I Don't Get This and It's Pissing Me Off

[ramirezs316]

So I chatted with this really hot girl on pof. She's a type I am usually unable to strike up a conversation with so I wanted to be top of my game. We chatted for about two days and I got her intrigued but she disappeared before I could grab a number. She shows up this week, so I shoot her a message. She responds immediately with "hey, sorry, I was out of town. How are you?" After some quick game, I ask her "I'm looking to grab a drink with a lovely and interesting woman. You in?" She responds "Yes I am but it will have to be tomorrow or the next day because I go out of town after that."

"I think I can fit you into my schedule lol" I say and get her number and text her a little bit later. She responds "Hi babe " and asks me how I am. I say "Fantastic. I'm thinking we could grab a drink tomorrow." Now she's in another town one hour away and I only know a few bars in the area, so I need to know where she is to pick a good place that's close to where she lives. So I ask: "What part of ___ do you live btw?" She tells me "Near ___." So after an hour of scoping out locations, I decide on a place I've been to that's only 20 min from where she is and I text her "How about we grab a drink at ____ at 9?"

No answer that night. So the next day, I shoot her another text at around noon. Then at about 6 I decide to leave her a voice message: "Hey, ___. Its ____. I'm seeing if you might be able to fit me in your schedule haha (or something like that). Let me know what's up."

No response and today she deleted her profile. Was this just a typical flake. My pof chats and texts seemed damn efficient and fast. No bullshit and I planned the date fast. I feel like I made all the right, quick moves and I still got nowhere. Now I don't know how to proceed. Any thoughts?

 

[trashKENNUT]

ramirez,

No answer that night. So the next day, I shoot her another text at around noon. Then at about 6 I decide to leave her a voice message: "Hey, ___. Its ____. I'm seeing if you might be able to fit me in your schedule haha (or something like that). Let me know what's up."

No response and today she deleted her profile. Was this just a typical flake. My pof chats and texts seemed damn efficient and fast. No bullshit and I planned the date fast. I feel like I made all the right, quick moves and I still got nowhere. Now I don't know how to proceed. Any thoughts?

It's a typical flake, and you reward her bad behavior by texting her the next day. Some girls are like that, not every girl will flake but a decent amount. There was a slight neediness in you asking her to fit you in her schedule. Don't do that.

Zac

 

[ramirezs316]

ramirez,

No answer that night. So the next day, I shoot her another text at around noon. Then at about 6 I decide to leave her a voice message: "Hey, ___. Its ____. I'm seeing if you might be able to fit me in your schedule haha (or something like that). Let me know what's up."

No response and today she deleted her profile. Was this just a typical flake. My pof chats and texts seemed damn efficient and fast. No bullshit and I planned the date fast. I feel like I made all the right, quick moves and I still got nowhere. Now I don't know how to proceed. Any thoughts?

It's a typical flake, and you reward her bad behavior by texting her the next day. Some girls are like that, not every girl will flake but a decent amount. There was a slight neediness in you asking her to fit you in her schedule. Don't do that.

Zac

Well, she would take a long time to message back on pof and I would have to send multiple messages (which I've had to do with texting too before) but fair point. The voice message was a callback to a joke I had made. I thought I came off pretty sexy but who knows. I just get baffled at these girl who are buying what I'm selling and then one hour later, they're not anymore. I don't get it. I ran the best online game I ever have with her and my texts were pretty solid. She's working the world cup, so she's not gonna be back for two weeks. Any point in trying to keep this one going? Chase's article on flakes says you can send a message helpfully giving her an excuse (like "I guess you go tied up, your phone died, etc.) but I don't know if that applies here.

 

[trashKENNUT]

Chase's article on flakes says you can send a message helpfully giving her an excuse (like "I guess you go tied up, your phone died, etc.) but I don't know if that applies here.

I think it's better you contact her after the world cup, since that joke you made to her didn't turn out so well. In her mind, you trying to contact her during the world cup. Everyone is kind of watching/going to the world cup. So if you deciding to date her instead, it means you don't "get it".

Zac

 

[ramirezs316]

Chase's article on flakes says you can send a message helpfully giving her an excuse (like "I guess you go tied up, your phone died, etc.) but I don't know if that applies here.

I think it's better you contact her after the world cup, since that joke you made to her didn't turn out so well. In her mind, you trying to contact her during the world cup. Everyone is kind of watching/going to the world cup. So if you deciding to date her instead, it means you don't "get it".

Zac

Yeah I figured I'd just wait and not try to get a response while she's in another country lol. Her coming back will also give me some meat for the text. I don't expect much though. She had given me a short window anyway and that was already more than I expected. Thanks.

 

[Franco]

ramirez,

Zac gave you some good advice, but one more thing to keep in mind too is that this is exactly how online game is. There is no "perfect" game for it that gives you tons of girls. It's a LOT of work for very little return, but the returns are there if you're able to deal with the excessive effort.

My roommate uses online game almost every single night (via Tinder or OkCupid), but he doesn't invest a lot of his mental effort into it so that he doesn't get upset when he doesn't get results. He also realizes it's a numbers game and literally just adds matches like crazy because he knows all it takes is ONE girl to be interested and ready to meet up to make it all worth it. You have to be much more outcome independent using online game because, chances are with most girls, there really is no outcome!

- Franco