I cant help helping

[thulani826]

hi guys,

I'm dating this girl and she is in dire need of help , a damsel in distress, she needs special attention.

she doesn't have any sources of money because there are no more jobs due to Corona virus , she's tried doing business but its failed , her parents dont are about her , and I seem to be to only one giving a shit about her.

I'm not really supposed to be giving her financial assistance but I can help it , I feel bad for her , she's a good lady , but she's just so broke . she now to pay her rent , and her being completely broke ,I was forced to say I will help . I tried to shut my mouth and resist but she began to cry to me about how her family doesn't care and her rent is due . I just couldn't resist.

should I be doing g this , is ther another way to help this girl other than providing , because business has clearly failed her

 

[Train]

It's a tough situation. But I would examine a couple of things:

1. Why are you helping her? Check your motives. Do they align with your actions? Sounds like you had some initial resistance here to helping her with money.
2. Can you help without much risk to your financial situation? It's sad but it's also not your problem. There are people out there that will prey on your guilt and good feelings to for their selfish gains. Be mindful of this.
3. Check if there are resources you can refer her to that provide shelter, food, etc.
4. Your life is important too. Your financial stability matters. Make sure your situation is solid before helping others. And be mindful of people that look to leech from you.

It's easy for me to say, but within this limited context, I would not help them. I would only help my family or people really close to me THAT won't drag me down with them. Is she in this category?