I did not realize location was this important!! (good news and an update)

[Indian Race Troll (IRT)]

I had recently posted about how I was not having success with the girls I wanted to have success with. As you can tell by my name, one of the first PUAs I had started to follow was DJ Fuji because like me, he is Asian. I am a Korean American male who has been described as good looking by my circle (people say I look like actor Daniel Henney who is only half Korean) but I was not having as much success here in the dixie. At my college here most of the girls are either White and the rest are Black, we do have small amounts of other races present. My problem is that I am attracted to White girls due to being more exposed to them growing up but I am not into Black girls unless they look mixed so my hands were pretty much tied. Interracial dating here in the dixie involving White girls with any minority group (except for black guys but that is due to high numbers of both groups and even then it isn't that common in college settings) is mostly unheard of and still very taboo, even among the younger generation. I have tried to break the mold but often it was met with rude comments and alienation of people. Most girls (read: White girls) here openly showed their opposition to dating anyone that wasn't White.

Then the past week I went to visit a friend of mines who works in Seattle, Washington. The city was in a good mood since the Seahawks won their first Superbowl not too long ago. It is like I was in a completely different world.

I managed to get with a woman who looked a lot like Cobie Smulders. It was as if we clicked the second we met and it all went smoothly. The girl was my type and in the dixie I could not even imagine getting with a woman like that. The sad part is that time passed by so fast. Seattle is somewhat underrated, I mean it doesn't have as many hot girls as Miami but it does have a decent number of hot girls, way better than New Orleans or Atlanta.

Something else that just blew my mind is that I saw so many Asians and minorities holding hands with girls who were White in public. I saw guys who looked worse than I did with girls that were hotter than any of the girls I had ever been with. You don't even see this kind of stuff often in New Orleans or any of the bigger cities down in the dixie. I can't believe no one has touched on this yet or even mentioned it as much, only wish I would have found out about it sooner.

 

[Eternity]

Yep. Women are like real estate. it's all about location. I love it when hot blondes with blue eyes look at me like they want to fuck me. It's all about finding the right girl and right place to make things run how you want them to run.

 

[Indian Race Troll (IRT)]

Yep. Women are like real estate. it's all about location. I love it when hot blondes with blue eyes look at me like they want to fuck me. It's all about finding the right girl and right place to make things run how you want them to run.

We have plenty of those in Louisiana and across the Dixie but not for one second will they want anything to do with a guy that isn't "American" (read: White or in some cases Black) as they like to say. I cannot believe no material out there has touched on this, I always thought it was entirely me but apparently people on the west coast seem a lot more open minded, assuming that is where you live.

 

[Eternity]

Nope. Live in the Midwest. Met plenty of hot blondes who liked me even if i wasn't white. I seem only to attract this type of girl mostly, no joke. Not a lot of latinas or black girls eye me the way these type of girls do. I attract what i desire in a girl. In school, i always seemed to attract the hottest girl there, even if the other attractive ones did not looked at me the same way. I find it very difficult to believe not one white girl in your school looks at you. Isolate them and you'll see a difference i bet.

 

[Indian Race Troll (IRT)]

Depending on where you are in the midwest it can be a world of a difference, upper midwest is not anything like the lower midwest and the midwest is far less racist than the dixie. I have heard of friends visiting the Mall of America and seeing plenty of interracial couples there. One of my friends is a Mexican guy that moved to Wisconsin and he is dating a White girl but he had his issues where I live.

Where I live it is not common at all and it is a major issue. Now you might have a point that there might be one girl at my college that is my type and into me but I have not been able to find her. I am talking about the majority and a vast majority are rude to me or just unreceptive and I do not want to put myself through the embarrassment anymore as I have done that enough.

When I was in Seattle I did not have to do that at all. I think someone who has lived in an area of America where interracial dating is an issue and most people seem to hate anyone that is even a bit different might be able to give their opinion on it. Now what I have noticed is that you can live a good life here in the dixie as long as you stick to your own group, as a male of a foreign background, going after girls who are White, American, and somewhat decent looking here is a lost cause from what I have experienced after doing over 100s of approaches and trying my luck. Sure girls from minority backgrounds stick to me like glue but there is just something about Southern White Women who look decent that makes them dislike the idea of dating anyone that looks even slightly foreign.

That and there is the obesity issue here. A lot of women suffer from obesity and the few that don't end up having high bitch shields because they are the select few who aren't fat and look somewhat decent.

If there are players here who have done well in the dixie then I would love to hear their stories because I have not seen much success here after trying everything in the playbook and racism is a major issue when you want to go interracial. It just doesn't happen here unless it is in the lower income areas.

 

[Eternity]

Not much i can tell you to change your beliefs as one state cannot be 100% racist as u claim. But ,i guess, u can keep an eye out for a girl to give you IOI's and try to talk to her when she's alone. That or move out of state to improve and see results. I bet there's someone who's had some success with these girls but you don't see this. Probably because he goes under the radar and seduces in that manner. Perhaps it's time to go incognito and game these girls stealthily. Maybe you will have to settle being the secret lover for the time being. I can see that if you fucked up bad with one girl it would spread to certain cliques in school but i do not know how big your school is to be certain. Work on your fundamentals and approach, my guess is there is some animosity or bitterness when u talk to these girls, they sense this and project what you feel inside towards you. Maybe other areas are better to game your type and see your confidence grow before u can get better with these girls.

 

[Indian Race Troll (IRT)]

I would not compare the Southern states to the Midwest, sure states like Oklahoma and Missouri might have something in common with them but Wisconsin, Minnesota, Ohio, and Illinois are in no ways like them when it comes to demographics and race relations. The OP wants White girls, well that is going to be tough for him there because

1. Most southern states have more Black women than White women and the White population is not that large.
2. Assuming OP wants a decent looking White girl, that region of America also has the highest obesity rates (number 25% or higher).
3. It is more close minded as a region overall.

When I went to visit my cousin in Atlanta years ago it was a culture shock. I am originally from the Midwest where almost every person is White, in Atlanta I would say more than half of the population was Black. Not that it is a bad thing but I found that in the White crowd there was more of a willingness to segregate and stick to their own kind than anywhere else. When the topic of interracial dating came up a lot of people expressed their disagreement with it, I talked to a young southern belle in her early 20s who told me she disagrees with the idea of it and thinks only people that cannot find decent partners of their own race would "stoop that low". I smiled and tried to play along while on the inside I was surprised to see people still think that way, that girl was in a sorority at her college btw.

It was rare in the midwest for that kind of an idea to run through a younger girl's mind but down there everyone seemed to think along the same lines.

The bigger problem is if you are trying to be a player there, the strong religious belief shun the idea of sleeping around and it is not taken kindly to at all. If OP was aiming for a long term relationship he might have a shot but one night stands with White girls? Most White guys down there couldn't get that. It is just a very conservative type of culture and since OP is in college where image is even more important. That part of the country is terrible for any minority that wants to date cute White girls, OP would probably be better off in Eastern Europe where racism does exist but you do see cute girls with guys that are not White.

 

[Eternity]

Agree with the last part if you want to fuck them it might be somewhat easier than dating them because of nosy parents, friends, family. I'm sure there is a southern belle who wants to break the conservative mindset she was raised in and wants to fuck other types of dudes. They just don't show it, that's all. Even then bro, your game has to be tight to coax her into sleeping with you and breaking off into trying something new. Question is: How tight is your game?

 

[Indian Race Troll (IRT)]

I don't think you really understood what I was saying, OP's situation probably sucks not just because he is a minority, but also because of other factors. He wants to game hot White girls, most southern states are around 50 % Black and in a lot of areas you will find more Black women than White women. Now for the hot White girls part, this is where the obesity rate kicks in, check any statistic, around 40 percent of the people being obese in a state like Mississippi. So now not only is he in a situation where most of the girls he runs into aren't White, but fuckable girls are harder to find. You have to go to a state like Mississippi, Alabama, or most of Louisiana outside of New Orleans to see how it is compared to California, the midwest, or even most of the Northeast. Now say OP does run into these hot White girls, he needs to overcome more barriers through other ways:

1. Become a Christian and go to church
2. Get involved in the community
3. Do not go around trying any of the PUA material on the girls there

It requires a different kind of approach to have a nice love life there and even then the whole sleeping around idea is looked down upon more so than anywhere else. The area is its own little unique region that only someone who has been there can understand

 

[Eternity]

I understood bro. OP states there are hot white girls in his college not him trying to do street pickup in the area. I suggested to be alert to the most minute IOI's from any hot white girls and try to isolate and escalate into fucking her. He might have to settle being the secret lover because of the sensitivity of these girls banging guys from other minorities. But even if he had tight game, his limiting beliefs will hold him back until he finds success with one and build confidence from there. You make it seem like the whole state is racist against minorities but i'm sure there is one girl who thinks differently, though in secret. I'm not advising him to date these girls just try to fuck them to build some confidence. He can date a girl without those negative beliefs anywhere else in the country that is more open minded but he needs experience to shed his limiting beliefs.

 

[PinotNoir]

Per the OP, I completely agree. I went to Boston last year and loved it. And, it wasn't just about location.... it was also about transportation! Everyone uses the subway or walks. It's a great way to meet a lot of hot women, especially since that's the main means of transportation (everyone's almost required to do it).

Now say OP does run into these hot White girls, he needs to overcome more barriers through other ways:

1. Become a Christian and go to church
2. Get involved in the community
3. Do not go around trying any of the PUA material on the girls there

It requires a different kind of approach to have a nice love life there and even then the whole sleeping around idea is looked down upon more so than anywhere else.

Yes, I'd say that it's different here in the south (I live in the south), but I've never lived anywhere else, so I don't have much to compare it with.

However, I definitely disagree with your statements. I turned away from Christianity (and all religion) at the age of 13. I'm not involved in the community. Also, day gaming is even better because it's so rarely done.

Granted, there will be a lot of women that won't date you because of religion, but there's a lot of women that won't date you because of X or Y or Z too. I've learned to just always say it nonchalantly with confidence.

"So you go to church?"
"Nah, I'm not religious. So tell me more about...."

No big deal.

Mainly, religion incompatibility hurts when it comes to a committed relationship. Plenty of girls will date you though.

Lastly, there are a good bit of non-Christians and "loose" women at clubs/bars. You just have to find them. And, don't forget that all girls are secretly naughty (Read Chase's recent article.) It's definitely true if you ever create a strong female friendship with a conservative girl and end up talking with her about her desires with a completely non-judgmental attitude.

The only thing that really sucks for me is the opposite of the OP. For the past year, I've been on an Asian kick. (Every year or so, I tend to prefer some different type of woman, be it white brunette or blonde or mixed or whatever.) However, I'm finding it really hard to find single Asian women; I've even gone to all of the local Asian markets in my neighborhood. This is either due to true scarcity, or I'm just not looking in the right places. Either way, it's super annoying. And, I do see Asian guys having a hard time with white women in my area just like the OP; I think this is mainly due to bad stereotypes and height. Luckily, there's a white woman everywhere to try flirting with....

I think you may have better luck with girls outside of college. White women in particular can be quite cliquish in college (at least in the south). I really suggest trying day game at shops, on the street, etc. instead and see if you get any better results.