking to net new women who might be into you. You only get so many hours in the day.
Judgment.
I have had the chance to talk to a number of people, especially women, and let's just say that the hookup and casual sex lifestyle is frowned upon. A ton of women complaining about f-ckboys and everything. Sleeping around with social circle women is risky because you are constantly on watch for status. Which is why in social circle, people just get into LTRs and that is that.
A part of me also notices that since Miami is only so big, I run into my social circle women when out and about doing daygame. My excuse when I approach is "oh that was an old high school classmate and I was catching up". But, after a while, you feel like you have to choose. If you want to Game and get laid, you are going to have to pick between one or the other.
Mindset.
This is something I actually talked to @Skills about on my nightgame thread but mentally, it is HARD to go from "social guy who is sitting and chatting with his friends over brunches, dinners, etc." to "cold approacher with a hunter mindset that talks to the hottest girl at the bar". I have found this with a handful of guys in Michael Sartain's programs that I have spoken with but they never really cold approach. I even went to Babes In Toyland events that Sartain threw and it was:
The truth about Michael Sartain and Men Of Action.
I have had the chance to meet Sartain as well as some MOA students. Most of them are actually cool guys compared to RSD students who lack social skills and are just approach machines. A lot of Sartain's students know how to give value and my interactions with them have been pleasant. However, the reality is that what Sartain advertises as "Social Circle Game" is not really social circle game. Most Social Circle Game is what I described above, or just social circles in general.
What Sartain is actually doing is called Status Game and very few guys can pull that off. Most of his students are not getting laid all that much. The only one I know here in Miami who gets great results is this one tall buff Black guy of African background who was running a mix of top tier IG and Club Promoter game. He has since moved to NYC last I heard.
Having a top tier and socially proofed IG is the goal and I do see the benefits of it with women here in Miami. However, the bar is so high since every guy is now trying to do that. The thing with high status is that it is all relative. So if the status of every guy in the room is a 7 and one guy is a 9, the 9 is high status and the guys who are 7s are low status.
Conclusion.
Building a great social life was great for me mentally since last year, I was in a rut. It got me out of being a hermit and I met some amazing people. This is why I think everyone should build a social life to some degree and have some friends. However, do not think it will help you get laid. Have some balance. Find a handful of good friends you can chill with here and there but make time for actual Game and going out.
- Build a social circle
- Make a ton of friends
- You can get girls out of your league with social circle game
We also have an after dinner drink spot they recommend
What I did.
I lucked out with a great lease in a building that is a luxury building that also throws events with free foods, drinks, and everything. Here is what I would do:
- Go to Timeleft dinners
- Get everyone's IGs
- Have dinners/events with the groups I did click well with
- Invite said groups to building events
But here is what I actually found and how it stopped me from getting laid.
If you want a girlfriend or a monogamous relationship, having an active social life is great. However, if you are like me and looking to up your lay count, it actually works more against you than for you. Here are ways it does that.
Time.
The time you are spending going to brunches, lunches, and socializing with your crew is time being taken away from cold approaching, going on dates, and actually talking to net new women who might be into you. You only get so many hours in the day.
Judgment.
I have had the chance to talk to a number of people, especially women, and let's just say that the hookup and casual sex lifestyle is frowned upon. A ton of women complaining about f-ckboys and everything. Sleeping around with social circle women is risky because you are constantly on watch for status. Which is why in social circle, people just get into LTRs and that is that.
A part of me also notices that since Miami is only so big, I run into my social circle women when out and about doing daygame. My excuse when I approach is "oh that was an old high school classmate and I was catching up". But, after a while, you feel like you have to choose. If you want to Game and get laid, you are going to have to pick between one or the other.
Mindset.
This is something I actually talked to @Skills about on my nightgame thread but mentally, it is HARD to go from "social guy who is sitting and chatting with his friends over brunches, dinners, etc." to "cold approacher with a hunter mindset that talks to the hottest girl at the bar". I have found this with a handful of guys in Michael Sartain's programs that I have spoken with but they never really cold approach. I even went to Babes In Toyland events that Sartain threw and it was:
- Guys taking pics with models
- Guys being led by Sartain to take pics with models
The truth about Michael Sartain and Men Of Action.
I have had the chance to meet Sartain as well as some MOA students. Most of them are actually cool guys compared to RSD students who lack social skills and are just approach machines. A lot of Sartain's students know how to give value and my interactions with them have been pleasant. However, the reality is that what Sartain advertises as "Social Circle Game" is not really social circle game. Most Social Circle Game is what I described above, or just social circles in general.
What Sartain is actually doing is called Status Game and very few guys can pull that off. Most of his students are not getting laid all that much. The only one I know here in Miami who gets great results is this one tall buff Black guy of African background who was running a mix of top tier IG and Club Promoter game. He has since moved to NYC last I heard.
Having a top tier and socially proofed IG is the goal and I do see the benefits of it with women here in Miami. However, the bar is so high since every guy is now trying to do that. The thing with high status is that it is all relative. So if the status of every guy in the room is a 7 and one guy is a 9, the 9 is high status and the guys who are 7s are low status.
Conclusion.
Building a great social life was great for me mentally since last year, I was in a rut. It got me out of being a hermit and I met some amazing people. This is why I think everyone should build a social life to some degree and have some friends. However, do not think it will help you get laid. Have some balance. Find a handful of good friends you can chill with here and there but make time for actual Game and going out.
